Little help wanted here...

[libelula]

I have been in a (figurated) rollercoaster with someone for about a week. What started like a spiritual blow is now like the worse nightmare for me... It has been so fast than , at the moment of putting the breaks we have crashed. I am so confused that I have been trying to reach this guy and became completely freaked out by his lack of answer. I feel that he is deliberately avoiding me now and it hurts! Ouch! I see that we are just falling apart without solution.

Well, could you please help me with these questions?

What is going on between us? 27.3.5.6 to 37
Where does our relationship go from here? 28.3.4 to 29
What can I do to make the best of our relationship? 64 unchanged.

Thanks a lot for your help, ichiners!

 

[em ching]

Without reading the individual lines (as I don't have my book to hand)

I'd say:
27>37
Perhaps you (perhaps both of you) are hungry for a relationship, a sense of family and commitment - a day-to-day close relationship. But maybe one, or both of your needs are too strong. You're coming at it too quickly? Seeking instant nourishment which cannot give lasting fulfillment - such as reaching for chocolate for a sugar fix? Relationships take time to reach a stage where they are solid and committed (so I've heard ) and maybe the week has been too intense and burnt out? But if you give it time, it might come back from that extreme and you can start again more calmly.

28>29
I think this suggests if you keep putting pressure on him, the relationship will break completely, and you'll fall into the depths (I mean get more upset) if you keep acting and feeling as you are. Try and control your negative thoughts about the relationship; that it is a nightmare as you put it. You might be scaring yourself. Try and not need him as much, don't rely on the relationship for your own wellbeing (easier said than done I know). And try not to assume the worst.

64
I'd say it isn't over but in a state of chaos for both of you. So you need to give it time to improve. Wait until you feel strong enough, rather than emotionally at breaking point, before you begin remedying it. I'd say have a goal in mind, what you'd like to say to him to make it better etc. but don't act on it yet. Give it some time to calm down...

Hope that helps,

Em :bows:

 

[libelula]

Thank you so much, Em... it really soothes me. He hasn't respond to me but at least he hasn't sent me to hell either... But it is scary, yes.

I asked another question: at what do I have to prepare myself? (because I feel so scared and dizzy and yes, all I see is the worst...). I receive 1.4.5, to 26. I was glad that I didn't get 23... , but for what I see here it could be that, whatever happens, all will be okay, do you see the same?

 

[em ching]

1.4 is about a transition. Either you can stay with it, or turn away from him. It seems, according to this line, you have enough power in the situation to be able to do both.
1.6 warns not to fight your reality. Just stop fretting over it - don't blame yourself, or him, or life in general too much, and see what happens when things have cooled down.
26 is about restraint so again I'd say wait before you act. Prepare what you'd like to say, then when you feel strong enough, contact him...

I hope that helps. Would be interesting to hear how this pans out. I hope it turns out well.
Look after yourself

 

[libelula]

Thank you. Finally I got some news from him and he needs time to re-center himself. He cannot talk yet. He still said that he wants to know me, but he needs time to cool down... I think it is quite healthy and rather than freaking out, I feel that I can calm down now.

 

[em ching]

Sounds good