Make like a tree and split

[psychonaut613]

There has been a pattern of narcissistic triangulation targeted at me from family that has been going for ages. I have parents and an aunt with varying degrees of NPD traits and since a young child, parents targeted me and made an example of me and stuff like that and other siblings went along with it at times and also defended me at times. Now we all still live in the same general area, so there has been conflict and such, but ...

Last year, my brother's wife, for reasons unfathomable, decided to start talking the s**t and telling everybody what a raging, sloppy drunk I am. Just laying it on real thick. And not just that, there was other stuff said about me unrelated to drinking. For the record I confine my drinking to weekends and days off and sometimes do get quite drunk but I do it responsibly as in no driving, fights, jail, etc., however looks like everybody simply bought into all this... It doesn't help that most involved have a strict religious upbringing that demonizes any amount of alcohol consumption. Interestingly enough, I have seen said brother's wife quite drunk a few times.

Ever since then, things have gotten much harder for me and family treats me with way less respect and anytime I talk feelings or anything like that I get it thrown back at me like it is my fault what I get in life because I need to get my s**t together

So I asked about the meaning of all this and got hex 6. I asked what I can do about it and 40 deliverance, sounds like that plan I've had to just leave them all, leave this state is a go? Not quite ready to let go of family but I can't live a life with no support and it looks as if they will never change, so I asked if leaving, Delivering myself is the way to go and got 23.3>52. Sometimes I cast coins and sometimes I do a reading using an online site, in this case it was eclectic energies and for line 3 says, "Removing this. Without fault. Breaking ties. This is not a mistake."

Hmm..? But 52?

 

[diamanda]

What a situation... sorry to hear you have to go through such rubbish.

the meaning of all this 06 un
Arguments, conflict. They're aggressive people, don't expect anything good from them, they won't change.

what I can do about it 40 uc
Let go, don't engage. I'd say get rid of them, but you said you don't want to, so put the whole thing in the rubbish bin mentally. Don't give any value to their aggressive attitude, don't take it seriously.

I asked if leaving, Delivering myself is the way to go 23.3 > 52
If you split from all of them you'll find calmness and stability.

 

[becalm]

Totally agree with Diamanda!! This ‘story’ sounds similar to my family situation and the readings reflect what I did.
Knew there was no point nt in Arguing they are who they are and they’d made up their mind who I was - Truth or not...
I Released myself from their Toxicity
and totally Splitting from them gave me the chance to just be Me.

 

[rosada]

Perhaps 52. Keeping Still as the resulting hexagram is advising you that you needn't make your exit a big drama. Make your plans to move and then quietly tell the family. Maybe go to each one individually and simply explain that you're not mad or blaming anyone, you just need to take a break from it all.

Perhaps the Image for 6uc is reminding you that everything happens by agreement. "If rights and duties are agreed to at the beginning then there is no need for Conflict. " Do you think on some soul level you agreed to incarnate in this lifetime to be the family whipping boy? No? Then remind yourself regularly, "I didn't agree to this sh*t!!!" and give yourself permission to leave.

 

[Matali]

Hello
23.3 : For this line, here is a very interesting translation of one of my favorite sites Wengutartarie.com:

"Six in the third place means:
He splits with them. No blame.
An individual finds himself in an evil environment to which he is committed by external ties. But he has an inner relationship with a superior man, and through this he attains the stability to free himself from the way of the inferior people around him. This brings him into opposition to them of course, but that is not wrong."

One question : do you live with them or are you independent ? Because if you live in your own home, I think it's pretty easy to let go and realize the big difference between you and them, and see them only when you feel like it.... And above all to be happy with your life and your friends

 

[veavea]

There may be call to take drastic action but I usually read the I Ching as guiding me to make attitude changes rather than big external changes (they may become necessary too, but inner change first). You can split with them in your mind without physically moving, potentially - certainly asking their advice or asking for their support doesn’t seem feasible so what can you do? Just don’t do it. Don’t engage. Separate yourself from them mentally and reassess the situation.

 

[psychonaut613]

Here is an update. I distance myself from them, It actully helps, really havent found a way to escape from them yet, economy is sh*t in the states, but also a concern of mine is my niece and nephew, same aforementioned sister in law, they love me, but if I leave, I am worried they will live the same childhood as me, no one to turn to or really talk to, at least they have me, they really liven up around me, obvi they feel they can let go and not be so judged around me. Still looking