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Anyone can help interpret this.
After a year in our marriage, I know my husband is very vocal (he'll say things he's unhappy outright), if anger him by talking back and arguing with him to the limit, vulgarities will flow), a male chauvinistic, expects a lot from me. I am starting to feel stressed with him and sometimes look forward not seeing him.

But few weeks ago, I consulted I Ching and got Hex 31 and Hex 53 which is wooing and steady but slow progress.

So, yesterday I asked I Ching that since my husband's character is like that, what should I do to ensure a solid marriage. I got unchanging Hex 42. It looks good - increasing. Then today we had a hugh quarrel and I had never been so angry before. I exploded and shouted at him and I can't seem to be able to live with his temper any longer. It leads me into thinking about Hex 42 which can also mean an overflowing of emotions??

Then just now, I asked another similar question but I phrased it this way. What role should I play going forward. And I got Hex 43 changing lines 1 and 5. This time, it doesn't seem positive. It seems to be telling me to be more resolute and firm with him? Get him to see his mistakes and learn to cultivate? Line 1 says the beginning is especially tough. So this task will be very difficult. But how about Line 5?

Do you think I'm right in my interpretation for all the Hex I got? Hex42, then Hex 43?

Anyone able to help me?
 

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What kind of man is he?

Hi

Today I asked what kind of man my husband is? I've married him after knowing him only for a few months. I knew he was an angry man yet I still married him. He has 2 daughters from his previous marriage and lost the custody to his ex. Even so, his ex went against the court order and denied him any access to his girls. Hence, he is taking actions against her. I didn't want to get involved in their fight.

Anyway, I asked I Ching what kind of man is he? And I got unchanging Hex 1. Please anyone can tell me how to interpret this?

I'm really a confused person.:brickwall:
 

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Hello there,

I hope I can help by giving you my opinion on the casts. It should act as a reference for what you are currently experiencing. Because at the end of the day, you (not Yi ching) is going to make the most appropriate decision for your life.

So, your hexagrams.

Let's start with- what kind of man is he? Hex 1 unchanging
As you've put it, A Chauvinist. A man with high egos and never want to lose a battle. He likes to act like an Emperor and be treated like an emperor. Nobody, that is nobody shall utter the word "No" to him.

What should you do to ensure a solid marriage? Hex 42 unchanging
You have to learn about your man. It seems like there many sides of him that you are still unaware of. I would take hex 42 as to learning more about him to grow / flourish this marriage.

What role should you play (going forward)? Hex 43.1.5>31
Oooo this is tricky. Hex 43.1 suggests your need and urge to "go forward", setting things right and moving line 5 suggests to set your emotion "right". You have to have a stable emotion to understand your current situation and find a way to deal with it. When you are able to get a hand in it, hex 31 will play its role - mutual attraction, happy relationship.

Tifa x
 

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Why didn't I think of that?

Hi Tifa

Thanks.. I always thought of the Hex in terms of my actions. You brought up a very good point that its my emotions. I must set my emotions right...have a balanced emotions.

Ooh... I'm feeling more positive now
 

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hex 1 UC is often a lot of energy that cant/isnt going anywhere. When a human has a lot of pent up energy and no appropriate outlet, like an artistic passion, a sport or an intellectual passion, that energy comes out in way which are not good for anyone. Set this same energy to a good cause and, like many call it, it is very creative..productive.

Seeings as you are not him though unfortunately you have no control over how he directs his own energy.

All the best.
 

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Pent-up energy

Yes.. he has a lot of pent-up energy which is exhausting me. His difficult early years has toughened his outlook in life. His desire to be successful and rich. He is very goal oriented or result-oriented. He can't stand people who have more relaxed outlook in life or know how to enjoy life. I feel stressed if I try to wake up late in the morning, go for facials, or just want to laze around and do nothing. He'll find me unmotivating, lazy or etc etc. He'll find things for me to do. And he has a lot of anger and frustration for not seeing his two girls from his previous marriage and hence his fights in court with his ex wife. So this is unchanging Hex 1. And mine is Hex 53 line 1 and and 5 which is telling me to keep my frustration with him balanced?
 

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