Marriage problems/to leave spouse or not?

[rosa17]

Hi there,

Can someone please help me with this one?

My husband is clearly having a midlife crisis. I dont recognise him anymore. He wants to leave but we have three small children. I asked the YI what happens next in our relationship?

I received

Hexagram 20 - Kuan - Contemplation
Then I received Line 2 divided which is peeping from door and it is important for a female to be correct

The result is Hexagram 59 which is Dissolution - Does this mean it will end? Or will this blow over?

I am terribly depressed about all of this. Any help will be greatly appreciated. Thanks

 

[mryou1]

How exactly is he having a "midlife crisis"? I want to get a decent understanding of this situation before I try to assess the reading.

 

[rosa17]

It means he has sunk into deep depression. Does not want to be married any longer. Makes excuses not to be with his family. Criticizes and belittles his family. Says he would be better off alone. Is 45 and behaves like he is 20.

 

[dragona]

Perhaps this could speak to you, if you haven`t red form this before.
It is a heavy load on you to bare. http://www.iching123.com/20_text.htm

 

[pocossin]

What happens next in our relationship?
20.2 > 59

Hexagram 20 suggests to me that you look into the causes of your husband's depression, and line 2, that you do this from a distance without trying to talk things out with him. You could seek marriage counseling on your own. I think 59 is a turning point because you realize that you, rather than your husband, is the stable pillar in the marriage.