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Is he a menace to me? Job question 8.2.5.6 to 4

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It's been a while since I had a conversation with one of my collegues, because everyone now works from home. And it seems like he didn't need to contact me or asking me to collaborate. It can happen, so in the beginning I didn't worry and just tried to gentle suggest that if he needed me, I'd be there. He said ok but never called back. Last year I realized we have really different and diverging opinions about many things. We never argued about anything, but I clearly can feel a wall between us, because of that. Time goes by and everyday it looks more strange to me not hearing from him at all. I wondered if this could affect my position in some way...

I asked the Iching: What kind of menace does he represent to me? I got 8.2.5.6 to 4
Line 2 speaks about inner truth and inner strenght, so it looks fine, it reminds me of my good intentions. OR should I have been more sincere?
Line 5 depicts a situation where everyone has "his right to live", so I'd take it like a good omen.
line 6 instead, speaks about a "missing head"...and shows failure in reaching unity.

I don't understand the whole answer though... and how to interpret hex 4 as a result. Who is the youthful folly? It's me, worrying too much, or is he, acting in a odd way? Or it's the situation evolving to "progress and success", like Legge suggests?

Then I asked: what should I do towards him?​

42.1.3.4.5 to 56​

Line 1 shows a positive outcome from a decisive action.
Line 3 shows problems along the way and punishment... but also good from unfortunate events.
Line 4 Wilhelm/Baynes: If you walk in the middle and report to the prince, he will follow. It furthers one to be used in the removal of the capital.
Line 5 Wilhelm/Baynes: If in truth you have a kind heart, ask not. Supreme good fortune. Truly, kindness will be recognized as your virtue.

So... I don't know. It doesn't seem bad to me, but I wouldn't say the same about 56... Does it mean that I shouldn't worry, even if I now feel like a wanderer? And "not ask", but trust that my worth is being recognized? If I take it literally, is an advice to stay like a wanderer?

I also asked what is my position at work in general?
And got 59 uc. I think that it's not bad, because in 59 uc I see all my worries that should dissolve. But it also means in my opinion, that I feel dispersed and should reunite, since I had less and less contact with everyone, lately... Do you agree?
 
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I think the positive readings about the fellow and the 59. Dispersion about your own position are confirming that your sense of uncertainty is coming from being out of touch and not because of a real problem. You might ask what you should do about it. Or maybe the Image for 59. is telling you what you should do. Pray? Offer it up to God and don't worry about it?
 

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I think the positive readings about the fellow and the 59. Dispersion about your own position are confirming that your sense of uncertainty is coming from being out of touch and not because of a real problem. You might ask what you should do about it. Or maybe the Image for 59. is telling you what you should do. Pray? Offer it up to God and don't worry about it?
Thank you very much Rosada for your insight.
I feel in my heart that yes, probably everything is just in my head, because I lack connection with him and others. If I don't have something really important to say, I don't have to make contact and just work alone. And this is the problem, sometimes I'd like to call just for a little chat, or to tell some details about work. But if it's not urgent, I always say to myself: "I'll do it later" - because I'm shy at the idea of making a call "just" for that.
I don't think I'll ask what to do now, because I already asked and I got 42 to 56. The reading left me a bit confused because line 1 speaks about action, line 5 says "ask not". So I think I'll just accept my place as a wanderer, and following 59, I think the advice is to slowly establish a connection again, maybe not just with him but with other colleagues too. And yes, not to worry!
 

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I don't think 42.5 is saying don't call. I see the "ask not" as meaning don't doubt, don't ask for confirmation that you are valued. Indeed, 42.4 seems to encourage you call if you care to.
No big deal, I just felt to add that to the reading.
 

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Something else to note as a consideration, perhaps this has something to do with the first question “what kind of menace...” presupposes he is a menace.

The I Ching, to me, included 4 as sort of the chuckle you would give to a child while explaining that “Susie doesn’t actually hate you...”.

Just my two cents! 🙂

edit: I am only speaking from my experience with Hex 4 as a relating Hexagram. Usually that ends up being something that is not as big of a deal as I am making it out to be. Not that this is the case here.
 
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Something else to note as a consideration, perhaps this has something to do with the first question “what kind of menace...” presupposes he is a menace.

The I Ching, to me, included 4 as sort of the chuckle you would give to a child while explaining that “Susie doesn’t actually hate you...”.

Just my two cents! 🙂

edit: I am only speaking from my experience with Hex 4 as a relating Hexagram. Usually that ends up being something that is not as big of a deal as I am making it out to be. Not that this is the case here.
I hope you're right! :) I know that I was assuming he is a menace and that I could be wrong. But I feel that I'm in a lower position and that a wall between us could become a menace, in some way. I didn't want to ask a yes/no question. Maybe I should have just asked for help to understand how is our relationship doing at the moment and how can I improve it in a positive way! I think I'll do.
In fact I ended wondering who the "youthful folly" hex is referring to, because I'm aware that it could be me, and that probably I should read the answer like you suggested! I thought that it could also describe him, because of his attitude. Or maybe it's both of us, but I can see anyway the reassuring part of it, and hex 4 pointing out childish behaviour or way of thinking.
 
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I'm... hesitant to offer yet another option. It's not as sunny, but then I'm relatively new to this and working my way out of a relationship that I could describe in a similar fashion. So take this with a large grain of salt. What was true for me may not be so for you.

I trusted your question. "Menace" is an interesting word in the context of the relationship I understood you to want. Hm.

I also trusted your story more than the casting.

I understand Hex 4 as "Not Knowing." Not necessarily childish. And agreeing subtly with your choice of words.

What you don't know can hurt you.

Do you feel better or worse after seeing him?
Do you feel differently about him when you're with him than you feel when you're not in his presence?
Does your common sense ( not logic, not hope; more like "gut sense" ) suggest this relationship isn't good for you?

At the end of the day, divination is a guide that should strengthen what you already know. It shouldn't aid self-deception. I wish I had a better feel for how to tell the difference, although life experience helps.
 

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