Inner peace

[ikrajnc]

Hi Hilary!

It's my first time that I contact you, thou I do the I-ching reading now for about a year. I don't understand them always, but sometimes they are surprisingly short and acurate.
I had some very stressed situations in passed few months, sometimes i wonder how do i get into them, what can I do better or diferent, is it up to me in a first place.
My problems are nothing special, I'd like to be happy and peacefull, not react to much, or get hurt so easy.
I asked two questions :
1.What should I do, to find my inner peace?
I got H 56,moving lines 1,4,5,6 and H 63
2. Why is the situation with Bojan happenig to me?
I got H 57, moving lines 2,3,5, and H 12
Could you and your friends help me with this?
Thank you
Irena

 

[hilary]

Hello Irena, and welcome!

I think it could be easier to understand the answer about why the situation with Bojan has arisen if I knew what it was! But for the other answer?

It seems to be about thinking of life as a journey, and the way you travel. Being a ?sojourner? means being loyal to a long-term destination, and knowing the difference between that and the places you stop in along the way. There?s something of a sense of being still and self-contained within yourself - being prepared to make decisions (including painful ones) to put an end to conflict, and to keep moving on when the time is right.

A traveller has to be prepared to fit in where she finds herself - if you?re travelling in a foreign country, you have to respect the customs of the place. You may not have been involved in creating the rules, they may even feel unnatural - but insofar as you?re involved in the place at all, you have to accept its terms. (I say ?place? - of course this can be true of your relationships with individuals or whole societies.) There are limits to what you can create in this place - better to stay loyal to yourself and your own vision. (In other words? you are responsible for yourself, not for what anyone else does? Maybe that answers the question of how much is up to you?) So oddly, all this fitting in means that you have to be unusually self-reliant, holding to your own standards. This - needless to say - can be stressful.

The perspective and direction for the journey - and your stops along the way - is in Hexagram 63. It suggests approaching the whole issue with the awareness that you?re ?Already Across? - that you are travelling on the right path, one you?ve committed yourself to. Essentially, you?ve got things right. But this is not the ?happily ever after? moment - it?s the time when everything is finely balanced, and you really have to stay awake. There?s an English saying, ?today I start the rest of my life,? that I think captures the mood: constantly looking forward, never imagining that you?ve attained the final goal, with nothing more to do. Inner peace actually comes from travelling on, not from arriving once and for all.

All those moving lines - they seem to be mostly pointing to problems, things that prevent you from finding peace.

At line 1, the traveller is fixated on small, trivial things - looking too closely, not seeing the bigger picture. This is self-destructive. Line 6 is the opposite extreme - being too careless of the details, enjoying yourself too much to take any notice of the rules of the people you are with - eventually this is like a bird burning its own nest. Two very different approaches with similar end results.

Line 4 is about finding a place to stay, getting some recognition and security? but still not feeling at peace with this, knowing that the situation is not right. Perhaps you feel insecure, perhaps you simply know, without being able to say why, that you cannot stay here.

Line 5 - at last, a positive suggestion, after all the ?what not to do?! And it insists more than ever that this is about moving, knowing your goal and aiming for it directly, like shooting that pheasant. Naturally, by making good use of your talents you get recognition in the end. But you also gain ?a mandate?, a sense of what you are here to achieve. I think that could be the real source of inner peace.

Hope this helps

 

[candid]

Greetings, Irena.

In my opinion, Hilary?s reading was right on the mark. I have one overall point to add:

Being a humble Wander is greatly more benefiting to you than being an arrogant one. This is a choice you will have make and will greatly affect the manner in which you travel. There is a tendency when we are wandering, out on our own, to feel as though the world at large owes us something. This is an inopportune state of mind for a wander. Rather than drawing able helpers and followers to help us during our sojourn, we repel and frighten others away from us. It does well to choose carefully what kind of persons you hang out with. Apply this also to your own inner world. If you associate with the right people (in there), you can go your way unassailed and continue on the path of life you have chosen to walk. If you hang out with angry and stubborn people (in there), you too will become angry and stubborn (outwardly). Carry the bo, and walk softly.

I also have no idea who Bojan is, but I?ll offer my observation and impression, based on your reading. But it?s the question itself which is most telling:

Why is the situation with Bojan happening to me?

One could as easily ask, why is Irena?s situation happening to Bojan?

This is a matter of breaking up of dark things, a reform (re-form) for the wanderer. It?s a matter of penetrating through the darkness you are experiencing. As with the Wanderer reading, this darkness is first an inner condition before it manifests outwardly. You?re dealing with certain things which have been around for awhile and they?re not likely to just up and fly away. They have to be dealt with. This can mean dealing with your deepest beliefs, your most meaningful relationships or just some dark matter which at some point has managed to cling on to you from your past.

Now, here?s the good news! You do succeed in attaining a new outlook. Interestingly enough, however, its not through the power of might, but through the power of gentleness, that this is achieved. This doesn?t suggest a lax or foolish. It rather implies that the Wanderer will gently penetrate through the darkness and find her way to the light. Take encouragement from that. This darkness will lift, but you may have to rummage around in the pit awhile with it to sort it all out. Be gentle with yourself and with Bojan. (whoever he/she is?)

Best wishes,
~Candid

 

[candid]

*cusses at his spell-check for not recognizing the word, Wanderer.. and who edited that thing anyway?!

 

[willow]

Hi Krajnc,

Here's a thought about how the readings for the two questions might relate to each other.

#56 (received regarding inner peace) is The Wanderer, who, as described above, relates to carrying your own vision with you, wherever you may find yourself.

Then #57 (received regarding "the situation") is The Gentle, Penetrating. It is pointed out that gentle wind can only achieve its penetrating effect if it consistently and steadily blows in the same direction, if it has a consistent objective.

So, putting the two together, maybe the situation is happening to you so that you can better become internally gentle and steady, so that you more clearly understand what it is that you carry with you always through your wanderings.

To add the relating Hexagrams, the context of becoming the wanderer with inner peace is #63 After Completion, which, according to LiSe, has to do with understanding the difference between rigid structure (not sustainable), and equilibrium. The context of why the situation is happening is #12, Standstill, which, again according to LiSe, has to do with learning when it is appropriate to say no. So, putting those two together, it might be that you are being called on to learn better when to say yes and when to say no, in order that you may better understand how an equilibrium that adjusts to the times, and so can persist through change, is different from a structure that attempts to hold on while resisting or ignoring change.

So, inner peace through a vision that embodies equilibrium, and knowing how to be steadily and consistently yourself through learning about saying yes and no.

 

[ikrajnc]

Thank you.
It's quite accurate again. I think a did a good job on learning how to be myself. But the learning really never ends.
The gentleness you say? I'll try.