Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
It helped me remember what I said to someone else earlier today - this is line position 4, and 4th lines are said to be the minister's line. Ministers are the people who get things done, so this line might reflect that you feel you should do something, and then it says what would happen if you do (failure, embarrassment).Line 50.4 reminds you to be very cautious and not to spoil what you've got
I jave a boyfriend of 2 1/2 years. It has been quite a challenging relationship and quite unstable, but there is also a lot of love there. But also insecurity, mostly on my side, because when we first were together he wasn't into mongamy, there were some moments when he really let me down etc... But we have talked about that and they are slowly being repaired. We are monogamous. My main issue is him being emotionally present and atuned to me which he is quite inconsistent with. I can be ok with that, potentially, if I could understand what is going on for him.
Anyway, when we split up for 2 months last year he became close with a friend and their relationship has really evolved since then. They play music together (both musicians), he admires her look a lot and they are in touch a lot, they plan on having lots of quite sexy band photos together. Recently she had a meltdown and was sectioned for a week. It was very sudden and shocking. Her parents called him as the first 'port of call' and he gave her a lot of emotional support including letting her stay at his the first night she came out.
This in itself shocked me because I hadn't realised how clsoe they has become that he would be this person for her. I didn't react very well when I realised this was the case, so instead of being supportive to him, I was sort fo freaking out.
She has issues with her parents who she lives with so she didn't have anywhwre to go (don't know abiut other firends, she is younger so I guess that they mostly lived with parents and because of Corona she couldn't stay with them). He is very much into helping her and very distracted by her emotional needs right now.
I am finding it all very difficult and hard to know how to behave (can't tell if i'm being paranoid or reasonable or what to do).
I have expressed all this to him but the conversation was not very productive (him feeling defensive, me feeling hurt/maybe coming across as accusative or something). I know they are just friends, I don't think he would cheat on me with her, but the level of emotional dependency and reliance and the ammount of time they are in contact etc bothers me.
He has told me that they are just friends and that there is nothing I need to worry about there. She and I have been in touch a little, she said she was sorry she crashed at his and empathised with me, and I said that was ok so yeah, that's it. She is nice, young, quite self-involved, very attention seeking, very gorgeous, but not a bad person. Seems nice enough, don't know her that well but she is friendly to me and obviously knows that i am his gf.
Anyway, basically I have realised that the issue is really me and him being unstable, so when things like this happen it really shakes me.
And our instability is to do with other things, and we were in a period of trying to sort this out when her whole drama came alogn and sort of stole the show, distracting us both from what we need to talk abiut as a couple regardless. Our hang outs have now become dominated by talking about their relationship, beause I am distracted by it and so is he and I can't relax into just having a nice time with him because am worrying about them. Sigh. So now instead of me and him talking about our issues that were there before her drama came along, we've now expended a huge ammount of energy talking about my difficulties with their relationship. And it's like we don't have any more energy to talk about our stuff.
Long story - anyway, here are my readings and questions. Any light on what I should do, what persepctive I need to take, what is the best way with the most integrity of dealign with this situaiton would be amazing:
Please advise me with regards the (man name) and (woman name) situation:
50.2.4.6 - 15
What is it I need to see about this situation between (man) and (woman):
51.2 - 18 (is this saying I shouln't chase?? If he's 'mine' then he'll come back to me when this has died down, or I'll lose him, in which case he was never 'mine' to begin with....that I am reacting in exactly the way he/one would expect and that's what is causing the problem).
Is it worth talking about me and (man) and the foundation between us (- this is like instead of talking about them, should I have just talked about us and our issues):
11.1 - 46 (seems to be talking about action, but what action.... yes things are more entangled than i thought).
And this morning (him and I were planning on meeting today):
Please advise me on the best way forward with X (man) at this point:
54 - 4 - 19
54 - subordinate position right? there's nothing I can do, perhaps I overshot and spoke too much or showed too much emotion? So basically just leave him to approach me and to approach the topic? But without letting go of my principles??
Out of curiousity, do you do a daily iching reading - what is your iching practice? I seem to use it in emergencies when I am all het up and then it's very hard sometimes to actually read and understand what it is saying. Learning slowly.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).