moving to be closer to family 5.1.3 > 47 and 55.1.2.3.5 > 47

[Lola1986]

Hi all,

I've been playing with the idea of moving back across the country to be closer to my family of origin, who I miss a lot. At the same time where I am (over 10 years now) I have more connections and work although nothing rooted or nothing I've fully committed to (still in a house share, work freelance, not in a serious relationship although might be moving towards one). I feel this conflict inside me around this issue which crops up every so often and it seems to underscore many things in my life and makes me very emotional when I think of actively deciding to commit to living far away from them, and making that choice especially as I am very close to my parents who are getting on in age now and my brother who is having a family who I would like to be close to.

I did ask Yi a few things and haven't found it helpful!
First:
Please advise around these feelings of wanting to be closer to my family?
(I meant physically not emotionally)
5.1.3 > 29
Not sure how to interpret this... like if you spend time waiting you'll be sad/be in a difficult and dark place? Or something about not being able to move forward??

And then:
Please advise about moving back to X (city) some day?
55.1.2.3.5 > 47
Confined?? I would feel confined there despite all the abundance??

What I guess I need to know is what to do with these feelings and worries and fears now. So maybe I'm asking the wrong questions, it's like I want to know that it'll all be ok, that I won't have deep regrets or make a mess of the important things in my life because I've just been floating along or something. Like I don't have to move now, but in 4 years time? Will I have left it too late? I don't know how one figures these things out - probably see a counsellor!

But if you have any insights I'd appreciate them
xx

 

[kestrelw1ngs]

Hi all,

I've been playing with the idea of moving back across the country to be closer to my family of origin, who I miss a lot. At the same time where I am (over 10 years now) I have more connections and work although nothing rooted or nothing I've fully committed to (still in a house share, work freelance, not in a serious relationship although might be moving towards one). I feel this conflict inside me around this issue which crops up every so often and it seems to underscore many things in my life and makes me very emotional when I think of actively deciding to commit to living far away from them, and making that choice especially as I am very close to my parents who are getting on in age now and my brother who is having a family who I would like to be close to.

I did ask Yi a few things and haven't found it helpful!
First:
Please advise around these feelings of wanting to be closer to my family?
(I meant physically not emotionally)
5.1.3 > 29
Not sure how to interpret this... like if you spend time waiting you'll be sad/be in a difficult and dark place? Or something about not being able to move forward??

And then:
Please advise about moving back to X (city) some day?
55.1.2.3.5 > 47
Confined?? I would feel confined there despite all the abundance??

What I guess I need to know is what to do with these feelings and worries and fears now. So maybe I'm asking the wrong questions, it's like I want to know that it'll all be ok, that I won't have deep regrets or make a mess of the important things in my life because I've just been floating along or something. Like I don't have to move now, but in 4 years time? Will I have left it too late? I don't know how one figures these things out - probably see a counsellor!

But if you have any insights I'd appreciate them
xx

With 5 and 55 Yi could be answering to your worries and fears rather than the actual outcomes of either choice. With 29 and 47 as relating hexes, it does seem your psychological state might be being addressed. For me 29 comes up around repeated fears and 47 when being held back in some way to deepen my 'roots'

55 has a quality of overabundance of something, and lack of clarity.

Sometimes in these states of mind the best question to ask can be "what do I need to know about my desire for _____" or just asking Yi directly what they want you to know. Hilary has a thread on this somewhere, let me find!

I am in a similar muck of fears worries and attempts to decide where to commit and move, wish you all the luck in finding needed clarity! A counselor sounds like a wonderful idea to begin untangling.

 

[Lola1986]

With 5 and 55 Yi could be answering to your worries and fears rather than the actual outcomes of either choice. With 29 and 47 as relating hexes, it does seem your psychological state might be being addressed. For me 29 comes up around repeated fears and 47 when being held back in some way to deepen my 'roots'

55 has a quality of overabundance of something, and lack of clarity.

Sometimes in these states of mind the best question to ask can be "what do I need to know about my desire for _____" or just asking Yi directly what they want you to know. Hilary has a thread on this somewhere, let me find!

I am in a similar muck of fears worries and attempts to decide where to commit and move, wish you all the luck in finding needed clarity! A counselor sounds like a wonderful idea to begin untangling.

Thanks so much, that's heartening to hear and I'm sure you're right. Will do as you suggest and ask about what do I need to know about my desire for...

When you say asking Yi what they want me to know, do you mean, like Yi, what do I need to know about...the desire to be physically closer to my family? That kind of thing?

Thank you and also good luck to you with the same dilemmas, tricky tricky always this life aint it

 

[rosada]

5.1.3-29 suggests to me a feeling of 5.1 not being quite sure what it is you are waiting for and 5.3 is a feeling of being stuck. Maybe you are feeling you've gotten stuck waiting for some sort of clear omen that will guide you once and for all? But then 29 is a situation where we have to stay open to guidance that comes one step at a time. Maybe feelings are trying to tell you it's okay if you want to look at your choices for a while longer, don't jump into anything.

How fitting you got hexagram 55 with its story of a person who must make a life changing decision!

If I had to make a decision based on these hexagrams I would say you should intend to move back home. I'm thinking 55 - 47 is saying your life where you are now has reached it's peak and from here on staying there will just feel like it's Isolating you from your family. But I say intend to move, as in start looking into going in that direction but don't rush. Put the intention out to the Universe and see where the path opens.

 

[Lola1986]

Thanks Rosada, yes, I think most probably this is what is happening inside me. But I also feel sad at the thought of it! So indeed, let's wait and see. I'm finding my mid-30s really tough! I have some imagining that 40s will be waaay easier but probably I'll just look back and think what was I worrying about instead of having fun?!

 

[kestrelw1ngs]

Thanks so much, that's heartening to hear and I'm sure you're right. Will do as you suggest and ask about what do I need to know about my desire for...

When you say asking Yi what they want me to know, do you mean, like Yi, what do I need to know about...the desire to be physically closer to my family? That kind of thing?

Thank you and also good luck to you with the same dilemmas, tricky tricky always this life aint it

Tricky indeed! And thank you.

And yes, I meant sort of an overarching question might help resolve some worries. I couldn't find Hilary's thread on this but she basically described getting into a flurry casting about two different options over and over and then having a moment of insight when she simply asked Yi "well what do I need to know then?"

Its just that human process of getting caught up in either/or when there might be larger perspective we are missing.

Imagind anxiously going back and forth between two outfits to wear on a date analyzing how each made you look and unable to tell which is better....when actually if you were able to relax and look outside you'd notice it's raining! So maybe the date is canceled, or either outfit would be hidden under a big raincoat anyways.

Your last comment sort of points to that anyways!