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My male neighbor who lives with a woman who may be either his wife or his girlfriend keeps trying to force me to open the door to him. At first I was going to do it but decided to refuse. Then one morning he claimed he had to speak to me and that it was against the law to refuse to let him in. I refused to open the door and he began kicking the door with all his might. I thought he was going to break the door down. I should have called the police. I was extremely traumatized and lay frozen for about 2 days. Then I went to the police who interrogated me for 3 hours as if I had done something wrong. They really mistreated me and accused me of trying to use them as my personal security service. They told me to call the police of my own country! They accused me of trying to treat them as inferiors. I got no sympathy and was really shocked and horrified. Then when it was time to leave, I couldn’t because the whole building was locked down. They were in a standoff with a couple whose 12 year old child they had beaten. No one could leave or enter and they acted as though they were going to shoot the man and woman down. As for me, they refused to take an official complaint and only took a non-criminal statement if the facts with no associated accusation after I informed them that I was going to write to the (equivalent of) district attorney. Because the police of this country seem criminally deranged, I have decided not to contact them in the future.
My door is permanently damaged. I now suffer from post traumatic stress disorder from this and other agressions by my psychopathic male neighbors. I live in fear that someone will kill me here. I asked:
Why did this neighbor try to kick my door in?
32.4->46?
Line 4
'In the field, no game.'

Why won’t the police in this country help me?
30.2.3.6->54
Line 2
'Clear golden light.
From the source, good fortune.'

Line 3
'In the clear light of the setting sun,
If not beating a pot and singing,
Then you will be making the lament of great old age.
Pitfall.'

Line 6
'The king uses this to march out,
There are honours.
He executes the chief – the captives are not so ugly.
Not a mistake.'

How much danger am I in?
5.2.3.5->24

Line 2
'Waiting on the sands, there are small words.
In the end, good fortune.'

Line 3
'Waiting in the bog invites the arrival of robbers.'

Line 5
'Waiting with food and drink.
Constancy, good fortune.'

I feel that they reading don’t touch on the desperation of the situation. Anyone have any insight?
 

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The only one of those I think I understand at all is the first one - he was kicking your door because you wouldn't let him in? There was no game in the field - what he wanted (to be let in) wasn't available to him?

30 > 54...
30 has to do with clarity, awareness, insight, shedding light on, illuminating things and so forth
54 has to do with a "second wife," someone who's not as important as the "first wife." A subordinate in a workplace, or something that's a lesser priority.

That might sort of sound like an explanation - they're not helping you because you're not a priority, or (less personally), maybe anyone kicking at doors at all, no matter how hard, isn't a priority for them? Maybe neighbor disputes in general aren't a priority, unless it gets much worse than screaming and kicking? (That's hard to swallow, but you and I might not understand the police department's workload. Or maybe they're just lazy jerks.) But anyway, maybe hexagram 30 is saying that now you know that for sure? It's been quite amply "illuminated" for you? (Argh.)

The moving lines, though :confused: ...could 30.2 be reinforcing the "clear light from the source" - the police themselves have made you aware, with megawatt intensity, that they don't care? 30.3 - but it still was good you went there and complained, because it's better to at least try than not try? At least now you don't have to regret not trying, and there's some sort of report on file. 30.6 - maybe (again) it's saying the police only have time or motivation for really major things ("chiefs") and they consider people kicking doors to be much smaller problems?

5.2.3.5 > 24...well...I agree it's odd Yi would give you such a relaxed answer. I wonder if there's any chance your neighbor will give up? After all, he failed to kick in your door, despite his very best efforts. He might conclude it'd be useless to try that again? (Not that nutcases are so logical, usually.)

5.3 might mean that the danger you're in is you yourself getting bogged down by this? As you said, you "lay frozen" for 2 days.

I've had answers like that myself, when asking what danger I'm in from this-or-that. "Well, you're going to worry about it a lot," Yi will say - and what that seems to mean (at least so far, and in my own examples) is that's the only danger I'm in. And, of course, once I know Yi's telling me the only danger is my own anxiety, I feel free to stop worrying :).

However - caveat - the "dangers" in my life are not neighbors trying to knock my door down.

A couple of completely non-reading thoughts - (a) your damaged door is your landlord's property. Any chance you'd get more results by showing the landlord what the neighbor did? (b) if this ever happens again (heaven forbid), do you have a cell phone or a camera that you could record the incident on? "A picture (movie clip with sound) is worth a thousand words"?
 

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Again - to repeat - I'm not at all sure about those interpretations.
 

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So you are a foreigner yourself - interesting. And I guess if the police told you to call the police of your own country you must be from a poor country. The only people that can get into your house are policemen ;) so you did good in not opening your door to that chap! It is usually best to call the police while in the middle of danger instead of going to them later (which I also did but they were of not much help and prospected me a 900 euro fine for not respecting some laws from the 70s I knew nothing about!)

It sounds as if you live in a foreign country in a poor area with lots of male immigrants. A tough situation but maybe you can move somewhere safer? Could it be a first step?
 

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After a bit more thought...I said "if this ever happens again" try to record it. Hexagram 24, Return, could very well mean "happening again."? So moving ahead with that guess... hexagram 5 isn't really passive waiting, it's more like attentive or expectant waiting. 5 > 24: Sitara waiting expectantly for something like this to happen again.

What is the advice, though. I don't actually think "record it on your cell phone" is in the readings. That was just my own suggestion. (Unless... could 30 suggest that? "Shed light" on what's happening by recording it? Hexagram 30 would be very much inclined to document everything, I think, based on something Hilary once said about the trigram li. Hexagram 30 is the trigram li doubled.)

Maybe the 5 > 24 reading is mostly description? This is the situation: "Sitara is waiting expectantly (5) for this to happen again (24)." So - moving lines - what is Yi saying you should do in that situation? Relax, don't get bogged down in fear because being paralyzed with fear won't accomplish a thing?

I feel out on a limb here, but 5.5 says "waiting with food and drink." That might just be advice to relax, but a comment in the WikiWing area of this website says, "Be prepared in practical ways for what's to come." Combined with guess-y thoughts about 30 - maybe Yi is suggesting you record and document?

But again, I could very well be going farther and farther out on a tangent that isn't what Yi really means.
 

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Why did this neighbor try to kick my door in?
32.4->46?
Line 4
'In the field, no game.'

This line says to me that he had no-one else to bully.
Why did he want you to let him in? What is he looking for?

Line 3
'Waiting in the bog invites the arrival of robbers.'
Line 3
'In the clear light of the setting sun,
If not beating a pot and singing,
Then you will be making the lament of great old age.
Pitfall.'


To me these lines seem to say that you need to move! Move area, that you are in the wrong place geographically, (and maybe in life too).
Is it possible to move?
(If you are in a bog where you live, if you are not rejoicing in life, you are not living, you could be 'old before your time')

Line 2
'Waiting on the sands, there are small words.
In the end, good fortune.'


The sands can shift, this situation is not set in stone.
You cannot build on sand - so maybe whatever led to all the difficult experiences is not a lasting condition?

Or again, you have put down an anchor in the wrong place?

And also, have you ever wanted to live by the ocean?

Line 5
'Waiting with food and drink.
Constancy, good fortune.'

Dunno just putting this one out - have you any good neighbours?
People who are friendly, or good to you?
People who say 'hello'?
Maybe invite them over for Dinner? Or just a coffee or tea?

Bullies often pick on people who seem to have no allies, who are a bit different.
Seeing people calling, and having people say hello when you are out and about gives you allies, and friends.
It will also make you feel more secure.

Also, are there any old neighbours? Or people who could also do with friendship?
Ye could 'wait' together, and enjoy food and drink, build friendship.

 

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Line 5
'Waiting with food and drink.
Constancy, good fortune.'

Dunno just putting this one out - have you any good neighbours?
People who are friendly, or good to you?
People who say 'hello'?
Maybe invite them over for Dinner? Or just a coffee or tea?

Bullies often pick on people who seem to have no allies, who are a bit different.
Seeing people calling, and having people say hello when you are out and about gives you allies, and friends.
It will also make you feel more secure.

Also, are there any old neighbours? Or people who could also do with friendship?
Ye could 'wait' together, and enjoy food and drink, build friendship.

Good point, thought, and idea.
 

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How about visually putting up a mirror on your front door, also enclose yourself in a protective egg, in your imagination f course. I once had objectional neighbours and my son told me how to put up a mirrored shell around my home, mirrored side out of course. My neighbour moved out.
 
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Thanks Clarity Angels

I had written a reply but my phone died. Sorry to see that my post was lost!
I had written to express sincere gratitude for the responses which felt like chicken soup for the soul.
In sharing this post, I recognized that some intellectual harm had been done by the trauma of this attack and the attack of the police against me. I think this corresponds to the Hexagram 5 readings. The damage is pretty severe so I now recognize that Line 3 in Hexagram 5 might be an indication of severe trauma. My mind is functioning differently after the attack.
Meigga:
I have been thinking a lot about your advice. I had read about l this being done by someone else and now I am seriously going to do it. I saw some mirrored panels at Ikea.
Moving:
I can’t move because I’m divorcing my estranged husband whose name is on the lease. He is refusing to cooperate with breaking the lease, even though he knows I’m in danger. He doesn’t live here with me and apparently it pleases him that I am in danger here .

I’m stranded here and in serious danger. I’ve contacted the state department and my embassy, but they can’t or won’t do anything to intervene against the police brutality.

The man and his wife have moved since this occurred. I fasted 40 days with no food and prayed overnight in a church. Then the couple were suddenly gone.

But they were immediately replaced by worse people. This new man told his wife a crazy story that I asked him for sex and the next night she got her sisters and cousins together to attack me with baseball bats. Again I went to the police and they claim that because she didn’t land a blow, no crime was committed so no charges were filed. So this psychotic woman is walking around scott free.

All this is occurring in France which is not a third world nation. The apartment building is an ordinary one. There’s nothing remarkable about it. It’s just that French people can be brutal and hateful compared to other Westerners. Theres a lot of social dysfunction that rarely occurs in the US. There’s a lot of vicious jealousy and spite. They have twisted love/hate feelings towards Americans:
No help from the police, they’re shockingly savage and brutish. I mean unbelievable. Just look up Theo and Benjamin in cross reference and you will see how truly murderously violent they are. They highly resent certain new laws concerning violence against women and have refused to enforce them.
 
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Also, French women seem to hate each other and all other women. They fight each other like dogs over any and everything especially men and sex. French feminism is a myth. So there’s no kindness or sympathy from women as women.
 

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Isn t that crazy that I guessed where you live just by reading a thread?!? :cool:

I would move.
I have lived in that country and it can be marvelous if you live among the civilized people. What you tell I never experienced although I remember the constant harassment from North Africans and that can be exhausting after a while. I remember one day starting screaming in the street to leave me alone!!!!

Plus on 9/11 I was there living with Americans and that night we had Northern Africans throwing stones at our windows

No wonder you are particularly hated if you are American ;)

I would move. Who cares if the lease has your husband s name? As long as it doesn t have yours you can move
 
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How about visually putting up a mirror on your front door, also enclose yourself in a protective egg, in your imagination f course. I once had objectional neighbours and my son told me how to put up a mirrored shell around my home, mirrored side out of course. My neighbour moved out.
Wow meigga what is this?
I never heard of this! It looks as a ritual to send someone away

Do you think it can work with a housemate too? Could I put a mirror on my door so that people passing by mirror themselves in it? Does it need to be big?
What level is best from the floor?
 

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Hi Olga

Could I put a mirror on my door so that people passing by mirror themselves in it? Does it need to be big?
What level is best from the floor?

The mirror more like a protective talisman (often used in Fung Shui also) to reflect negative energy back out, hung on the outside of the home.

The protective bubble can be visualised as a golden egg, or a white one, filled with prana or light. The technique of using a mirrored shield around it is used to also reflect negative energies and influences back out. It is not recommended to hold a heavy shield up around the aura for long - it is quite energy intensive, and only to be used for a short time )few hours to a few days_ in very difficult seeming circumstances. Also, people may not see you, or may start seeing themselves!

Visualising the golden egg, or whatever colour you associate with safety can be done every morning, or as part of your meditation / yoga practice. You can pop it up during stressful situations easily then.

Often, people do a bit of deep breathing, connect down to the earth and still within, and then a few breaths into the belly to build a golden ball of energy, that they then expand to create the egg, surrounding and cleaning your aura. Then sit within it for a few more peaceful breaths, count to three, open your eyes, and away you go.

As regards the effects of it, it is to keep you feeling safe, and less affected by difficult or harmful influences.
It is not to be done to affect another being! The bublle, and mirrors merely reflect pr deter things, like a protective membrane, or skin.
Effects of this vary, sometimes, a neighbour or co-worker stops being 'on your case', sometimes they become friendly, sometimes the person holding their bubble forgets or stops noticing the difficulty. The case of a neighbour moving out is quite extreme! (and could be sen to verify that that person was looking for conflict, and aiming at Meigga before she shielded.)

It can be useful, upon creating the bubble, to then see people or situations you are in conflict with also surrounded with the golden light.
then see the negative cords being released and dissolved from you to that situation or person. Then you can forgive them, and thank them for releasing you. Then give your own egg a boost of golden light as you see the other situation moving away from you, getting smaller and smaller.
 

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If people care to continue this conversation about mirrors and feng shui please start a fresh thread in Open Space.
 

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Hi Sitara,

Please check your private messages for one from me - thank you.
 
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Thanks to all well wishers. I guess I’d better move. I’m turning my energy to that. I know that meditation would help. I have poor meditation skills and am currently unable to fulfill that very important golden egg meditation. i can only effectively meditate to mantra based chanting at the moment. Feel so blessed to have these gifts passed through the window of the prison (29) I’m trapped in. Again, thanks!
 

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