I don't really understand my sister

[Pearlescent]

I have a sister who I met a few years ago from another mother. We got along well at first but as time went on I feel unsure about where we stand with each other, we dont talk very much, but she once in a while will interact with me online. I just wanted to know

How Does she feel about me? 29.2.4.5


What does she want from me? 56.2.5.6


How should I be toward her? 22

I remember that it is said its not reccommended to ask what other people think or feel, so I think ultimately the last reading is the most important.. Does it mean I need to be outwardly pleasant with her? 22, what you see is what you get? I have a hard time understanding this hexagram. Thanks for looking

 

[chiachia]

Hi!
Maybe the exagram means that you have to be kind but still in "surface". Exagram 22 has to do with the appearance, the form, something which is not deep. But in the text of 22 is written that the wise man know that this way (the appearance's way) is just a step, a begin, not the right to have full success.

So, If I were you, I would try at the beginning to be polite with she, interested in her life but not intrusive without many expectations ... The exagram 29 in your first question, seems to show that she may feel you as a danger ... Begin to the form in order to get the substance and a beautiful relation with she, as I wish!

 

[sooo]

Also, it helps to include your changed/resulting/relating hexagram. In your first reading I think that is 16. My impression is that she is somehow rattled by you still, perhaps threatened by you.

I think she wants you to be non-judgmental, not just of her but of the entire matter of your heritage. My guess is she doesn't like confrontation, including discussing too deeply the details or even your depth of feelings.

Which matches 22 in the sense of keeping it light, not intense.

 

[Pearlescent]

Thank you Chia and Soooo, you've both helped me to understand how to take the 22 approach with her. I did have a feeling she might feel threatened by me or some other negative emotions but I don't know why. I'm not sure if I could have done anything differently. It is a bit of a relief to hear your interpretations which confirm my intuition. i thought that maybe I was projecting my own insecurities on her somehow, and I'm sure that's still a possibility, but now I understand that the fear isn't all me. And that is a relief, thank you both. I will from now on be outwardly kind to her with no expectations. This was very helpful to me, thanks you both!