Love? 15 unchanging

[Lodestar]

I was asked for a drink by the most kindly and attractive man I have ever met..
I was not sure before we met, but he told me he is married.
Before we met, I had a dream in which he was saying 'this is the hardest year of marriage yet' ( I often have accurate psychic dreams).

I was blown away by the experience of talking to him and much to my surprise he seemed really taken by me, though that would explain why he went very much out of his way to meet me. He made some suggestions about meeting again but I was vague as I don't want to get caught in an emotionally messy situation as I feel quite fragile. However it felt like love at first sight - not something I've ever felt before.

I asked what is our connection? I got 15 unchanging twice.

I know I shouldn't but can't help asking from other angles also:
Where is this leading? 14.1.2.3.4.5 to 20 great possession to seeing.
What are the chances of a romantic relationship? 63.2.5 to 11 already across to flow
What do I need in this situation? 16 enthusiasm.

Nothing is happening at the moment. Should I do something I wonder? I'm very self protective.

 

[Tohpol]

I was asked for a drink by the most kindly and attractive man I have ever met..
I was not sure before we met, but he told me he is married.
Before we met, I had a dream in which he was saying 'this is the hardest year of marriage yet' ( I often have accurate psychic dreams).

I was blown away by the experience of talking to him and much to my surprise he seemed really taken by me, though that would explain why he went very much out of his way to meet me. He made some suggestions about meeting again but I was vague as I don't want to get caught in an emotionally messy situation as I feel quite fragile. However it felt like love at first sight - not something I've ever felt before.

I asked what is our connection? I got 15 unchanging twice.

I know I shouldn't but can't help asking from other angles also:
Where is this leading? 14.1.2.3.4.5 to 20 great possession to seeing.
What are the chances of a romantic relationship? 63.2.5 to 11 already across to flow
What do I need in this situation? 16 enthusiasm.

Nothing is happening at the moment. Should I do something I wonder? I'm very self protective.

Gosh, sounds exciting...but early days. And the fact that he's married...Hm.

Far be it for me (and anyone else) to say whether or not to put your heart and soul into this guy and but we can look at some of the ingredients in this reading and you can ponder on that if you wish.

So, you felt a powerful connection. This may or may not be love at this stage as it could be that electrical "charge" you can get when two folks are physically highly compatible, the bio-energy of which tends to get telegraphed ahead in extraordinary ways. Then again, there might also be a connection at the emotional level too will increase the charge.Then of course, he is married and you are also in a "fragile" state, hence I think this is where 15 comes in, and twice no less.

Regarding the connection we have a few keywords associated with this hexagram which include: sincerity, modesty, humility, authenticity, receptivity and temperance. Overall, it also implies cutting through unnecessary complication, keeping things simple and without pretension. It also seems to be about maintaining one's equilibrium of heaven and earth, creativity and receptivity. My guess is that the connection is genuine and real and possibly your approach is to maintain balance amid powerful forces rising up between you.

Where is this leading? 14.1.2.3.4.5 to 20

Nice Hexagram. Could be read as a progression as you say. Gently does it. Keeping harmful things out at the beginning which can mean anything negative in thought and action at this stage. Yet, not to the point of harbouring fears and undue caution? No mistakes have been made at this point so be conscious of the difficulty inherent in the situation and proceed carefully. Line 2 seems to suggest you have what it takes to handle this - in whatever direction it flows. Line 3 offers decision time - you may have to offer some kind of sacrifice at some point. Line 4 confirms that real discernment, presence and clarity are needed to navigate through this if you decide to take it on. If you follow your path and let others follow theirs, a meeting of minds is possible when both are seeking the highest good for each. Line 5: provided that honest communication is maintained from a well-spring of sincerity then it seems, all is well.

What are the chances of a romantic relationship? 63.2.5 to 11

Well, on the face of it pretty good I'd say. Everything is in the right place. Lines 2 and 5 suggesting there's no need to chase him or be worried about this man or the situation. There's a natural return. You might say there is just a temporary sense of vulnerability here. If you choose to let the situation mature this will disappear. This leads to the idea behind line 5 which I see as firm but genuine steps to progress. No dramas or over-the-top displays of emotion. Maybe there's no need as it has a flow of its own that brooks no interference. The background hex also confirms this with the peace and power of 11.

What do I need in this situation? 16 enthusiasm

Could you have anything clearer? I know that 16 can also denote delusion but it doesn't seem to fit with your other readings.

I don't think you need to do anything at this early stage. See how it develops and just be yourself.

Now, needless to say all the above is my interpretation only so a big disclaimer...especially when it involves romantic relationships which are often highly complex variables at play. All I can say is, it SEEMS to me to be about as strong a green light as you could have. However, others might see it differently and I'd be interested to see what others interpret.

Self-protection is no bad thing depending on how long such a process has been going on and if you're sure that you're doing it for the right reasons. So too the issue of marriage. That is NEVER an easy thing to navigate when the spectre of a triangle is on the cards and this in itself suggests the utmost sensitivity and caution. Obviously, it depends entirely on what is going on in that department. More details required on that score.

Either way, I wish you well, and hope you find the outcome that is best for both of you - indeed the three of you...

 

[Lodestar]

Wow thank you so much for such a detailed response Topal. I really appreciate your time. It all rings true for me.

He strikes me as an extremely ethical and genuine individual and also someone who knows his own mind.

In the past I was always very black and white about the sanctity of marriage (raised catholic) until I spent years trying to get out of a long term relationship myself and finally got over my belief in longevity as inherently positive.

However that side is entirely up to him, and I would not expect him to involve me but to make his decision about the marriage on its own merits. I was very fair to my own partner when I left him, not getting involved with anyone and talking it through face to face - the hardest thing I've ever done in my life.. and I'm very proud I had the courage to do that.

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