letting go 32.2.4

[theborv]

What do I need to do to let go of X

32.2.4

Can someone help me? Not sure what this would indicate.

 

[innertruth]

32 and resulting 15 seem like if you won't be expecting much, be sincere and simple in your wish. And be persistent/determined about it/not wavering through understanding of what is right for you.. Then there is no harm. Your wish for renewal (?) should be constant, stick to your principles.
In your current situation (no game in the field) - there is nothing auspicious, so try to exit the situation not drawing attention to yourself. And also important part of 15 - don't get involved into any fight -
So overall it looks like a SIMPLE QUIET EXIT (without any claims/just knowing what is right for you)...
Just my try...Hope it helps...

 

[theborv]

Thanks for your thoughts. It's an ongoing complex situation, where I still love X (she left, we have a child) , but deeply uncertain of direction in regards to her, it feels like the essense of The Clash' "Should I stay (wait) or should I go (let it go).

I asked "what's in store for me if I hold on to X" i.e. hold on meaning waiting and working on being open to us finding back together. I got 8 unchanging. Any thoughts?

 

[innertruth]

8 means union as far as i know. Union potential.
It speaks of good fortune only to those who are
Sincere constant and firm in their intent,then
Others join. But if others hesitate -misfortune.
Maybe it means that tango takes two.
If you truly desire union act on it and see how other person reacts, whether she reciprocates after learning about your intent to unite. if she is not completely in tune with you,wavers,hesitant- union fails...

 

[themulberrytree]

Hexagram 32 suggests consistency. You have an area of inconsistency, where on the one hand, you know that you must let go. That's seen in your first question. On the other hand, you just can't help but think, "What if I don't? Is there something more for me here?" Line 2 suggests that there is no remorse in doing what you mean to do, as implied by your first question. "No remorse" in letting go. Line 4 shows you why: "There is no game left in the field." She has left. No point lingering. IMO, the primary hexagram is answering your question: "Let go by remaining consistent in your desire to let go", and the lines are pretty much trying to ease you into why you have to let go of your hopes. Try as you might, your hopes won't work, because the fish (representing X) have already gone. Can't catch fish if there aren't any fish there.

With that said, what's in store for you if you hold onto X? Well, you'll have some form of consistency then. I don't detract that I really, really think the I Ching is telling you to let go, but you will be unified in yourself again and that in itself is good fortune. I also really dig innertruth's interpretation of this one. There may be some hope IF she is also interested, in which case... you ask her. And then you will know whether unity is possible and you can make a better more-informed decision, perhaps solidify your decision to stay or let go, whatever it is.

 

[theborv]

Thank you for your thoughts. It's clarifying. I will post an update later on. Thanks again.

 

[theborv]

what's in store for me and X if we reunite?

52.3.6>2

Any thoughts on this? I'm new at this, can't seem to get much sense yet of readings.

 

[theborv]

I asked two more questions

Why isn't X coming back?
26.2.3.6>24
Which I interpreted as that she might come back, so I asked
What do I need to do to enable her return
19.1>7
Which I interpreted to mean something like if I keep doing caring unconditionally without expecting anything in return and keep low and not pursue, that it's actually possible that she will come in time.

Any thoughts people?

 

[theborv]

Anyone?

 

[ginnie]

What do I need to do to enable her return
19.1>7

I think it means that you must approach her in a sensitive way, maybe regarding joint duties and responsibilities.

 

[ginnie]

what's in store for me and X if we reunite? 52.3.6>2

Line 52.3 indicates a state where the back is held too stiffly in place or the body is held too still, and some have associated it with sexual tension. Line 52.6 indicates the highest form of stillness and good fortune. It indicates a state in which one stays still or, alternatively, moves, in a deeply centered, flexible way. Hexagram 52 means meditation in general; the need to be still to quiet the mind. You have gotten two lines that seem somewhat at odds with each other, so perhaps they represent alternatives.

 

[theborv]

Thank you ginnie. Both your posts makes a lot of sense.

 

[theborv]

I want to tell her I still love her, and I don't know how to do it yet or when. I asked "what will X think if I tell her I still love her" and I got 9.5>26. Is this a yes that it's ok to tell her, or bad timing?

 

[blue_angel]

Yes. Go on, tell her, and be prepared to go forward, and work it all out together.

 

[ginnie]

Yes, tell her. You will be strengthening your connection with her.

 

[theborv]

I haven't had a chance to talk with her, I have asked to talk but she is hesitant.

I'm torn, as I feel stuck in a very hard situation. She left 3 months pregnant, our son is now 7 months. She still treats me with a cold shoulder. I don't see what path to take, I find the situation abusive due to her indifference and I want to leave, but I can't as I would abandon my son. Standing still is too painful and I cant deal with that anymore. Turning towards her is equally as painful as I find her passive agressivness and rejective attitude unbearable. I asked the iching "what do I do?" and got 64.2.4>23. I can't make sense of it. Can someone share their thoughts on this reading? I'm at a complete loss still.

 

[theborv]

I want add that we do have some level of co-op regarding our boy.

 

[ginnie]

"what do I do?" and got 64.2.4>23

Line 2 moving says halt now and try again later. Line 4 moving lets you know that it is going to be a hard slog and that it will take a long time to straighten this out. But if you make the effort, if you persist, you will be victorious in the end.