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I had a really horrible time in the several few months-since September actually-I broke up with my boyfriend that I was dating for 2 years because I felt (and I still do) that we don't belong together, I found out that my father is sick (he has cancer actually). But finally in October I met someone to whom I was instantly attracted and I hoped that I might have a little bit of luck in love finally, and that I am going to get something positive after all those horrible things that happened. Well, I was wrong-I started dating him and he was still in love with his ex he met after 3 years of not communicating with her, and he was pretty depressed about that, and during the time we were together it was clear that he cares for me but that he doesn't love me. He was not treating me the way I wanted (or that any other normal girl would like) and sometimes he was pretty insensitive and basicly I was his mean for recovery and to feel less depressed. I started to feel really awfull (+ the fact that things were not going well in my life beside him as I sad on begining) and I told him that I am not content with the way he acts and that I want better relationship between the two of us. That hasn't changed his behaviour actually-but he still didn't want to leave either, so I realised that it's time for me to make that decison. By that time I was really feeling awfull.After one relay bad fight we agreed that we can't be together. I sad to him that I will not contact him anymore (because I usually don't stay best friends with my ex boyfriends-and he is o.o. and very friendly with his ex-girlfriends) He accepted that and I finally tought that things are over-I wasn't happy about it but it was the only way. Than he calls again, after seven days and he want's to see me- in a friendly way. I sad to myself o.k. let's see how this will turn out (I ching sad that it's a bad idea
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) but the chemistry was too strong so we ended up having sex (uh, I feel so stupid when I read this). We were seeing eachother for another 2 months and we agreed that it will be over when one of us meets someone else. Well, he did and he sad so, and even than tried to have me as back up because he was't shure how things will turn out with his new girlfriend. I wasn't thrilled and I sad no-of course.In those last 10 dfays when we tried to really be o.k. and just friendly he said some things to mee that I was unable to overcome: for example that I end up having sex too soon regarding the fact I want relationship?! He asked me advice about a problem with his current girlfrien-and when I was telling my opinion on it he said that i can't make conclusions based on the way he trated me because he acts differently toward her?!!! That was the final drop in the see, so I sad to him that we cant' be friends (like we ever were?!) and I went my own way. Unfortunatelly I meet him very often, and it really hurts. Even yesterday on valentine day I met him twice!!! I feel like god is playing mean games with me. So I finally asked Yi jing: what does the future of our relationship (mine and his) looks like for the next 3 months? I've got 2 with no changing lines. Please can I get your opininon on the reading? Soory for all the errors I've made writing this, but I am working now, so I don't have time to be careful about my english
 

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Hi Sirix, I'm sorry you feel devastated. To me it seems such a clear cut case of walk away from this guy and don't look back I don't even think you need to ask the Yi - but I know its so hard to think straight when your're involved deeply with someone.

If you were looking at this situation from the outside and it was happening to your best friend what would you tell her ? My opinion FWIW, is that you know deep down you are being treated pretty badly. At best he is insensitive, at worst a tad sadistic - to ask your advice on his new girl, then say its invalid cos he treats her different to you, I mean and this is after he just slept with you ? (BTW doesn't seem like hes into fidelity much does it ? Not to his new girl anyway) Mmm thats just my own opinion..just keep walking and don't look back.

But what does 2 unchanging mean in this context ?
I would normally take it to be purely receptive, not to take initiative but welcome approach..it does speak of losing friends in the north though.

However I personally don't think its a great idea to be receptive at all to this guy - er so on this occasion I either don't get the message or I simply disagree with it. I think it is more likley to be the former, so I shall await enlightenment from other forum members.

Meanwhile please don't despair.
 

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Actually if we take hex 2 more in terms of your actual question about how things will be in the next 3 months, it could be saying simply that you are going to very receptive to him, come whenever he calls - oh no !
 

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As I said-I feel like a fool! Especially because I'm 25, not 16! I usually can't be easily manipulated or taken advatage of - but it happened. I'm devastated because I still can't belive that I misjudged that person completely. Void:It's not about him calling me again-he knows that it's not the best idea. I play nice only because I bealive that it's the best solution for that kind of a person-showing how angry I am would make him feel better actually.
My first idea about this ex is: beeing cool, doing nothing, live jour own life, be persitant in your own life don't influence the life of others. Some people will stop being part of your life but new persons will join you. Let it flow naturaly. Basicly forget about situation that bothers you and be receptive for new things.
I was confused because it was without changing lines, and sometimes some hex completely change their message because of that. For example I asked are we going to be together (earlier-when I din't know how things will come out) and I got 11 with no changing lines! It's usually a good omen-but this time it probably said to me that the small departs (and small was actually him).
Once again I feel really folish, but I am very angry at him-so I'm pretty close to feeling better. As they say, there are 3 stages: beeing sad, being angry and recovery!Right now I'm angry at him and I'm angry because I want to meet someone new (I'm a little bit impatient as a person) but I restrict myself because I know things would not turn out cause I'm still not completely cool about everything that happened with him.
 
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Hi Sirix

I had found that, when the question is a "predictive" one, mathematical method is more accurate than "text analysis" method.

In mathematical method, hex 2 is "total conflict".. when asking about relationships means "breaking up".

Because is unchanging, is a very straight answer... but i guess you already know it

Best wishes, and hope your father would recover form cancer
 
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ps

Here is what Alex Chiu say when the answer is a total conflict (he called it 6 strike) about love questions made by woman consultan:

"Don't waste your time. Look for somebody else."
http://www.superiching.com/love.htm

I normally don't like Alex's work, but think you can find interesting that quote
 

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