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dan2

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I met a girl some time ago and I instantly fell in love with her. After some time of being 'friends' (though we were seeing each other very rarely) I asked her out, but she turned me down and suggested, that she doesnt find me attractive.
I waited a while and asked her out to theater, this time she accepted, but said that 'its not a date'. We had nice time there and some talk afterwards, but thats all.

Then, being a bit confused, I asked I-Ching 'does she love me?' and I got hex 2 with no changing lines.
Later I asked 'will we be together soon?' and I got hex 15 with no changing lines.
Quite positive answers, so a month after our last meeting I asked her out again (we couldnt see each other earlier, because shortly after our last meeting she was gone to visit her family in other town, and later I went for a two weeks business trip). This time she said that she sees no point in meeting me again.
So i figured out that I'll ask i-ching again about her love(maybe something has changed?). This time i got hex 55 no changing lines. Another very positive (am I wrong?) hexagram.

So, the question is.... does she really love me but for some reason she just keep on boycotting my person, or was the oracle wrong? Or maybe I am wrong because I misinterpreted the results?

Thanks for any help.
Dan
 

maria22

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Okie so I've been reading this....Ok first she said she doesn't like you....The she went out with you saying "this is not a date".
Apart from what I know about I Ching, why care asking if she loves you?She obviously said she doesn't find you attractive...I mean I could understand asking a question like that if you two where flirting or been on a date or two,but she made what she feels for you obvious.
Readiing about hex55 yeah it looks positive...But what you said can't make me think of anything but that "Things are simple she made it clear-end of story-"
But I am just a Junior member. :)Lets see what other people might say
 

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Hi,
I am also a novice here but I think that what the person is telling you is prevailing over the IC. I think you should listen carefully to her and act accordingly even if it's not at all what you want.
Take care,
Irma
 

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'does she love me?' and I got hex 2 with no changing lines.

Hex 2 is a passive hex showing no outward action, showing that she does not love you.

'will we be together soon?' and I got hex 15 with no changing lines.

Here we have a hex that suggests modesty and simplicity indicating that you will indeed to be alone.

So i figured out that I'll ask i-ching again about her love(maybe something has changed?). This time i got hex 55

I see hex 55 saying that she is the one that is in the ascendant, as you are not her goal and she is not in a relationship with you, in fact she doesn't want to know you then there is no abundance of love for you at all.
 

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It's always difficult to have feelings for someone who doesn't reciprocate and the temptation to ask the Yi how someone really feels can be overwhelming, but she is being honest with you and in situations like this you don't have to ask the oracle for something that has already been provided.

Consider what other issues in your life the Yi might be pointing to with the responses you received.
 

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Dan, Regrets about the disappointing experience, hope you find a woman who loves you mutually soon.

i wanted to point out that i dont think the I Ching was "wrong"...your answers were not necessarily a "yes"
2 could be read as passivity as wf says
15 gently advising you to have the humility required to understand that no means no
and 55 is significant of the apex, no moving lines, this is as good as this will ever get, time to move on.
Good luck with finding the right partner!
 

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Dan, it sounds like instantly falling in love with someone may not be the best road to cultivating a healthy relationship. It happens,, but ... And don't think it's necessarily OVER with her unless she says 'get the hell outta here'. It just depends on whether or not you can maintain and be patient to see if things change in her and possibly in you. It has been known to happen. But it seems like a heavy investment. Why did you fall so hard for her? You gotta ask yourself some REAL questions pal.

I know .. I'm near hopeless about a guy now ... but I just keep sending him unconditional love in prayers and thoughts and that's how I deal with my feelings for him. It helps to express love for people without necessarily getting everything you want back when you feel as helpless as i do.
My reading for him was 36/4 (Nuc 40, Evo 54) to 55 (Nuc 28, Evo 58)
[36 Ming Yi line 4 / 55 Feng]

Peace and good luck - everyday is a new day
 
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