Love Help

[shefa]

What if I were more physically assertive with this man? 48.5 to 46

And yet despite this reading, and evidence in real life to support it being well received, I hesitate. So I asked, Give me some insight into my hesitation? 41.2.5.6 to 3

Oh, what is a girl to do ?

 

[dobro p]

The Yi seems to be stating the obvious in answer to your questions.

What if I were more physically assertive with this man? 48.5 to 46

48's about drawing on depth, and 48.5 is about drawing on a good source of depth, so if you got more physically assertive with him, you're drawing on a good source of depth (this might be emotion, because sometimes the Well is about love, but it could equally be about sex, considering the focus of your question; then again, it could indicate nothing more than a really juicy experience with him, about getting deeper with him). In any event, it'll take things to a higher level of some sort (46).

And yet despite this reading, and evidence in real life to support it being well received, I hesitate. So I asked, Give me some insight into my hesitation? 41.2.5.6 to 3

41's about sacrifice and 3 is about beginnings, so the Yi seems to be saying 'your hesitation means you're sacrificing getting started with the guy'. Duh.

Oh, what is a girl to do ?

Since the Yi seems to be stating the obvious (if you get physically assertive things get interesting, if you hesitate then nothing gets started), why not ask it what it thinks of the relationship generally for you? Keep in mind though that if you never *do* anything about what the Yi gives you that there's the risk that the Yi will reflect that in what it gives you - it'll be giving answers appropriate and useful for a woman who never acts on what it gives her.

 

[willowfox]

It looks to be quite a successful thing to do, sometimes, one just has to take the lead and get the ball rolling.

I suppose you are hesitating because you feel that it is not for you to start but the other lines say just to get on with it.

 

[shefa]

Oh thank you, Dobro, for taking your time to respond here. You said to me what I have had a difficult time saying to myself. Willow, I do not want to spoil what we currently have, and yes, I do want him to initiate, but there has been some playful talk and I know he is open to something. This is the same man I wrote about in the other thread. So you can also see that I am also treading the tiger, and I want to be both careful and provocative.

 

[willowfox]

Sorry, my brain has melted and having great difficulty do any readings today. I now see your dilemma as the other reading is telling you to becareful with him and this one is telling you to go for it. Well, if you are getting along okay, see how the land lies between you because 48.5 certainly suggests that you have something of benefit to offer him.

 

[knotxx]

well

I have often gotten 48 when I ask about sex. I think sex must be a well of some kind.

 

[proserpine]

Yes, I believe sex is a well of a sort.
I agree that the I is suggesting you make a move--I believe line 5 of #48 refers to being "a clear source of drinking water" and that just making that *known* to him will encourage him.You don't have to completely push sex if that is not your nature--but--by eing more openly receptive--by being warm, and affectionate, you may start something off. Know what I'm saying now?

 

[shefa]

Thank you or all the wonderful support here. Well, you will all be proud of me because I made a move. It was actually pretty easy because he gave an opening of sorts, and I responded more directly, and boom. He was right there. It was brief, but at least now we both know we are both open. What will happen next? My sense is that I am still treading the tiger, so I will remain careful yet provocative. Regarding my 48.5 to 46 ... do you all think this means I need to go step by step? I know that 46 can be difficult. But perhaps the emphasis of the reading is really just on the line? I welcome any additional thoughts.