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Hello again!

I just had a big misunderstanding (or not) with this man. I think I messed up and I feel horrible. It's all because we communicate with sms and I got it completely wrong (I think) and I told him to don't bother calling me anymore and then he replied that "if that is what you believe... piss off!"

Just to explain a little what he said: he said -and it is not the first time- that he was just and ordinary man and, even when we had great steamy hot sex he didn't believe why I get so... involved. And I understood that he was telling me "we have good times together but you better back-off because you are getting too involved". But when he seemed so upset in his last response I thought that I maybe got it all wrong...

I tried to find out if it was just a misunderstanding (sent him sms and then left a message in his voicemail) but he has not responded. I think I blew it up! As I said in my voice message to him, if I just got it wrong I was sorry, I could be stupid sometimes, but if he decided that that was it, then... well, that is how it is. I know I cannot do anything more about it, now it is in his hands. I just got stuck in Hex. 3 that described our relationship in my other post. I feel that all is well somehow, but I don't know if it is because it's better that is over or because it's not over at all.

I asked "why it happened what happened and I received 3.5 to 24. I think I got this one...

Then I said to the I ching (without a question): "I think I really messed it up" and I received 37.2.3.4 to 10. I didn't get it - perhaps because there was not question.

And finally I asked: what he's going to do with our relationship after what happened? and I got 4.1.3.4 to 14.

Oh god....!

My last question: is there anything left to do from my part to make it work between us? 21 unchanging. I got from this that I can work on getting rid of my attitude, my lack of trust. Yes, I know! But I did it again and I hate myself for it!

How he feels about me now? 37.4.6 to 49.

Sorry for so many questions. I have the feeling that I just send to the toilet something that could have been great. And I thought I had it all well done this time. :(

I wanted to share with you these responses in case you see something that you would like to tell me about this.

Thank you.
 
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gene

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princess

This goes right back to the pressure thing of hexagram 26. You can't pressure a man into a relationship. Even if you win, you lose. You told him you didn't want him under these circumstances. What do you expect him to do but leave? But then again, are you really worse off? It sounds like he was interested in sex, not a relationship. You are interested in a relationship. Perhaps it is best to end it. There are others out there.

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Oops princess

I mixed you up with someone else with a similar question. Nevertheless, the same thing applies. You must relax, let things flow. Do not try to force them. Hexagram three line five talks about working to improve the situation, but we cannot try to hard. If we try too hard the other person feels pressure and will not respond. Let it go for now. If he has any interest, eventually he will respond. If he doesn't, then it is best to let it go anyway.

Gene
 

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Thank you for your responses. He finally responded something by sms, that he was angry, and we shall see. I tried to be funny and asked him if I send him flowers he would be happier, and he responded me "to leave him alone now, please!". Well, so I did then.

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"I think I really messed it up" and I received 37.2.3.4 to 10.[/QUOTE]

Don't take on any more right now, Princess. Don't blame yourself. Just attend to things that need to get done around your home.

And finally I asked: what he's going to do with our relationship after what happened? and I got 4.1.3.4 to 14.

It was a learning experience for him.

While you wanted passionate involvement, he realized how much he wants a relationship that is cool and distant.
 

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