Long, complicated friendship 59.5.6 > 7

[liquidity]

There's a long, complicated friendship where it used to be that I was putting in much more effort, and as a result we were closer... and then I just gave up. We never quite lost touch, though. They recently contacted me, and I chatted with them, but the interaction was sort of lifeless.

Part of me is bitter, but I was polite. And I have no idea what they're feeling (they've never been able to express their emotions or been able to empathize when I express mine... but they're not a bad person). Maybe they're fine with the situation. I really have no idea. It is sad, since in some ways we used to be closer. Or perhaps that was always an illusion. So what now?

What to do about this person? (WB trans)
59.5.6 Dispersion > 7 The Army
.5: “His loud cries are as dissolving as sweat. Dissolution! A king abides without blame.
.6: "He dissolves his blood. Departing, keeping at a distance, going out, is without blame.

Does this mean I'm supposed to engage in some great act of forgiveness and love to break down the barriers between us? Or that this relationship is "dispersing" and that's ok?

Ideas on what this means?

 

[rosada]

I think you are being cautioned not to pour more of yourself into this friendship than is reciprocated. (Share your feelings-59.5- but not your blood -59.6.)
I see The Army as saying don’t take on responsibilities that are beyond your control. (Be the Sargent who knows how to manage your own troops and turf, let him manage his.)

 

[diamanda]

What to do about this person? 59.5.6 > 7

Dispersion happened between you, as you say. In my experience, line 59.5 is a line of someone talking great BS, huge stupid frantic excuses. Line 59.6 is about putting in a lot of effort to stay away from harm. Resulting 7 is war, and/or an army. In practical terms, it shows someone who takes the command, and in love questions, it often shows an army of lovers. I can't see love and forgiveness anywhere in this cast.

Does it really matter what he feels, and if he's a bad guy or not? He's not there with you, he never put in any effort. He hasn't asked for love or forgiveness. To me he sounds like a cowardish player. Why do you persist in this guy, what do you expect to happen after such a long time of bad signs?

 

[mandarin_23]

Hi liquidity,
dissolution, dispersion, stay away from harm … so this is quite an open situation, and this is probably what it is supposed to be. With 7 you might be quite powerful, and also your bitterness might be in it.
I'd take it as an advice to "dissolve the army" - whatever that may be! Let go of something you might be focussed on in this friendship. Remind your strength.
Change pattern is 20/34 - See what there is. Gain another view …
All the best
Mandarine_23