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What will happen in love or sex in this month.Unchanging 42.O this talks about something that grows...very generic. I have been reading the posts in here and they all sounded grear but i constantly don't find this happiness. I didn't have sex for about 9 years which sounds abnormal especially at my age and the fact I'm not even ugly (people usually compliment me and I receive some looks) so people don't believe that at all and in fact i dont say it to anyone!! Obviously. Actually my values are a lot questioned, like for example i ran into a guy who was just selling his stuff but there was a lot of eye contact and he said good day and then he had fun making so many jokes... After all of this he got me into buying some of his stuff, so I don't think he was interested and after that episode in which i forced myself to act I felt my self esteem down again and less appreciated. Plus the second person I thought about for a lot time, who i had met on a dating app, wasn't able to get to know me better before meeting eachother... I took a break of a month to see if he missed me or made some effort, but after the initial interest (he seemed to be sincere about that, ugh!) i discovered that in the meanwhile he had had sex with another girl (and who knows, maybe also others).Honestly i don't really deserve this lack of sex and affection for this lot of time and for my age because i have been alone in my youth times, while people worse than me always have someone and treat you this way. Really im sick of this because everyone else hangs out and meets random people then they even talk about love, when well, i was waiting for someone special opposite to what all the others do. I am fed up, i want mutual interest with the ones i may like but this never happens, and if it does it brings to deceivement before someone concrete happens. As i said my rigid values got questioned and i thought this dating app guy was interested but no, they always have fish in the pond. I have been thinking about past crushes and keeping them still secret, i really have no clue if i will find someone. My last crush lasted 6 months before we fell apart, we met eachother for other reasons but in 6 months he didn't even touch me. Whats ****ing wrong with me. As time goes i am more and more lonely and ''afraid'' of meeting someone, lol. So, sorry for long talk, the casting would be encouraging but it is unchanging and makes me think nothing will develop the way i hoped... As usual....
 
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oh, basically to forget about the 6-months-platonic-crush where nothing ever happened except one small fight well he wanted to be right and i let it go, i wrote to that dating app guy, i thought i would have joked but he wanted more concrete things. Which sounded just boring...boring and empty. I thought he was interested and something magical might have come later after meeting as friends, but after one month in which he wasn't even looking for me i called him and he even had the face to tell me ''i told you what i want for now from you, if you dont accept you are free to make that decision''. As if he didnt care a little bit. Well i guess beauty is nothing because at the start he looked interested and then...
 
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so that was a small resumé of the recent past. Now what is 42 telling me exactly? Did any of you experience it in love matters?
 
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42 is "Benefit"- also "Increase".
Seems like the chance to receive love/sex increases for you during July. Whatever happens is for good.
 

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42 is "Benefit"- also "Increase". Seems like the chance to receive love/sex increases for you during July. Whatever happens is for good.
Thank you mary blue sky! I really want so. Blessings for you, take care
 

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the question is about love life and unchanging 42 clearly indicates increase :) the image and judgement also point to a time of personal growth (in my view), so it could be the month to love yourself and then keep it with you for good, so that you can "undertake something" and finally "cross the great water" (as in Wilhelm's translation)?
 

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Hey thanks Legume!I want to update the post.... An old crush, the boy who didn't make efforts for me, suddenly came up as there was no contact for a year, and he kissed me for long. It was an horrible french kiss and i kept feeling awkward like there wasn't chemistry between us unlike the past. He insisted even if i wasn't willing to do anything but then well it went fine because i stopped him when he was doing something indecent in front of people.I swear i felt weird but ok. That was an experience (and he was looking SO good at least).
 
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the question is about love life and unchanging 42 clearly indicates increase :) the image and judgement also point to a time of personal growth (in my view), so it could be the month to love yourself and then keep it with you for good, so that you can "undertake something" and finally "cross the great water" (as in Wilhelm's translation)?
Well actually i tried to improve my image and be a little more open, with still my limits, u know. Before the episode i told you in here where we reconciled this way because he left me with no words, another somewhat crazy person approached me in a bus stop, we talked for a while, he tried to persuade me to come to a party, i wanted to go but darn i was afraid of not knowing anyone. And well, i asked him the social media contact... He said "write to me" but he should have written to me xD! Damn, he didn't... I liked a picture and then sent him a message where i asked him in a funny way where did he disappear.He makes me wait for an answer..... Guess he has to think about it! Ahahhha lol
 
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Update: received 2 invitations, one by the quite handsome guy (the one of the lame french kiss) and other one i dont care about (just friendship!) I refused but he insists. Anxiety is controlling.
 
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So there have been indeed opportunities to extend your love life- and we're still in the middle of July.
 

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So there have been indeed opportunities to extend your love life- and we're still in the middle of July.
i feel silly for wasting these opportunities!!!!!!!!i could have been out with some guys and instead no because i got influenced by someone else's fears and plans so i had to postpone mine...
 
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Update:I was still mad at that person, and only for "pride" I refused him.Basically it was the guy who behaved in a childish manner one year ago and kept asking about me to other people. Instead of telling me, my friends have hidden that till now and said he was always liked me. Even some new friends and virtual ones who never had to face that guy as I did, have said "he missed you" (u can't be serious), "he always liked u and u don't believe that" (that must be a prank), "he can have all the girls he wants in the meanwhile " (excuse me?! U are saying he can replace me?!). "he kissed u like that because he missed u and it may have not worked so he exaggerated" (u are so wrong). "he doesn't treat u like a whore because he ASKED U OUT! (after a kiss, what do u think he wants? To get to know me?) Sorry, that's what i had to listen...and I'm quite angry because i can value things without those stupid comments but they keep opening their mouths about that, even though they wouldn't tell those advices if their niece or nephew hanged out with a man like that. And after they have said this, one of them told me he is superficial and is interested only in the body and follows the same script with other girls. But he liked me.What the f... Well i have refused him for 2 weeks by staying "yeah Maybe we hang out, what do u want to do" When he said he wanted to see me not just him and me i was thinking he wasn't interested in seeing me but in seeing me drunk to accept passively the horrible kiss of last time. Also, i think he asks me out only during the weekend not because he misses me as everybody says but because he sees others during the week. No guys i dont know if it's better to be an hermit, it sucks, but those comments just induced me to react defensively.The fact is that all men do that, all guys do that, to come back when they have no girl around, they never lack of girl to have company with... And me? I'm still hermit because after that kiss i didnt meet anybody. Aaaaaaalso, the guy i have met 2 weeks ago isn't answering because im so sure he has another girl in his hands right now. That sucks, they always have 5 girls around to never be alone, while instead I'm always alone and complaining about one idiot around. I just don't want to have only him around or I'd feel like his random company. I was thinking also that all these friends and virtual friends commenting are more comprehensive with him than with me.. They seem not wanting my good... For example, "he missed u", then what should i say that i lusted him for 2 years and he never used that straightforward approach to me before?They answered he saw me more open, but i wasn't more open. He was more "insisting". I don't know what third parties told him actually... But he should have not cared about rumors. And also nobody told me he liked me but i knew, the fact is that like all the guys he is always searching for a girl and comes back when he is left alone..AFTER ONE YEAR I HAD BEEN FEELING MYSELF FINALLY new again... It was in March that i had finally been able to forget about that idiot, and he comes back insisting to see me to kiss me and see me drunk in front of friends ? AhahahAnd guys are all like this...
 
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Love (or whatever) in July.
One thing about 42 that people often discount or never pay attention to is put forth in the image:

Bradford: The noble young one, accordingly,
When seeing the good, as a rule, makes improvements
When having transgressed, as a rule, makes corrections.


So, it also has a meaning of:
Us making mistakes, and learning better ways to go about things,
improving ourselves. and by doing these things we have Increase.

The title of your thread may point to your attitude about sex and love. It reads as if you just want sex, and love and compatibility are just an afterthought. Any truth to that?
 
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42 indicates that two very important things should be done: give, help, sacrifice for the others in any interaction with others and, as said in above post, correct your faults and imitate the good qualities in others.
So generosity and self correction are very important in 42.
 

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One thing about 42 that people often discount or never pay attention to is put forth in the image: Bradford: The noble young one, accordingly,When seeing the good, as a rule, makes improvementsWhen having transgressed, as a rule, makes corrections.So, it also has a meaning of: Us making mistakes, and learning better ways to go about things, improving ourselves. and by doing these things we have Increase.The title of your thread may point to your attitude about sex and love. It reads as if you just want sex, and love and compatibility are just an afterthought. Any truth to that?
I wanted that guy BEFORE, i desired him physically one year ago, and he comes like this, and only NOW. He was such a lame kisser and i didn't like that, his approach lacked of something important too that is called respect, i think... My friends say he was as fearful as me...
 

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Thanks for the feedbacks guys, I also note that the young man who approached me after a bachelor day (and who asked me to write to him) disappeared after one or two messages... He is in vacation but basically that's called ignoring a person u like so Hmm, how is it related to the hexagram?
 

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