how to respond

[Hepzibah]

it was a delicate public situation where I had to make split decisions to minimise or damage limit the effects of another persons behaviour. I don't want to say more as this is a public forum. I made very discrete and subtle decisions and I truly felt I handled the situation vey very well and that it all passed on peacefully. however although the other said 'thanks' etc I felt that the other person was very angry and even subtly blaming me for what I felt were very discrete decisions. we have not spoken about the event at all.I was really hurt by that as I was in a difficult public situation created by the other person.last night I had a dream about 2 people whom I thought got on really really well but the woman called a halt to the relationship and the man agreed. I was shocked in the dream that this had happened but them in the dream it said that both would be very sorry about this halt later on.Anyway this morning the other person sent a text saying sorry. I don't know whether to just forget it and not bother with the other person any more. whether to forget it, say nothing and continue as on as if nothing happened or whether to say why I felt angry after having done all I could.I asked yi how to respond to the text and received 48.4.6 TO 44.It seems a much more positive reading than I expected. I was expecting 'stripping away' etc. Anyways I feel .4 may be saying some inner work required as on one cannot drink from the well while its being lined . then .6 may be saying be sincere and truthful (that's a direct answer to my question), it may also be suggesting to find a new well. hmmmmThe fact that the well and coupling are in the background seems positive...would really appreciate any insights,Hepzibah

 

[Freedda]

Hepzibah:

Taking a quick look, it seems that this encounter may have touched on some core issue or issues for you? There is nothing wrong with that, but it may not be the same for the other person. There's no judgement - just that different things push each of our different buttons. Also, people are different in how they resolve things and in their need to talk or work things through.

Given that, I'd ask: is the issue resolved, at least for now? (I am not sure, but it seems that the other person has apologized and maybe is aware of how they acted?)

Perhaps then it might be best to 'abstain' from pursuing this issue more right now? And maybe as Cyrille Javary says, it might be time to 'Welcome the Yin' - to see if there's a place for tolerance, gentleness, and patience in how you continue to look at this.

Just one quick take. Best, David.

 

[Hepzibah]

Ok David maybe you are right . Maybe I’ll just let this go . Look at the night sky �� .. yes am happy to move on thank you