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Hi all. I have been following online clarity for a quite while now, but I've only joined recently and this is my very first post.

I've been together with a man for over 2 years. It's been quite an on and off relationship. We finally split up about six months ago but have still seen each other since. He invited me to a wedding of a close friend of his which will take place on a Greek island this weekend. I said yes and committed to it but I now have second thoughts about it. If I go I have to fly out tomorrow!

My doubts are around not wanting to leave my two kids behind (11 and 14 yrs old who will actually be fine with their father and his parents!) and also thoughts about whether this is a step back for me as seeing him will stir things up again. I feel quite stuck with it. I mentioned my doubts to him, my doubts and he was very upset as he was looking forward to it and also it will put him in an awkward position with his friends.I will have let him down last minute.

Oh and I should mention that we live in two different countries..

I first asked the Iching "Should I go ahead with my plan to go the wedding? and received 261.2.6>15 which I took as a no!

Then today I asked the Iching "How will going to the wedding be for my well being for the future" and received 51.1>16 This however, looked auspicious to me.

I feel very very stuck at the moment and quite desperate for some guidance if anyone would be kind enough to share their thoughts with me.

Many thanks
 
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I first asked the Iching "Should I go ahead with my plan to go the wedding? and received 261.2.6>15 which I took as a no!

26: is about checking, verifying something

line 1: it's about not going to see him because he is not very important
Maybe that's not what you think but I think that it's the reason why he was upset.

line 2: he will stop contacting you because you didn't trust him

line 6: you need to reconsider your decision and fix that issue

15: do not take initiatives
In a situation like yours, this calls for the very important follow-up question:

What are the initiatives I should not take?

26 - Checking

See that everything is alright. In this way one will find the invisible problems.
26 - Checking

1 - One doesn't want to come and see immediately because it is less important.

2 - One departs because they are not being trusted.

6 - One is asked to repair.
In the making
15 - Decency

One shall not provoke with initiatives.

Then today I asked the Iching "How will going to the wedding be for my well being for the future" and received 51.1>16 This however, looked auspicious to me.


Yes probably auspicious, but not always.

51: shock, you can ask the follow-up question "what problem will be identified?"

1: someone will laugh, so it's auspicious unless someone laughs at you.

16: it's about youth, involvement
You can ask the follow-up question "What kind of involvement?"

Well, from my personal experience, 51.1 happens you when you learn an important life lesson. Like, "don't put your finger into the electric socket", once you've done that it's 51.1.

So it's a shock but after you laugh because of the life lesson.


51 - Shock

Something is coming which enables the identification of a problem.

1 - One can laugh after having seen.
In the making
16 - Youth

Youth can be mobilized. It is a period of indecision which will be emerged through involvement.
 

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I think you should attend the wedding, it will help to release accumulated feelings(26) and bring them into a balance (15), a balance in a sense of neutrality, zero/ground potential.

I think the lines of 26 speak about your activity of resisting, and that you shouldn't go your own way but allow yourself to yield - and attend the wedding.

18.2 Deal with past mistakes/feelings.
52.6 Attain the state of ultimate peace and tranquility. Get a closure so to speak.

51.1 → 16 supports the idea of release of tension, you're worried now but as soon as you get there the anxiety will disappear and you will have a good time (16).
 

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Many thanks taoscopy.

With regards to Hex 26 leading to 15, can I take the need to repair (line 6) as a green light to go to the wedding so as to repair the situation?

In terms of trust, you are absolutely right as deep down he feels I don't trust him enough. In fact the relationship ended because of my unwillingness to commit.

As for the second reading, 'youth' is also spot on, as he brings the teenager in me out. This whole relationship has been about having fun together and I know that that's the appeal to me. I feel once again the teenager in me made the decision to commit without thinking too much about it's consequences.

I will ask the questions you suggested and let you know.

Many thanks once again
 

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Ashteroid thank you

You're right. There is a lot about yielding, and surrendering. He's often said that I constantly resist my desires and feelings, in order 'to do the right thing'. I think, there is also a lot of guilt involved for me. A part of me feels guilty for having fun without my kids!

And I have a feeling that if I do go to the wedding, it will be a good break for me and some adult time!!

Many thanks to you for posting
 

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Hi again taoscopy

For hex 51, I asked what problem will be identified. And I received 26.2.3.>27

My understanding is the oracle is asking me to look at how I'm nourishing myself. One of the reasons, I wasn't willing to commit to this relationship was that we are not a good match in terms of our interest in self-awareness and self-development. As I said before, he's appealed to the young part of me. We share an interesting music and go dancing together. This wedding will be about having fun once again, focusing on mainly physical needs, and not higher ones.
 
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Ok, I thought that the follow-up on 15 was more important than this but let's go:

For hex 51, I asked what problem will be identified. And I received 26.2.3.>27

26: you will find the problem

2 and 3: that you don't trust that you can live together

27: as you said about your physical needs

26 - Checking

See that everything is alright. In this way one will find the invisible problems.
26 - Checking

2 - One departs because they are not being trusted.

3 - One is accompanied.
In the making
27 - Supply

One supplies as needed
 

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hi taoscopy

My follow-up on 15 gave me 14.3>38. I read this as referring to my own internal sources, and perhaps giving away too much and depleting where it isn"t good for me. He is a very opinionated person, very black and white. I, on the other hand am watery in nature and can be swayed in the face of such assertiveness. I believe 38 is referring to this and asking me to stand my ground

what are your thoughts?
 
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My follow-up on 15 gave me 14.3>38. I read this as referring to my own internal sources, and perhaps giving away too much and depleting where it isn"t good for me.

do not take the initiative of "Meeting the demands"
14.3: do not take initiative of accepting loss

38: do not take the initiative of creating a misunderstanding

Well, we can clearly see where the Yi is going now. You would create a misunderstanding by accepting his demand to come.

You can ask the follow-up question on 14.3: accepting what loss?
That will help you clear the final doubts.

14 - Meeting the demands

Addressing the needs if the means are available.
14 - Meeting the demands

3 - Accepting loss and abandon, this is how one sets back the danger.
In the making
38 - Misunderstanding

One must revisit a misunderstanding if they want to dispel it. If needed, one can seek advice. One may abandon the small differences.

ETA: the 26.1.2.6 needs to be revisited, my interpretation was certainly incorrect, maybe it's about taking care of your kids... That's why the follow-ups are important to clear the misunderstandings.
 
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thank you taoscopy for your guidance

the question "accepting what loss" gave me 16.3>62

I don't think I understand what the Yi is saying to me here? Could it be about procrastinating and wasting my energy?

As I said before, I feel the right thing for me is to not go but I will be letting him down big-time. It's kind of last minute and also all his friends know I'm coming, and he's even put my name on the gift card. He will have to deal with a lot of questioning. I would be going for him rather than for me, and as I feel I owe it to him in some way
 
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the question "accepting what loss" gave me 16.3>62


Accept to lose your involvement, to lose the idea of joining this weddings, accept to lose the idea of going out (exit). 62 represents a bird so you can accept to lose the idea of taking a flight.


I guess that all doubts have been cleared, the Yi recommends against going there.


16 - Youth

Youth can be mobilized. It is a period of indecision which will be emerged through involvement.

3 - One can accept to join others.
In the making
62 - Exit

One checks before going out.
 
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Oops, I've misinterpreted!

It is: "do not take the initiative of accepting loss"

So, yes the advice would be to take this flight.

I've been mistaken here:

so we still have:

"do not take the iniative to accept loss"
"do not take the initiative to create a misunderstanding."

I've asked the Yi about meeting the demands, the answer is that we can ignore that part (45.1.4 > 3) because the answer is incomplete at this point.



14 - Meeting the demands

Addressing the needs if the means are available.
14 - Meeting the demands

3 - Accepting loss and abandon, this is how one sets back the danger.
In the making
38 - Misunderstanding

One must revisit a misunderstanding if they want to dispel it. If needed, one can seek advice. One may abandon the small differences.

so what loss?
3 - One can accept to join others.
In the making
62 - Exit

One checks before going out.

Do not take the initiative to lose the idea to join the wedding
Do not take the initiative to lose the idea of taking this flight
So my initial interpretation for 26 > 15 can still stand, the advice would be that you go to this wedding.

Sorry for the error.

This one also needs to be revisited:

It's still a question of trust.

For hex 51, I asked what problem will be identified. And I received 26.2.3.>27
26 - Checking

See that everything is alright. In this way one will find the invisible problems.

2 - One departs because they are not being trusted.

3 - One is accompanied.
In the making
27 - Supply

One supplies as needed

That one was a little trap that made change my mind, I didn't interpret it very well, anyways the follow-up question on 15 is the most important and confirms that you should go!
 
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hi taoscopy

I did go to the wedding in the end! It was one big party over four days and I really enjoyed myself, but that's not the whole story. The plane trip on the way to the wedding was a trip from hell with a non-stop talker next to me and misbehaved kids galore. The trip on the way back was even worse, as our ferry got cancelled and we had to take another one in the middle of the night, in order to catch our flights.

These are all external factors of course. As for my inner world, outside of the many parties and meals which involved alcohol, I found myself feeling guilty for leaving my children behind, and quite emotional most of the time. The full moon didn't help of course. But something didn't feel one hundred percent right somehow. It's really hard to explain and I feel I need to reflect on it more before I can understand what that really is about. There was of course, the question of "does this mean we are now together, and if so, is that a good idea" running in the background for me, which probably is one of the main issues.


So all in all, it was an experience I will never forget. But I'm now left with figuring out what the lesson in this is for me.

Once again thank you for your prompt responses. Much appreciated
 

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hi taoscopy

I did go to the wedding in the end! It was one big party over four days and I really enjoyed myself, but that's not the whole story. The plane trip on the way to the wedding was a trip from hell with a non-stop talker next to me and misbehaved kids galore. The trip on the way back was even worse, as our ferry got cancelled and we had to take another one in the middle of the night, in order to catch our flights.

These are all external factors of course. As for my inner world, outside of the many parties and meals which involved alcohol, I found myself feeling guilty for leaving my children behind, and quite emotional most of the time. The full moon didn't help of course. But something didn't feel one hundred percent right somehow. It's really hard to explain and I feel I need to reflect on it more before I can understand what that really is about. There was of course, the question of "does this mean we are now together, and if so, is that a good idea" running in the background for me, which probably is one of the main issues.


So all in all, it was an experience I will never forget. But I'm now left with figuring out what the lesson in this is for me.

Once again thank you for your prompt responses. Much appreciated
 

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