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how to be above this frustration 39.3 > 8

Hello everybody.
My mother is passive aggressive towards me always at some point.

How to stay invincible/unreachable for her attitude? I got 39.3 > 8
She's my mother and it's like the strongest familial connection, and it would devastate me if I stop relating to her - but how to keep things nice if whenever I feel happy and have my things going well - she is either critical or sarcastic or incurring sense of guilt for minor things..

Now it speaks of inferior people and their influence. Does it mean I should put some sort of a friendly
outside barrier or who does Yi refer to?

Have you dealt with this 8 line before?
 
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You need to connect with others more perhaps so that she becomes less important, or at least her views become less important to you. Hexagram 8 asks you to find what you belong with. 39 shows one struggling on quite a lonely route. So rather than thinking about ways to erects barriers from her just move on to connect more with those who will support your development.

I think 39.3 is advising you what not to do. Don't think in terms of defending yourself from her, rather seek more allies and connections that will support you. Then you will have the support you need independently of her and if she is critical of you it won't affect you so much.
 

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Thanks a lot Trojina! Indeed I've been struggling alone trying to understand her and being very attached,
despite her disapprovals and guilt trips...
The question of completely closing off to her was scary at first but as she doesn't seem to change her
attitude - I should really move on - its' really sucking all my energy...:(
 

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I asked to be shown an image of my family, and I got the exact same result you did!!
I don't think the interpretation goes the same at all, but I find that really cool.
Hm, well. That's not quite so. I got this line because I did what you were intending to do -- be unreachable. I went, as indicated in line 3, and it did lead to obstruction. I am currently in the process of "turning back". But since you haven't gone anywhere yet, I agree with trojina that this is a line that indicates what you shouldn't do. Avoid going. Instead, stay where you are. Would speak on this more because I know the line indicates more, but that would just be me following trojina, not giving you real advice from what I've known.
 
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Thanks a lot Trojina! Indeed I've been struggling alone trying to understand her and being very attached,
despite her disapprovals and guilt trips...
The question of completely closing off to her was scary at first but as she doesn't seem to change her
attitude - I should really move on - its' really sucking all my energy...:(

I wasn't suggesting you close off to her but that you cultivate other relationships that are more supportive so that her criticism bothers you less.
 

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8. Union.
The kings of antiquity bestowed the different states as fiefs and cultivated friendly relations with the feudal lords.
-Wilhelm

This brings to mind the importance of there being boundaries between people in order that there can then be relations between them. Good fences make good neighbors.

39.3
Going leads to obstruction.
Hence he turns back.
-Wilhelm

Don't go there.

How to stay unreachable from her attitude? Don't go there. Refuse to engage when she is in one of her negative moods. Stay in your own territory. Cultivate friendly relationships - that is, when she is in a good mood make more of it. Accentuate the positive. Say something to note it like, "I love it when we're both feeling good!" or "I love it when we can share a laugh."
 

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How to stay unreachable from her attitude?

8. Union.
The kings of antiquity bestowed the different states as fiefs and cultivated friendly relations with the feudal lords.
-Wilhelm

This brings to mind the importance of there being boundaries between people in order that there can then be relations between them. Good fences make good neighbors.

39.3
Going leads to obstruction.
Hence he turns back.
-Wilhelm

When she's being negative, don't go there. Refuse to engage when she is in one of her negative moods. Stay in your own territory.

8. Cultivate friendly relationships - that is, when she is in a good mood make more of it. Accentuate the positive. Say something to note it like, "I love it when we're both feeling good!" or "I love it when we can share a laugh."
 

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Themulberrytree, wow! This is something. As if Yi knows how to answer the very similar situations..Wow...

Rosada, thank you. I like the word territory- like we have our own spaces so to say - that do not necessarily need to cross. I should refrain from any form of adversity, and yes, Trojina I got what you were advising, (closing off is what I intended to do first myself)..But your advice will balance me out, turn from focus on her to union with others. (What is being done now too, thank you guys for help <3)))

:blush:
 

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