lady troubles 47.2.5.6>35

[steve]

Hi everyone

I have this issue with this lady we are suppose to building something but I just feel I am going around in circles with her, its like their are allot of words but nothing of any substance.

I just feel that she is really not being totally honest like something is going on with her and I am not sure what her real motives are. I can just tell there is something I cant put my finger on.

Its really really doing my head in and I dont know what to do. i decided to ask what is it i do not know about X.

I recieved 47.2.5.6>35

It appears there is something I mean i dont know if the Yi is saying the way I feel or is the Yi answering me direct very confused

it appears there is light at the end of the tunnel

I think the yi is really trying to say something but I am not getting it

thanks for any help on how these lines relate to my question

thanks
Steve

 

[dancing white ferret]

Line 6 does talk about being oppressed by bonds that can be easily broken, "oppressed by creeping vines." I wonder if she has some fears about the commitment and moving forward in the relationship. Maybe afraid of getting hurt. Does that seem at all possible?

 

[steve]

Not really ... unfortunatley ...i cant understand this reading unless its just reflecting how I am feeling.

 

[arabella]

The first changing line would say to me that you have formed an opinion that there is something wrong -- now there has to be something wrong. Whereas, maybe let things flow more, understand that all relationships have up and down times, and relax. Are you a "task oriented" kind of person? The phrase: "we are supposed to be building something" sounds a lot more like a chore than a joy.

The second changing line: rather than inspiring development are you attempting to dictate or demand? Or are you standing in judgement rather than taking a full share of responsibilty for imagining a future together? As soon as you get an oppressive attitude with yourself or somebody else the creative spirit dies. What are you actually DOING to inspire the relationship? If you say there are too many words and not enough action then set the tone for action. Instead of just talking, create a connection that is energetic and moving forward, then let it flow. Maybe she's just as frustrated and unsure as you are.

The last changing line 47.6 -- stop looking at the obstacles and look at the possibilities. Where are you trying to go? What is your ideal? Does your girlfriend share this? Do you agree and both feel included in the steps forward?

It's interesting that the background hexagram 35 is all about progress -- and yet you feel you aren't making any. Meanwhile, the changing lines you've cast in Hexagram 47 don't seem to indicate anyone's dishonesty so much as a neutral state in your relationship at the moment and lack of inspiration, imagination and freedom for each of you to know what to do to contribute and make the other feel secure.

If you're feeling that nothing is happening -- what are you doing to make it happen? If you're a ball of fire and your girlfriend is still immobilised then maybe something really is wrong. But it seems like you should consider first whether this is just a normal slow moment in the situation and whether things are stagnated because she/you might be feeling stifled or there isn't enough positive energy going into your connection to make it grow. Instead there is uncertainty and frustration -- maybe on both your parts.

 

[gato]

is not the right time yet, but in the end you will get what you want.
joy comes softly. just wait and prepare yourself.

 

[steve]

Ok thanks guys that makes a little more sense

thanks allot for the response

Steve