Move out? 39.2>48

[AllenWright]

I've been living with my gf for the past year. Now our lease is up next month with an option to renew it, but a few months back we had discussed that I would probably move out because of changing circumstances at work and my desire to move out of the area we currently live in. I'm having second thoughts because I love her and it's going to be painful to move away. I asked, "Is it best to leave or extend lease 1 yr?" and received 39.2>48... Are the obstacles here the changing circumstances at work? There is too much uncertainty on where I could potentially end up at. Then there's also my having second thoughts about the move. I asked a follow up question, "How will living apart impact our relationship?" and received 22 unchanging. I have no idea how to interpret this reading. Is this a positive reading? Or am I being naive.

 

[Liselle]

39.2: 'A king’s servant: limping and limping. In no way is he himself the cause.'

It might be harder to interpret because you asked two questions in one.

Imagine if you were talking to me.

You: "Is it best to leave or extend lease 1 yr?"
Me: "Yes."

See the problem?

You might want to start over and ask two questions. "What if I leave?" and "What if I stay?" Or some variation - if you like the "How will _______ affect our relationship?" format, you could ask two of those, just put "leaving" and then "staying" in the blank. However you want to word it - just ask one question at a time.

 

[Liselle]

Trying to get something out of 39.2 ... do you get anything out of it if you look at it very generally? What happens if you think of it like this:

"I asked Yi about this decision..." [in general, setting aside the specifics for a moment] "...and Yi gave me an answer which talked about difficulties that aren't my fault."

Can you identify what those things might be? What are the "difficulties" surrounding this decision? What's going on that you feel isn't your fault, or that you didn't cause, or that you didn't choose, and so forth?

Another thought - as you've said, there are several factors: your girlfriend, your work, the location. Do all of those have to be addressed? What happens if you ask about the effect on your relationship, and Yi tells you that, but there's still these other things?

 

[AllenWright]

Thank you for your advice. I asked, "How will staying affect our relationship?" and received 5.4.5.6>14..I also asked the variation "How will leaving affect our relationship?" and received 5.4>43... Prior to moving together i lived with my sister. She is alone and I worry about her being alone. Is this casting suggesting that I wait (as in not move out?), and not worry?

 

[Liselle]

That's so interesting that you got hexagram 5 for both readings! I'm on my way to work now but will try to look at this tonight, and maybe other people will have ideas.

If you left, would you move back with your sister?

 

[AllenWright]

Yeah, I would be moving back in with my sister.

 

[mulberry]

You have an interesting set of readings for moving vs. not moving, they're quite similar in a lot of ways which makes me wonder if there's something inevitable or already clear about the future, which makes the decision of whether or not to move less drastic (as in, the ultimate result won't be changed much by your choice).

There are some interesting experiences with 22 unchanging in here: https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/fri...eriences-with-Unchanging-Castings-Hexagram-22

39.2 is a tough one, it reinforces the sense of inevitable that the two 5 readings give me. In that line, you must confront challenges, setbacks, and hard times that are not your fault at all; you must just get through them. I would read it perhaps as, yes, there are problems at work, you aren't to blame for them, but you will have to just try to get through them for the sake of your relationship. But, as Liselle pointed out, it is impossible to interpret clearly with the way you phrased that one. Let's just leave it as Yi (the oracle) telling you, "Yes, AllenWright, this is a hard spot you're in. You did not bring it upon yourself."

The two 5 readings offer more to interpret. I received 5 and most of its lines repeatedly while going through a very difficult, touch-and-go pregnancy. In the end, I had a very healthy baby and we were both fine. In my worst moments, when things looked quite bleak, I received both 5.3 and 5.4 over and over. I think this was Yi's way of telling me I was making things much worse for myself by dwelling on the worst case scenarios.

However, I also received 5.5 and 5.6 pretty frequently during that time, and both were deeply reassuring. 5.6 in particular is one of my most favorite lines. Who are the three guests? It's ambiguous but at times I have experienced them to be anything from literally three friends ready with helping hands to spirits or guardian angels sending a miracle my way.

Do you think that no matter what you do, your relationship will survive? Or does it feel more tenuous? Can your girlfriend also come live with your sister? 5.4 alone suggests that by moving you will escape the "pit" (which I guess might be your job and the area you dislike), but 5.4.5.6 suggests that even if you stay, a way towards something happier will open. Situations that fall under the realm of 5 can feel very long, but in my experience are marked by their temporariness and liminality. They are by nature not permanent.

Good luck! It would be great if you could update how things turn out.