Love life and 52

[WindRose]

Goodmorning everyone!

I'm brand nee in this community and I would like to ask you for your opinion on a consultation whose question is particularly close to my heart.

The question I asked is if I will ever find a right person for me, with whom I could be happy and build a family (just the two of us or with kids).

I've always felt like I didn't need anyone, and I've never let anyone get close to me emotionally, nor have I ever allowed myself to really let things go. I discovered as a child that the people you care about are the ones who can hurt you the most, and I've always acted accordingly to this statement.
I have had several stories, even long term ones, but no one was really right for me.

Now I'm starting to realize that I'm probably losing something important and start feeling alone. Hence the question. I probably didn't put it right and the 52 without changing lines honestly discourages me.
I had a big delusion recently, just when I was trying to open up, and I'm mentally confused so I don't understand if this 52 hides advice on how to get what I want or if it takes away my hopes.

Could anyone help interpreting this result or suggest how to ask the question correctly?

Thanks to everyone who'll try to help me

 

[Luise74]

Hi Wind rose,
52 represents two mountains as far as I know or two people back to back, no communication, silence. It could mean keep silent,di not move as you can’t know what is happening in your backyard. But I would prefer an optimistic outlook and say keep quiet, who knows if happiness will follow you.
Of course people who claim to can hurt you the most, those we do not care can’t hurt us as they will not get so close.
Wish you good luck.

 

[diamant]

Hi @WindRose,

if I will ever find a right person for me, with whom I could be happy and build a family
52 uc / unchanging
52 shows stability. The Image advises to 'not permit his thoughts to go beyond his situation'.
You say you feel confused, due to a recent delusion.
I think 52 is urging you here to acquire inner stability first.

the people you care about are the ones who can hurt you the most
That is not accurate in my experience. Only people who are abusive will hurt you - again and again. Kind-hearted people will go out of their way to not hurt you, and if they involuntarily do hurt you, they'll go out of their way to make it up to you. Think about it.

 

[WindRose]

Thanks you so much for your answers. You're right, only abusive ones make you suffer, but I'm always afraid that I might find abusive people again and again.

I'll try to get to my inner stability and see what happens. I realized today that when I asked the question I was in a very confused and anxious state and I might also have influenced the result with my mood.
In my experience I get accurate answers when my mind is completely free...

Did you experience this too? Did it happen that you influenced the result with your mood?

 

[diamant]

I haven't experienced this, i.e. my mood affecting the cast. The cast has a mind of its own, and many times the cast says something completely different of what my logic (or mood) tells me.

52 shows two mountains together. I guess (and I hope) that this might mean two stable people together. You're correct in worrying that you'll come across more abusive people, there are way too many of them around. However, there's no need to be afraid. As long as you know how to recognise fishy ones, and get away from them early on, then they can't harm you.

 

[redoleander]

52UC might be saying to gather yourself. I think of it like when a child says “But why?” a number of times and a loving adult eventually says “Don’t worry about it yet”. There is an answer it’s just not apparent today. I think it’s also saying what will bring you closer to this that you want, to not struggle against anything right now. Be genuinely still but not repressing. There are some lines in there about not repressing things. And also about being genuinely still and meditative. Feel what you feel. Don’t act on it. Just be with it. I think that will open the path.

 

[WindRose]

Thank you so much for you're answers and sorry if I didn't reply before, but I've had some clarity to do. I've tried asking "what should I do in order to find someone that's right for me?" and received 52.3.5>20, so I guess you were all right saying I need to relax and work on myself.

 

[diamant]

what should I do in order to find someone that's right for me?
52.3.5 > 20

When you feel that your heart is breaking in two, do not say a word - instead, examine the situation very carefully. Hidden line is 23.5, a string of fishes, symbolising a string of affairs.

This might be referring to your recent delusion, as you called it. Before you move forward, maybe examine and come to terms with what happened. If you examine it in depth, hopefully you will avoid the same scenario happening again in the future.

So, in order to find someone who is right for you, I think you might need to deal first with being heart-broken in the past.

 

[WindRose]

Hi everyone!

It's been a few months since I've opened this thread and I'd like to get you updated.

During these months the person that I mentioned for whom I've had a big delusion, contacted me again and we started talking again as before, but then again thing went wrong. I've felt broken again, but I'm putting myself back together.
This "relationship" was mostly virtual. In several months we saw each other just two times. I'll probably write another post about this situation, but regarding the question I've asked moths before and that 52 unchanging this is what I thought:
I think the guy I've had this "relationship" with probably has some emotional issues that block him from having a proper relationship. I would have seen him more than just twice. I probably would have seen him every week but I realized that in a certain way I was feeling comfortable not giving my all. I wanted a true relationship with him but I just didn't "push" things that way. Probably forcing him wouldn't have worked anyways, but the worrying fact is that eve though I was sad for not seeing him, it was also a relief.

So I thought that maybe, that 52 was representing myself towards finding love. I was probabily so scared that I was just expecting for things to happen without doing anything myself. Without really getting involved. Maybe that 52 wasn't an advise, but reflected how I was acting and my stillness.

Today I've asked the same question. If I'll ever find someone to love and trust that could love me and make me happy. I've received 1 unchanging.
Again, it is a bit difficoult to understand for me but I've read tha it could mean that creative energy is moving through this situation. So, could it be that now I'm finally more open to find, feel and receive love?

I've also read this:
Dragon stirring unexpressed = action is needed to give it form. The Creative unchanging shows powerful feelings or inspiration not acted upon. It can be a warning that insecurity may be inhibiting your ability to see opportunity when it presents itself. It can symbolize focusing on the hope that something will transpire rather than taking the active steps to make it manifest. Some sort of action is necessary to bring this opportunity into form. Like a fruitful seed that has landed on a rock, you need only move it into the soil of purposeful action so that it can grow. Otherwise it will remain as the dream of a flower that dried up and blew away in the wind because you failed to nurture it. You may have heard the call to do something but your fear is holding you back. A creative or transformative opportunity is in gestation and requires time before the birth of inspiration reveals itself.

So again, I don't understand if it is auspicious or if it's an advice.

I would really appreciate you opinions!