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Previously, I asked if going and telling ex was the right thing to do and Yi said it would be like a cockerel trying to crow at night. I was advised that I shouldnt go and see him but could write him a letter to make it abt me expressing my feelings rather than getting a response from him.

So before I wrote the letter I asked "What is your advice to me abt writing to ex?"

I got 1.5 > 14

A few days after posting the letter I asked "What does ex feel about my letters?"

I got 37.2.6 > 5

I felt all these were positive but a psychic I went to get persepective from said that he feels regret and all but wont want to be with me. That if he wanted to do so, he will have contacted me cos its been 2 weeks but he hasnt.


can anyone offer their two cents worth?
 

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Regarding your writing, I feel the Jing says that it's great to express whatever you wish to tell him in that letter. It tells you to write eloquently and preferably with a positive tone.

The ex feels more aware when you wrote to him. It's always a good thing. You gave him insights and some realisations of what he did or should have done. It will help him understand his difficulties and be more responsible next time.
What will happen? You have to give him time to think over what you said. He is going to take some time off for a while. There is quite a bit of uncertainty.
Whether you hear from him is not quite stated, but you wrote him a letter and it's always positive as it's a step forward. Things continue from there.

p/s: 2 weeks is not a long time.. trust me, a relationship can play the 'pause' game and be back in a few years. Sometimes leading life apart can lead you back to each other.
 
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Previously, I asked if going and telling ex was the right thing to do and Yi said it would be like a cockerel trying to crow at night. I was advised that I shouldnt go and see him but could write him a letter to make it abt me expressing my feelings rather than getting a response from him.

So before I wrote the letter I asked "What is your advice to me abt writing to ex?"

I got 1.5 > 14

A few days after posting the letter I asked "What does ex feel about my letters?"

I got 37.2.6 > 5

I felt all these were positive but a psychic I went to get persepective from said that he feels regret and all but wont want to be with me. That if he wanted to do so, he will have contacted me cos its been 2 weeks but he hasnt.


can anyone offer their two cents worth?

Two cents:

1 The Yi (and a good psychic) tell you what you need to know, which is often not what you want to hear. The assumption that trips people up very often here is that the Yi will always help them get what they want. Wrong. Not always. Only when what you want and what you need are in harmony.

2 Your life and your mind have its needs and its agenda to achieve those needs. In the case you've outlined here, I think you've interpreted the Yi correctly - writing the letter to him was a good thing to do, and his feelings about it were also positive (you're part of his personal inner circle, which at the moment involves waiting that yields insight). The Yi is nudging you towards getting those needs and agenda met, and you're cooperating. But that might very well not include 'getting the guy in the end'. Sometimes we have to go through stuff because it's necessary for payment or for learning new stuff, and in either case that can mean it's not what you want, it's not pleasant, and it's not easy.

Two big cents, as it turns out.

You're asking good questions and harmonising your choices with the outcomes. I think you're in great shape. But how do you feel?
 

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The thing is as I recall and from what i saw on the other thread Rose mentions where she got 61.6 about contacting him, he doesn't want her to contact him and was angry about her contacting him. Mostly people urged her to move on i think.

Its easy to build a relationship where there isn't one by continually asking the Yi about what x or why feels -

I'm starting always to look at past threads because sometimes if people don't like advice they just ask the same question from another angle not mentioning the actual reality of the situation.

From all you said there Rose he most definately did not want you to contact him .
 
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61.6 is not a great line, but it can simply imply that you are asking too much of a situation and your actions are not gonna count for much.

1.5 was your response to the question of what the yi's opinion of your wrting the letter was...the Yi seems to say that you're doing the right thing for you. To communicate what you are feeling directly to the man in question is a good thing, for you, maybe because it leads to the truth of the situation, and the truth is a possession in great measure.

his response was 37.2.6....kind of a ho-hum response, he is tending to his business, and perhaps he feels beyond this relationship now, but not unkindly towrds you...waiting before he makes his response.

The best part of this whole thing is perhaps your ability to state what you needed to say in an email. that takes courage and is never wrong , regardless of what he responds. You don't have to feel like there is anything you coulda done but didnt.

If you really want to inquire further, maybe ask a question like "what can i expect from this relationship now?" and , one of my favorites "what is the best attitude for me to have now in regards to this person?"

good luck
 

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thank you everyone. I am feeling very sad today, knowing that this has come to an end. It's like I have tried everything, and it seems to come down to one thing - that I was unable to gain acceptance from his family. All I can remember is the love we shared. How is it possible to love a person with all your heart one moment and then not want anything to do with them the next? My guess is this feeling slowly seeped its way through. I keep asking why can't they accept me, and see that I love them too. I cry at the thought that it'll be someone else who is his wife.

My heart agrees with Dobro, letting him know what I had to say was the right thing for me. It doesn't mean though that we'll be back together. For a moment reading Stephen Karcher's interpretation for changing line 5 of hex 1 " Spread your wings and let your love be felt..your friend will feel your guidance..etc" seemed so positive, cos I asked this Q before writing the letter.

Trojan my previous Q was :
What would be the outcome between me and him if I went and told him what I had to say? (like i was wondering if after sometime we could become friends and hopefully more than that).
61.6 changing to 60

I think to have gone and told him in his face was not advised. But things had to be said, and it was in love that I wrote the letter, there was so much to say, mostly that I treasured the times we had and that I love him. So hex 1.5 set the tone for me to write it in a positive tone.

when I asked what he feels, again using stephen Karcher's interpretation signalled to me that there could be hope for it said "both of you are the centre of your group" and "anything you both want is possible..etc".

see I went to the psychic yesterday and she said that he's tied to his family and will want to marry the person they approve of. It's not my place to ask, but I did so anyway, asking if he'll be happy, she said it'll not be a big romance, but they'll convince themselves they are happy.

I keep trying to pave a miracle, hoping that my love for him will make him stand up and ask his family to accept me, but have given up. Yes I have given up. Cos i went to ask tarot cards and this time what the person reading them said was that another woman is involved and he's seeing her.

When i asked the cards earlier it said there was a chance for rebirth in this relationship.

See the readings keep changing...maybe it's me who doesnt want to see clsarly. a positive reading and then a heartbreaking one 2 weeks later...just gives hope and then takes it away. I agree with Trojan on how its easy to build a relationship when there exists none. how stupid can I be.

i do not know you pple personally but deeply appreciate that you would offer me your two cents worth. thank you everyone.
 

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It's like I have tried everything, and it seems to come down to one thing - that I was unable to gain acceptance from his family.

Marrying a family, or bringing your family along when you get married, is always more complicated than marrying a person.

My heart agrees with Dobro, letting him know what I had to say was the right thing for me. It doesn't mean though that we'll be back together.

I'm glad you understand the difference between doing the right thing and getting what you want.

I think to have gone and told him in his face was not advised. But things had to be said, and it was in love that I wrote the letter, there was so much to say, mostly that I treasured the times we had and that I love him.

You know, I think that sometimes the Yi knows that we're not going to take its advice and yet it gives us the advice we need for two reasons. First, it doesn't lie, and if that's the advice that you need in a situation, then that's the advice you get. Second, it's another learning experience - you can look back on it later and say: "Ah, yes. That was a time when I did what my emotions were pushing me to do and I lost the still center."

see I went to the psychic yesterday and she said that he's tied to his family and will want to marry the person they approve of. It's not my place to ask, but I did so anyway, asking if he'll be happy, she said it'll not be a big romance, but they'll convince themselves they are happy.

Doing the right thing for the wrong reason isn't right. But it's so human to make mistakes.

When i asked the cards earlier it said there was a chance for rebirth in this relationship.

Yes, I can see that. Doors of opportunity are open for a period of time only, and then they shut. Or as a Swedish woman said to me once: "Women are like potatoes. Hot at first, then they cool down." Compare a woman to a tuber if you must, but the truth is still there.

See the readings keep changing...maybe it's me who doesnt want to see clearly. a positive reading and then a heartbreaking one 2 weeks later...just gives hope and then takes it away. I agree with Trojan on how its easy to build a relationship when there exists none. how stupid can I be.

I think you've been through a particularly cruel sort of rollercoaster ride. I don't think you're stupid for following your heart.

i do not know you pple personally but deeply appreciate that you would offer me your two cents worth. thank you everyone.

You're a sweetheart and I wish you well.
 

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So before I wrote the letter I asked "What is your advice to me about writing to ex?"

I got 1.5 > 14 This says to write to him and then all will be well.

A few days after posting the letter I asked "What does ex feel about my letters?"

I got 37.2.6 > 5 It would appear that he does not want to get involved at the moment.
 

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A few days after posting the letter I asked "What does ex feel about my letters?"

I got 37.2.6 > 5 It would appear that he does not want to get involved at the moment.

Or: It's a family affair and he's going to wait. Variation on the same thing.
 

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