most favourable outcome btwn 2?

[jwrig04]

Hello!

I wondered if someone would help me with a decision I have to take. There is somewhere I am expected to go that is important to another. I'd prefer not reveal too much detail on this occasion, except that it is a complicated scenario and past events, partly my fault, have made the event awkward. I know that if I don't go this will be difficult and awkward in the future for lots of parties concerned.

I also know that if I do go, this will also be awkward and difficult, as above, and for the person who it is important to and I will be scrutinised and will have to be very careful what I do and say. The consequence of not being careful and behaving according to what is expected, i think, would not be helpful in the future. I want to make the best decision but I am not sure which will have the best outcome.

I asked IC the outcome if I dont attend, I received
60.1.3.5> 46

and if I do, I received:
47.5> 40

They both seem to bring an imprived scenario eventually but in different ways. Not attending seems to suggest ok, but it would be good to try and make up for it with the person concerned, whereas attending seems to suggest to remember what I am there for and to concentrate on that and be myself and try to keep my head down and avoid the people who I may have troubles with...


Actually I dont think I have a clue what to do...Id really appreciate your ideas.
Thank you

 

[jwrig04]

I should add that the event really is a once in a lifetime opportunity that will be the sort of thing to tell ones grandchildren. Yet I just want to do what is right and not get carried away with the magnificance.

 

[mrmorrow]

i can see the problem may involve strong emotions .perhaps the issue should be laid to rest.staying indoors is the ideal option.but if you go i feel a surprise is instore for you.perhaps a good issue.fortune favours the brave.someone may feel ashamed-he who dares wins.

 

[willowfox]

I asked IC the outcome if I don't attend, I received
60.1.3.5> 46

Well, lines 60.1,3,5 says that there are obstacles to be overcome but you won't be able to do it quickly, there is a need to take your time, so you will need self control in the situation, if you show restraint and acted correctly then this other person will see you in a good light, so hex 46 suggests that you will actually make some progress with what ever the situation is and in the end you will achieve a successful outcome most likely with the help of someone..

and if I do, I received:
47.5> 40

It suggests that you want to do the right thing but you will be frustrated by someone who does not trust you perhaps and therefore you can expect immediate difficulties but if you believe what you are doing is for the good of all then things between you and the other party will improve in time. Hex 40 suggests that problems will slowly be resolved and the tension will ease up, then forgiveness for the past misdeeds will be given. Overall, it will be difficult at first, but persevering finally results in success.

So, you will achieve success either way.

 

[rosada]

60.1
Not going out of the door and the courtyard is without blame.

You wont make matters worse by not going.

60.3
He who knows no limitation
Will have cause to lament.
No blame.

But don't blame anyone else for your decision to stay home.
If you miss out on this adventure it's your own doing.

60.5
Sweet limitation brings good fortune.
Going brings esteem.

Make your apologies very polite, no need to suggest you are making a statement by not showing up.

46.
The superior man of devoted character
Heaps up small things
In order to achieve something high and great.

I see this as saying this bit of time out can set the tone for your future, that by not attending now you are putting yourself on a path that is headed for further estrangement.

The hexagrams for going seem to say that if you show up and don't make a big deal about the significance of your being there, just a few polite words - wish the bride and groom great happiness? - all the tension will be released.

So not going is understandable and acceptable, but going looks doable and not unpleasant. I vote you should go. Most likely in the surroundings of this Once In A LIfetime experience no one will be feeling to hang on to bad vibes.

 

[jwrig04]

Thank you for all of your input Rosada, Mrmorrow and Willowfox.
I went to the event a couple of weeks ago. I focused on the common intention for the event (Charitable) and made pleasantaries - it was fine if not a little tense, the strong emotions stem from feeling a little bit like a fish out of water amongst the people who were there. But I was introduced to many different people who were pleasant and well-mannered and it was fine. Ultimately I came away feeling positive and glad I went.