Investigation

[yellowcat]

I run a drama group as a volunter for a mental health charity. I have made a formal complaint about the manager of the charity, based on prolonged sexual harassment towards me and other women. The case is being investigated by the council and should be resolved within a month, so I am waiting for the result of the investigator's report, based on interviews with everyone involved in any way. I asked the I ching what is the best approach for me to take and how is it all going? I received 28.2.4 to 29. Any advice would be much appreciated as I am a bit too personally caught up with it. Thankyou :-l

 

[gato]

the situation will improve slightly but don't ask for more, leave if you can't handle it.
he doesn't choose to do that. (to understand picture yourself being hungry in a room full of delicious food. eventually you will grab some even you are forbidden to do so )

 

[arabella]

One comment: your question is two questions, so hard to say which one the Yi is answering. Maybe re-cast with just one focus at a time would give you a more valid reply.

 

[chingching]

29 says hold fast to your heart. hex 29 reminds me now of when i was dunked by a huge wave as a kid, all I could was to ball up into a fetal like position, and to hold my breath, it roll me into shore and when it was shallow enough I could stand up out of the water and breathe.

28 sometimes is about being brave too, like in the image the noble one stands alone, bearing the weight of the situation that is upon them.


I suppose gato you may have formed your opinions from the text of line 2, I think because we really haven't been given a full picture of the situation it could be damaging to take a position on whether this is a serious case of sexual harassment or not, whatever the facts sexual harassment is a very serious issue. I have watched a few of my friends put up with sexual harassment and never say anything to anyone and that was quite damaging to them.

as the question was about the case I'd say line 2 was saying you have / or have had a second wind of energy for facing this challenge.

line 4 At this line you can take the stress of the situation, but be careful not to let anything more weight be stacked on top of you beam so to speak, it is at maximum load.

The image of 29 says to me you may have to repeat yourself a lot to get the message across to those who are reviewing this man's behaviour. You need to remain consistent, don't change your story and don't be swayed by fears.

I had this reading recently and I could literally feel the 29 of it all like a giant mega strength magnet pulling on my last bit of support and boundary structure, I held out under the pull and came out of the situation in tact, the ridge pole did not break. There was a definite sense of resisting the pull of fear, and sticking to my truth.

 

[yamabushi]

I think that in 28, lines 3 and 4 are changing to 29, not 2 and 4...

 

[yellowcat]

Thankyou very much for your comments. Yes I will ask again to clarify the two parts, but yes it
is very challenging and I decided to make the complaint after trying every other way to resolve it, by talking to the person himself, his advisor and trustee. it was only after these attempts were blocked
that I made the formal complaint, not just because of how he has been treating me over a prolonged period, but because of the other women he harassed who came to tell me in private. As mental health service users, they were too fragile to complain and I felt a responsibility to do so.

 

[yellowcat]

I asked how the investigation will go, what way it is heading and I received 36.3 to 24. It seems to be saying that by making the complaint I was shining a light on what was previously hidden? Does it suggest with line 3 and hexagram 24 that it will be soon drawing to a close and
situation will be returning to normal in a different way to before? Could you clarify and advise as I am not sure what this combination means? Thank you

 

[chingching]

I think that in 28, lines 3 and 4 are changing to 29, not 2 and 4...

you are right, sigh well only the bits I wrote about line 2 are defunct then, unless you meant it to be 28 > 39, which still isn't fun and dancing but still different to 28 > 29. I should always double check what reading lines people write in their posts... but users need to check their own posts too makes it easier for everyone.

 

[arabella]

I asked how the investigation will go, what way it is heading and I received 36.3 to 24. It seems to be saying that by making the complaint I was shining a light on what was previously hidden? Does it suggest with line 3 and hexagram 24 that it will be soon drawing to a close and
situation will be returning to normal in a different way to before? Could you clarify and advise as I am not sure what this combination means? Thank you

My perception of hexagram 36.3 is that your complaint has brought to light dark and emotional suspicions that other may have not seen; or have seen but wanted to avoid. The line suggests some sense of "hypochondria," or not being sure it's a "real" complaint, and the accompanying questioning: maybe it's all in my head? But the darkness of hexagram 36 suggests this improper behaviout is simply well-disguised sometimes and attempts made to justify what is truly wrong. The perpetrator may say -- or try to imply -- that women just don't "get" his special brand of kindness or attention or admiration, or support. He is slippery and will attempt to say that people are overly cautious or misunderstand something.

But your legitimate suspicions can't be avoided and swept under the carpet by the authorities because now there is a very tangible problem [your complaint] to which councillors must respond. The guy's improper attentions and suspicions about them are no longer nebulous and councillors know that if they don't fully investigate there may be hell to pay later on. The the only way forward is hexagram 24: to go back to basics of how the charity organisation should be put together and function, in order to recover the situation. So well done you. :bows:

From a personal point of view, there are vulnerable people receiving services from the charity, and if you feel strongly he is in the wrong and preys upon women -- don't let up. There is a duty of care to consider. I have a feeling your perceptions of this guy are just the tip of the iceberg and, thank goodness at least it's coming out where fully-able women can see it.

 

[yellowcat]

Dear Arabella, your message feels spot on, both in the way I have been made to feel and
the way the guy operates. Yes, there have been complaints before but other people just left because it all became too much. somehow I have found the strength to push it through to a formal complaint
and people in the council are taking it very seriously. I am just waiting now and hoping that justice will be done. Thank you very much for your reply, Lori