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- Potential for reunion with X for a romantic relationship 33.1.4.6 to 63
- Will F come back to me? 7 uc
- Is it over forever? 48.1.2.4 to 49
- What should I do to have him back to me? 49.5 to 55
- What's doing with X now? 3.4 to 17
not sure i'm the best person to answer, as i recognise myself in the situation described so my interpretation might be a little biased? yet as you're publicly looking for other perspectives, let's try...
it seems to me the lines might illustrate both of yours attitudes, 1 talking about withdrawing the tail from danger, as after what you called a fight each of you took a step back to think what's best for everyone involved. 4 could speak about your current dynamics as well as about what comes with voluntary withdrawal, and that's possibly to allow for friendly attitude while sticking to one's beliefs. this leading to 6, where both parties withdraw creating some freedom or space in between, maybe. this situation can then provide clarity to recognise certain completion. i don't know whether 63 is about this relationship being already "done" or the situation being "ready" or about learning that each person is already complete without the other.
i often experience 33 as just a step, a planned or necessary retreat before making the next move. here it has 63 either as a background or as a result and i cannot say with any certainty what this actually means, sorry.
to me 7 usually brings to mind teaming up, working together as a team. the judgment mentions good fortune and no blame. and perseverance plus a strong man. some translations would say that persistence of elder people brings good fortune. maybe it's time to let him take a lead?
i don't think so. maybe you're a useful source to him (for his personal development for example) or he's one to you. the lines of 48 made me think of your journey through therapy, with line 4 pointing at the stage of reworking or maybe rearranging some "bricks" of the psyche, rebuilding oneself in a way so that one can provide others with purity of feeling / clarity of mind. that could bring a true change or revolution in how one relate to others.
by coincidence, i just found out that pressing a tab key posts a message...
i shall then continue in a new post...
this ties nicely to the previous reading, as indeed, Yi's suggesting a sudden transformation.
not sure i understand this question right, but i'd think it's no mistake to strive for union.
and if i may just comment on something outside of the readings, you mentioned aggression, however i believe it's crucial to be able to communicate one's boundaries. it may come across as aggressive to some, who aren't maybe used to people stating what they want, but to me that's being assertive, not aggressive.
another thing i wondered about, and you don't need to answer, how would you want to be with that person if the word "relationship" didn't exist? maybe that could help having an open conversation while avoiding triggering whatever scares the man
Hello,
I’m pretty sure my advice will be unwelcome, but I feel I should say it. I was in your situation many times in the past and I wish there was someone to give me a clear answer. First of all, from the abundance of changing lines and the large number of readings you’ve done I can tell you were using a coin method. I would avoid it. I only use yarrow stalks for important questions and even then you have to really think and formulate the question well to get an answer that will make sense. I Ching doesn’t like multiple readings about the same problem, this will inevitably lead to the kind of replies you will not make sense of.
I can tell you without the I Ching - you need to forget this man. This has nothing to do with you. He is 47 years old, he will remain single forever. This was my experience in the past with bad relationships - I seemed to get involved with men who were not ready for commitment, and I suffered because I thought I was unlovable. But years later, now with help of Facebook and such, I’m discovering that all those men ended up staying single or even if they hooked up with someone and made a child, they abandoned the woman and the child. You are saving yourself from a lot of heartache (and eventually the relationship will not work), if you leave and forget this man now. And another advice — when you meet a man who wants to be with you, there will be none of this uncertainty. He will want to marry you and won’t be telling you any of this bullshit about readiness or not readiness. These kind of men once they’re with someone tend to stay with that person for the rest of their lives. The problem for women is that these men are not the majority, and the only smart strategy is to quickly identify the men who don’t want a close relationship and minimize your losses by quickly moving on. If you don’t do it you risk wasting years of your life on wrong men and lose opportunities to meet the right men.
Clarity,
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