Loss 15.3>2

[goddessliss]

Hi,
A very new intense what I thought was going to last for a long time relationship fell apart very quickly. Not only have I lost the relationship but also a lovely friendship with his daughter.
I am very sad as I would have liked to have worked things out between us.
I asked 'What is the best way for me to deal with this loss'

Hex 15.3>2

I understand integrity and I understand using my intuition in this way but the 3rd line? My understanding is that the relationship is already completed. thku Melissa

 

[mazaru]

Doesn't look like it is over to me.

 

[goddessliss]

Doesn't look like it is over to me.

Hi mazaru,

thks for your reply, that's what I read too but didn't think I was impartial enough to go with that.
Damn! I hate it when you come to terms with something and then....
blessings Melissa

 

[elias]

I'd say you've just hit a speed bump. Persevere in right behavior, give things time to sort out.

15.3 "The superior [person] of merit and modesty carries things to conclusion. Good fortune." A contemporary commentator adds, "We should carefully avoid self-righteousness, and wanting to achieve more than the situation allows."

2: "Bear with all things as the earth bears all that lives upon it." Wait thru the changes, do not add energy into a difficult situation by pressing forward with your own perceptions.

 

[goddessliss]

Hi elias, thku sorta what I was hoping and thinking too

Your words -
I'd say you've just hit a speed bump. Persevere in right behavior, give things time to sort out.

Actually he did think I wanted to go too fast and he wanted it to go at an almost standstill pace and well it didn't seem we could come to any compromise and I never knew where I stood with him cause sometimes he was 'plugged in' and other times he was so far removed he may as well not be there so I decided to just let it go as hard as that was cause I do really like him and the possible potential of dymanics between us.
I asked him where I stood with him cause it was hard to gage and then I never heard from him again so I figured that was my answer.
So I just feel I should move on despite it being all a bit sad and it doesn't feel right for me to contact him really.
blessings
Melissa

 

[RindaR]

I'm wondering how it would be if you could see yourself as being ok with or without him.

from: http://www.yijing.nl/i_ching/hex_1-16/hex_e_15.htm this question rises to my mind:

How could you be more like LiSe's mythical bird? If one half is either pushing or pulling and the other is moving steadily, how can they fly?

 

[goddessliss]

Thks rinda, that was a beautiful thing to read, I was thinking along those same lines.
That's the unfortunate truth, the relationship just couldn't fly.
How would my life be without x in it - Hex 50.3.6>40
sounds like a good thing to me.

How would my life be continuing this life with x
Hex 34 - Yes great vigour, I can imagine it would be a lot of hard work.
The longer there is no contact the more I realise how much hard work it was for very little reward. His daughter, although she loves him very much, said he is very difficult and moody to live with and hasn't got over a lot of the past.
So...I will get over it and move on, just at the moment I am still a bit sad.
Thks to everyone who replied xx

 

[goddessliss]

Well there was contact and he said he no longer wanted to pursue the relationship, I am quite upset but what can you do.
thks to everyone xx

 

[mazaru]

I'm sorry to hear that Goddesliss.
It's his loss and maybe he will find that out. The saying is: "You don't know what you've got, untill it's gone."
Stay strong!

 

[goddessliss]

Doesn't look like it is over to me.

Hi mazaru thku for your kind words but he actually musta worked that out pretty quick cause he got back in touch with and said that wasn't really what he wanted and well as your above words say....

I am a very happy girl at the moment xx

 

[mazaru]

I'm glad you are not letting this get you down.
If this is really it, then it will only make room for the one you are truely meant to be with.
Stay true to yourself, but I think you allready doing that.

 

[goddessliss]

Sorry mazaru

What I was trying to say was he go back in touch to say he didn't actually want us to break up - that's why I am happy xx

 

[mazaru]

I am so happy for you goddess.
I was so confused about the 15.3 and a bad outcome.
But now I know things have worked out the way I thought 15.3 was saying, I couldn't have been happier if it had happened to me.
Good luck to the both of you.

 

[patro]

Hi Mel,
sorry I miss this topic... I was out for a long weekend... anyway

the third line of 15.. is telling you that you must need to be sincere around you whit all friends in common... so you can obtain help from some one of them..... but if you not have friends in common it's very hard.... as I can understand, is that this kind of help is missing... and hex 2 is telling you that you just see the limitation. you understand the limited situation. 2 is a passive sign... the meaning is to be receptive, to be open, to act indirectly... not directly.

hope to help.

 

[goddessliss]

Hey mazaru, thks that is very sweet. x

Hey Patro, thks as always. x

 

[icegrapefruit]

Hi, Goddessliss,

I have read about a reading about hexagram 15 and a woman who had a very difficult and unhappy relationship with her daughter. She was told to take the advice of this hexagram as she should love and support her daughter in the "letting her go" way, you know, they say, "your children are not your children", and their relationship actually turned into bloom after that. Now that I read you are again together with this very difficult man, I wonder if this hexagram carried the same advice to you and him? Sounds like on his side you'll need all the very best features of hexagram 2. Wishing you happiness!

 

[goddessliss]

Thks icegrapefruit, well I let go and it did blossom beautifully, but unfortunately the underlying problems still exist so again I let him go only this time I am very sure to let it go is the right thing to do without hesitation and whatever comes from that is what is meant to be.
Again what is the best way to get over the loss of my relationship with him -
Hex 48.2.4.5>62 .
I am embarrassed a little cause I am persistent with this difficult situation but I feel he is well worth it, well at this point anyway, especially as his daughter is supportive of us sorting it and sees that the main problem lies with him.
blessings
Melissa x

 

[icegrapefruit]

Goddessliss, all the messages of the lines are very clear, what makes me wonder is that I myself would put your very question into the light of those lines, while there are experienced readers who say the Yi sometimes answer the situation instead of your very question, or simply tells you what you need to know the most. I do hope you get help!

 

[goddessliss]

thks Icegrapefruit, may do that, right now I am a bit over the whole thing and wondering whether it is actually worth this much energy. Is there not more to life than this? blessings Melissa