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Thanks for your reply, I don't see it that way. You don't know if they are a happy couple, nor if there is any serious compromise there. Most boyfriends are afraid of compromises and don't care about fidelity.
Also, marriage is a different thing... If they were married, I would probably just get over it.
Thanks for your response, Gene. I should have made this clear from the start. She has shown interest in many different ways, even done outrageous flirting with me in the past without getting noticed. The problem is, she doesn't acknowledge it openly and sometimes gets cold about our attraction.
She doesn't want me to force anything, because she already got upset at my advances and even hinted at alerting her boss... Her excuse was that I offended her position as a teacher, but later on she looked in my direction in a very sexual way.
There are lot's of contradictory signals here. She seems like an ethical person but has gone out of her way to flirt with me many times. She is attracted to me but doesn't recognize it.
Note: I am not looking for a fling, but a serious relationship. I really do respect her.
Does it matter if they are not happy? Would you like some guy to move in on your girl if you and her are having issues?
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If all of us acted dishonorably whenever we had the opportunity then sooner or later it will happen back to us. This is your world, is that how you want it to be?
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She doesn't want me to force anything, because she already got upset at my advances and even hinted at alerting her boss... Her excuse was that I offended her position as a teacher, but later on she looked in my direction in a very sexual way.
There are lot's of contradictory signals here. She seems like an ethical person but has gone out of her way to flirt with me many times. She is attracted to me but doesn't recognize it.
Note: I am not looking for a fling, but a serious relationship. I really do respect her.
If I were in the boyfriend's position and our relationship have reached a dead end... I would prefer someone to come in and force it to a close, assuming I don't have the determination to end it myself. Even better if I don't find out what really happened. It's painful to be in a no win situation.
Many times relationships turn too cozy, when things are not working anymore...
You're not in his position since you aren't man enough. That's why he has the girl and you don't.
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If that is how you really feel then stop hiding behind the I Ching and go up to them and tell them what you think. But be sure to first go to the toilet, get some toilet paper and dry your tears.
I will add one more thing here, then I think I will shut up on this issue. The way the woman is acting shows emotional imbalance on her part, and you do not want to get involved with this. It is extremely dangerous. That also shows in line four of the reading. I think that when we are attracted to emotionally imbalanced women we need to take a look at our own balance as well. This is a dangerous situation. It appears innocent but it is not.
Gene
precision grace said:I don't know how old you are (presumably not over 18 because your understanding of women is very limited, but even if this woman IS attracted to you (which, I frankly doubt, no disrespect to you), she clearly does not want to do anything about it other than flirt. So, if you have any sense you will leave this well alone. And don't say later that all of us didn't warn you.
How do you interpret 51.4?
I know you are not speaking to me but traditionally, 51.4 basically speaks of overcoming self destructive behavior.
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The Shen Shuo line 310 says:
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"The cowardly and meager are the beggars of life.
For they wait upon the offerings of others and seek contentment in scraps and dregs.
Glorifying them as sacred, dressing them up with illusions, denouncing the superior as being merely equal.
Casting fantasies, cursing life with nihilistic anger
And in the rarest case: accepting the consequences of their inability to attempt heroic action."
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If you get this line it would represent you current stage of life or state of being you are in.
If my Chinese and English were both better I would translate the whole book.
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