love, but far away and there is still a third person.. 60, moved line 5 changed to 19

[Devajyoti]

he guys and girls.
I am back from my service in a vipassanaretreat and it just happend to me and a man from another country that we fell in love.
We went back home into our countries. We met in a third one.
Now there are restrictions...
Thats so interesting.
Because 60 as well speaks about them, isnt it?
Line 5 is the strongest line of that ching.

I feel sad... but we can write and I got some pictures in fb and one new.
He lives with family but wants to seperate somehow. I am not sure what I understood. He feels very lonely in his marriage because there is zero affection and love or sexuality coming from her. He describes her as very male.
But the children are gold and both care about them.

My children dont live with me but in a group and I thought those two and two could be good friends someday.
But what can I really do with this ching?

I know, 19 speaks about autumn as well as about spring.
Its spingtime and onee should do the best with it. In order to prepare for autumn.

 

[marybluesky]

Hello;

60.5 talks about suitable measures. He's married, so limit your relationship. Don't cross boundaries.

Good luck

 

[Yana-Rose]

60.5 Wilhelm/Baynes: Sweet limitation brings good fortune. Going brings esteem.

Hex 19 Wilhelm/Baynes (Image): The earth above the lake: the image of Approach. Thus the superior man is inexhaustible in his will to teach, and without limits in his tolerance and protection of the people.

I would say that you are more than aware of all the restrictions surrounding this situation. Accept those limitations. Your expectations need to be realistic now and your behaviour pragmatic. At the moment all this is highly emotional for you and I would say that the advice here is to step back a bit from your emotions and romantic wishes and try to approach the situation as would you to a ‘business project’ – analysing pros and cons, taking into consideration all facts and all people involved and so on. This approach needs to be objective as much as possible and not hurt anyone involved. You’ll see then where this will bring you.

 

[Devajyoti]

60.5 Wilhelm/Baynes: Sweet limitation brings good fortune. Going brings esteem.

Hex 19 Wilhelm/Baynes (Image): The earth above the lake: the image of Approach. Thus the superior man is inexhaustible in his will to teach, and without limits in his tolerance and protection of the people.

I would say that you are more than aware of all the restrictions surrounding this situation. Accept those limitations. Your expectations need to be realistic now and your behaviour pragmatic. At the moment all this is highly emotional for you and I would say that the advice here is to step back a bit from your emotions and romantic wishes and try to approach the situation as would you to a ‘business project’ – analysing pros and cons, taking into consideration all facts and all people involved and so on. This approach needs to be objective as much as possible and not hurt anyone involved. You’ll see then where this will bring you.

Well thank ou.

After every course in VIP it is not easy to come back into the world and this was the least I expected. He is like "everything is perfect" and I like to read his letters.
He suffered in his marriage and had asked for divorce before he met me.
And he wants to come visit.
Further I dont know.

We have corona closing the borders.

It was the least I was expecting at that time and maybe thats the reason why it happened.

It was good for both of us, giving peace and love.

Sharing some mutual feelings.

And we write. Just a bit.

I gave him astrological analysis of his relationship and his childrens potentials.
I even considered it might help him get her back into what he wishes it to be. But I doubt that will work.

Another VIP student told me about the history of her marriage. He as well had another friend, not married, toxic. They have been writing only for 6 months...
The seperation with the other person had to happen anyway.
She said that is often the case

I would not feel good when I would force me to doubt it.
As he sais: All is perfect.
Thats as well written in our combin.

I dont think I do any harm to anyone.

I was just dreaming about his boys playing with my girls...
and we share dreams.

 

[Devajyoti]

I mean we told each other about our lifes and there is some understanding.
and we tell each other about dreams of the night. Those with a fundamental meaning and somehow those related to love.

I would not ask anyone to judge this.

We were both about the rules. Always. But somehow, as my teacher said, breaking of the rules is part of the service.

Others of the service are happy for us or me

Even the teacher(s).

But yes, I have trouble going back into the real world.

Vipassana Service is great.
Finding love is great.
and it lasts, no matter what.
We continue with our lives, however they are.
I am careful.
I am loving and kind.
What else could I be?