I'd be grateful for some insights, if anyone can help

[figgy hobbin]

Hi - I feel a bit bad just jumping on in and asking for help straight away but I have a situation that's causing me considerable stress and I keep getting seemingly contradictory readings about it. I think maybe I'm struggling with the interpretation as it's such an important issue for me. Would anyone be able to take a quick look at the hexagrams I've got? I'd be very grateful.


It's about a man who I've known for two years and in that two years we've grown incredibly close and are extremely compatible. I have a feeling he's my soulamte (and he's alluded the same) but there are considerable complications (aren't there always? ) We're very good friends but I'd like to take it further. Due to the complications and being extremely scared I haven't asked him if he feels the same ( I know he loves me as a friend)

Anyway - the first question I asked was:

What would be the outcome if I pursue a sexual relationship with X?

For that one I got 40 with 3 and 6 as moving lines
That becomes 50

Second question was:

What is the likelihood that we would have a long term relationship?

I asked that as I don't want to mess up our firendship by just having a fling

The response I got was 19 with 1,3 and 6 moving.
That becomes 18

Third question was:

What is the best course of action to take to ensure a good outcome?

I got 52 with 2,4,5 and 6 moving.
That becomes 28


I also asked what the outcome would be if I made the first move. I got 8 with 2,4 and 6 moving which become 64.

I'm so confused. Some of it seems really positive and some of it seems really negative One the one hand I feel like I'm being advised to act and on the other to keep still. And all those moving lines!

Would anyone be able to give an objective view for me?

 

[bamboo]

hello figgy,
if these were my readings I would avoid the sex relationship. 40 , imo, is mostly a hex about getting free, staying free, 'getting home safe with least complications', etc

19 to 18 is also not fully encouraging for a long term relationship, that last line in 19 is a lovely line, but it is removed from the ordinary, and also 19.3 is about knowing your limitations, (imo)..

finally 52..be still, patient.
when it comes to a sexual relationship, i think the more naturally it happens the better. If there is hesitation or doubt, why not just wait? you dont lose anything by waiting and if it is meant to happen, the building pleasure 28 will make it even more enjoyable !

 

[figgy hobbin]

Thank you bamboo

I think what confuses me about 19 is the moving line 1 - in my book (karcher) it says:

This means your purpose is moving correctly. Lamenting at the funeral. The spirit liberated belongs with you like parts of a previously separated whole. This is a connection made in heaven. It will stimulate and inspire you. Have no doubts the way is open.
Direction: Organize your forces. This is the return of something important. Be open. Provide what is needed.

Then it goes on to 3 which sounds, frankly, hopeless.

I guess I'm a bit frustrated as it's been going on for two years. I'm also afraid of losing him through being a bit weak and wibbly and not letting him know how I feel. Or losing him to someone else (must learn to let go )

I think the next question I'll ask is, what would be the outcome of joining a nunnery?

Thanks again - I appreciate it.

eta - I know what also panicked me a bit - it was getting #8 in relation to making a move and it talks about latecomers and traps.

 

[willowfox]

What would be the outcome if I pursue a sexual relationship with X?

For that one I got 40 with 3 and 6 > 50

Line 40.3 is very good it suggests yes to your question, it is about you being alone sexually and joining with him as his partner.

Line 40.6 is also good, it says yes again to a sexual relationship, again there is a joining together here.

Hex 50 This hex is about cooking food, you put yourself in bed with him, bring to the boil, stir a few times and the outcome is a great success.

Second question was:

What is the likelihood that we would have a long term relationship? The response I got was 19 with 1,3 and 6 > 18

I think this looks very good if you are prepared to put in the effort and take the chance.

Your last two questions and answers indicate that it is up to you to declare your feelings to him, you have waited long enough so now it is time to act.

 

[figgy hobbin]

Thanks so much everyone - it's like a curtain lifting and I'm able to see things that I hadn't thought of before. For example 19 turning to 18 - having just re-read 18 I'm considering that it could be ancestral stuff that I repeat - patterns of negativity or ngative/destructive behaviour that I can be prone to in a relationship due to childhood stuff. Could it then mean that even if I did have a long term relationship with this person that I still have my demons to conquer so in that respect it wouldn't be any different from any of my other relationships? Lots to consider here, thanks

twilight - I get your pojnt about infatuation and people feeling like soulmates at the start and stuff and I agree. However, I've been round the block a few times (and then some) and I have never had a connection with anyone quite like this. It sounds really cheesy but the first time I met him I kept asking people where I'd met him before
The more time we spend together the stronger it gets. So, I think you're right and it's easy to get carried away with romatic notions but I bet he still picks his nose (and I know he snores)

 

[diamanda]

Hello, and here's my twopence too.

What would be the outcome if I pursue a sexual relationship with X?
For that one I got 40 with 3 and 6 to 50
40 - get rid of this idea
40:3 - this idea is burdening you, it's bad to advance while feeling thus
40:6 - get rid of this fixation, with determination
50 - instead, opt for letting things/attraction cook slowly by themselves

What is the likelihood that we would have a long term relationship?
19 with 1,3 and 6 > 18
19:1 - you both want to and do approach each other
19:3 - neither of you should be too comfortable; don't rush things
19:6 - shows a good possibility that a relationship could be feasible
18 seems to refer to the 'complications' you mentioned. Hard work
will be needed to make your possible relationship a good and stable
one, because the relationship has not started at a good footing and
started under strange circumstances as you said, which will need to
be worked on.

What is the best course of action to take to ensure a good outcome?
52 with 2,4,5 and 6 to 28
You've lost your peace completely, which has brought on a heavy
weight in your heart. Until you regain your peace and calm, try to
appease your heart, be careful and very sparing with words, and
try to let go. Try to put this burden down gently.

what the outcome would be if I made the first move
I got 8 with 2,4 and 6 to 64
"He finds no head for holding together. Misfortune." That means
'no union takes place'. 64 advises great caution. Sounds like a bad
idea to make the first move. As other posters said, why not let
things develop and mature naturally?

good luck with it all!

 

[figgy hobbin]

Oooer - now I'm confused again

Just to say though, how does a relationship 'naturally' move from one stage to the next unless someone is brave enough to admit that's what they want?

 

[Trojina]

Oooer - now I'm confused again

Just to say though, how does a relationship 'naturally' move from one stage to the next unless someone is brave enough to admit that's what they want?

Er sort of little gestures and flirtations i guess to see how they're responded to. Yi aside and i think for a moment that might be less confusing for you the danger is if you make an upfront suggestion to him it may ruin the friendship if it embarrases him or it turns out nothing was further from his mind...and you'll feel embarrassed too possibly.

I think 40 .3 describes a person trying to being in two roles at once and it doesn't work. The line states something like if you carry a burden and ride in a carriage you attract robbers (unfortunate events) ...once being lovers starts that kind of friendship will change for good. I would think thats the main problem to bear in mind, that if you spoke your feelings and it wasn't what he wanted it may be hard to return to the same easy friendship.

 

[figgy hobbin]

Er sort of little gestures and flirtations i guess to see how they're responded to. Yi aside and i think for a moment that might be less confusing for you the danger is if you make an upfront suggestion to him it may ruin the friendship if it embarrases him or it turns out nothing was further from his mind...and you'll feel embarrassed too possibly.

I wouldn't be brave enough to make an upfront suggestion I guess I kind of meant moving to flirtation and the like as it doesn't happen now, I'm too scared.

I think 40 .3 describes a person trying to being in two roles at once and it doesn't work.

That makes total sense but for reasons I can't really go into.