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3.5 There is a lack of trust in this relationship. You have to win him over to prove that you are a worthwhile pursuit.
Yes he has been deeply hurt by someone else, and does not trust anyone.
The problem is I remind him of her in many ways. After she hurt him, he decided to pursue many females, thereby shielding himself from love and hurt again. He wants an 'open' relationship but not one where I can have other lovers. Off course I didn't agree. He keeps smsing and calling me at weird hours of the night just to check that I am not with someone else.
I honestly believe this relationship does have a huge big NO to it, but in terms of my own personal transformation, I seem to be getting something out of it. What exactly it is I don't know. I have my own deep fears towards relationships especially trust issues.
You are right trust takes a long time to build. Thank you so for your invaluable feedback.
Hexagram 12 is a relating hexagram - rather than a predictive one - which shows you have been living under a big NO but Hexagram 35.5 says there is someone with a great personality involved and that personality is going to shine. Take courage from that.
Hexagram 3 is often associated with depression in the commentaries of one willowfox who seems to be a controversial yet sometimes very perceptive member (or ex member) of this forum and that does chime with your assessment of your partner's disposition.
As a relating Hexagram 24 is pretty positive.
Is it worth seeking support? Counselling or therapy? And not just for your partner but for you too. Gentle reaching out seems to be indicated rather than extrememe measures.
I seem to get something out of providing 'nourishment' for this person. My star sign is Cancer and I enjoy doing this for everyone I love. Perhaps this is what I am getting out of it? Even when he has upset me a lot, I still want to put a smile on his face. He has had a very tough life, and I cannot help it. Perhaps I am confusing a 'friendship' love for a romantic one I don't know......Hex 35 gives and idea of the importance of the relationship for you, the nourishing aspect of it. But the line 5 says that you cannot make every wrong into right alone, you can only do so much and let it be. Anyway it goes, you are told not to worry too much......
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I can relate (Moon in Cancer) but the feeling that we will be loved if we are needed and useful, not just being who we are, may have something to do with it.I seem to get something out of providing 'nourishment' for this person. My star sign is Cancer and I enjoy doing this for everyone I love. Perhaps this is what I am getting out of it? Perhaps I am confusing a 'friendship' love for a romantic one I don't know.
I can relate (Moon in Cancer) but the feeling that we will be loved if we are needed and useful, not just being who we are, may have something to do with it.
I made that mistake recently, among others, gotten this line and overall feeling is that you may be the one who gave more and gotten less out of it. We should stop offering without being asked, I think. Just for future reference, hope it helps.
Well, sometimes we have a lot to offer and installing a tap is an offensive an idea almost. Not everyone is sincere or in want or even ready as we are on these occasions. This problem of being on the energy minus received end is not an old issue for me but then I am a Water Carrier and I am a channel I feel sometimes, only my pipes need cleaning then as well and I tend to forget about that.
I don`t know, but sometimes it is good to just give - we can only give what we have to give in the first place. Doing so without attachment all of the time is another story. If it is any comfort, big hearts get recognized as much as stumped upon, I think.
After a few turbulent months in a relationship, which has me utterly confused and undecided on which direction to go, a recent event has me believing, that this was probably too, the end; however as there are many 'unsaid' words between us I am not sure, so I cast a reading with the question - Is it over and got 35.5 > 12. Any insight on this? I have absolutely no idea how to interpret this
.....Go now, and talk to him. Say what needs to be said.
Questions you might want to ask yourself: Why do you allow yourself to be in a turbulent relationship? Do you like the turbulence? Are you that desperate for love that this one is the only one that suits you? OR do you really love this person. Love stays. Love strives to work it out. Love talks. Love communicates. Are you thinking you can change it? There are ways to change things, but seeking the right help is the key. Yes, relationships can be fixed! Yes, sometimes in just a few minutes! Yes, it is better to fix your relationship than get out. If you don't one of two things will happen: you will either get in another one and be stuck where you are now trying to resolve the same issues only with a different person, or...or, you will live your life alone never having persevered through the problems for your own personal growth. Your choice.
The Yi primarily want us to learn to be at peace above all else. If we can act in innocence (having no though about outcome) and modesty (bring down the intensity and bringing up the mundane) then we receive help from the sage (God, higher power).
Hexagram 35.5 to be detached. Being emotionally detached from any expectation, this is the way to peace. To obtain relationships from any other stance is vieing for an opportunity to make things go our way. To MAKE things go our way is ego's way of controlling. iChing advices against letting our ego control because ego messes things up. To trust in a higher power to produce the results is trusting the sage. The Hexagram advises to let things flow, then things will happen as they should.
Line 5 Don't take things into your heart. Detach your emotions from all preconceived outcomes and just let things happen.
I wish you well. Seek professional help. Good luck.
Clarity,
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