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Mayorka

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Hello,

I would appreciate for one more time your help with my divination.

I asked I ching:
If I stay in the city will I have a partner to make family with?
Hex 12, 2,3,5 to Hex 50


12.2 I am wondering if the stagnation in my life is for good.. If the future has for me a worthy partner even after long waiting.
12.3 Perhaps I feel 'shame' because I am old and I am not married or a mother yet.
12.5 even if the stagnation is over I would be still worried for my relationship.

Hex 50 The Cauldron. Pregnancy?

How would you interpret?
 
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If I stay in the city will I have a partner to make family with? 12.2.3.5 > 50
If you stay in the city, it doesn't look like you'll meet anyone good.
The cast says you'll meet someone arrogant, for a shameful relationship, which will make you suffer.
After that you'll still need to find a new one (50).
Do you have a choice to move elsewhere?
 

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If I stay in the city will I have a partner to make family with? 12.2.3.5 > 50
If you stay in the city, it doesn't look like you'll meet anyone good.
The cast says you'll meet someone arrogant, for a shameful relationship, which will make you suffer.
After that you'll still need to find a new one (50).
Do you have a choice to move elsewhere?
In all my life my partners were arrogants! I am really so tired of these type of guys. I have a secret to write you..my father is one of them unfortunately! If this is the law of attraction something is really wrong with me that's why I attract them. But also I can't stand guys like them that's why it's so difficult to me making a long-lasting relationship. I have made questions about my next relationship and I believe it will be a short one...I don't really know if it's better for me to stay where I am right now but anyway..
 
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I don't believe in the law of attraction. The world is simply packed-full of this type of arrogant players. There are too many of them. You don't attract them - your only innocent mistake is that you tolerate them. Next time just give them the boot, immediately and unceremoniously, at the first sign of arrogance.
 

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If I stay in the city will I have a partner to make family with? Hex 12, 2,3,5 to Hex 50
Richard Rutt calls Hex. 12 'Bad'. It suggests to me that you need to do a bit of sorting between those people (including potential partners) and situations which are good for you and bad for you - and if you can do that, what's to stop you from finding a partner to make a family with (in the city or out of the city)?

Of note, Line 12.2 says: with a small man: auspicious; bad with a great man; and Line 12.5 says: desisting from what's bad.

I'm reminded here of someone - a man or a woman - going for what they think is 'great' - like someone who is rich or powerful, attractive or pretty .... instead of going for someone who is real, down-to-earth - what we might think of as a 'small' or common (or everyday) person. So it's more about the choices you make, and not about if you are living in the city or not.

Sometimes (or often?) we are attracted to what is 'bad' for us: like crazy, damaged, arrogant, hurtful people - even though we know from experience that they are damaged, arrogant, hurtful ... and that we should 'cease and desist' from being involved with them. But again, it's about the choices you (and we) make - between good and bad - as to whether or not you find a suitable (and loving and helpful) partner.

Looking at the trigrams ... here one's Father (Heaven, the Creative) and one's Mother (Earth) have gone off in different directions, perhaps leaving you in the void they've left behind. It makes me wonder: is there some family issues / dynamics that need to be addressed - some void you need to heal as part of your life partner search?

Hexagram 50 is called 'The Cauldron' or 'Tripod Bowl'. Here it reminds me of a container where alchemy / transformation can happen. It's ingredients include Wind - being gentle, persistent, and paying attention; along with Fire - being clear and discerning. It's a reminder, that with the proper ingredients we can make transformation happen, regardless of where we're living; but if we continue placing the wrong or bad ingredients in the cauldron: what do we expect the outcome will be?

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If I stay in the city will I have a partner to make a family with?
12. 2.3.5 - 50.

These lines seem to me to be saying your desire to have a family is on hold in this location, yet they lead to 50. so there seems to be some benefit to you from living here. 12.2 can indicate a child in the womb - is there something that needs to develop further? Like you need to focus on finding a partner before focusing on children? Your true love may turn out have a whole different agenda!

12.2
Enwrapping and containing the charge.
Small people, good fortune.
Great people obstructed. Creating success.

Seems to reference how your experience in this city has you feeling isolated. A small person might just accept it and live with it. A great person would say, "I'm gonna change this."

12.3
Enwrapping and containing shame.

You aren't feeling optimistic about putting yourself out there however. Maybe even feeling unworthy of partnership? Doubting your ability to be a good mother?
"I wouldn't want to join any club that would have someone like me for a member." - Groucho Marx

12.5
Resting in obstruction.
Great person, good fortune.
It is lost! It is lost!
Tie it to the bushy mulberry tree.

Seems to be suggesting you relax and put your desire to have children on the back burner for now.
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Bottomline, as far as finding a partner to start a family with I think the I Ching is saying this is a bit premature. Perhaps there are other things you need to do or experience first. Maybe strengthening your own sense of self so you'll know and recognize the partner right for you?
 
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