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Rasalila

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I'm in love with an old friend. we had a brief affair that he ended, but i know that he's still very attracted to me. i've accepted that circumstances aren't right at this moment for us to be together but i feel certain we could have something wonderful in the next few years. so i asked how he will feel about me in the coming years and i got 45 with the fifth line changing. does this mean just friends? please any insights would be so helpful.
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Hexagram 45 is about a group and line 5 is the leader of the group who is revered because of his devotion to the well being of the entire group. You say that circumstances at the moment aren't right for you and your friend to be together in a romantic relationship. Is he married? This reading suggests to me that if you are to have a closer tie with this person in the future it will be built on your ability to honor his commitments and you must not try to have a private bond with him that excludes others. Thus if he is a married man or the sole care giver to a demanding parent or if in some way being with you would mean breaking vows he's made to others, I think he will not put anymore energy into your connection. However, if you renounce the desire for romance and become supportive of his wish not to be in a love relationship, I think there is a good chance that in the coming years he will feel you are not "just" friends but very special trusted friends.
 

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Wow, thank you. I think you're exactly right. I'm actually the one that's married. It's complicated. My husband is willing to open up the marriage and my friend is more of the non-monogamous type, as well, so this makes perfect sense.
 

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