Mulling goals, and housing

[firerabbit]

Hoping for some extra insight here.

I'm living with my parents, working a lot at a grocery store, saving a good deal of money up. I have a pretty good arrangement with my parents, and we get along well in an un-ideal situation. I've mulled renting an apartment for quite a while now, but it quite honestly hasn't been practical/economical enough to happen thus far.

I may have an opportunity in the coming months to room with a few people, as an old and trusted friend is planning to buy a decent-sized home and share rent with his girlfriend and a couple other friends (myself likely included). This would be a useful step in getting back out of my parents', and 'moving' again, while still saving up money.

I only wonder if this might be a sort of distraction. I am wanting to get organized, perhaps learn a trade or skill or two. I may want to purchase a small home or small plot of land in the not-too-distant future myself. I generally am trying to live more sustainably. This move would not necessarily spoil such plans by any means, but I do wonder how it might affect them, as far as focusing a lot on social affairs--they're good friends of mine with many mutual friends. (And of course, it could positively affect them too...)

So, oracle for moving in with them:
HEXAGRAM 28.1.4.5 --> 11

This to me seems to present a situation where I am wanting to change my circumstances which have been rigid for a long time now, and as I do, things aren't perfect but it goes fairly well, and the situation ends up harmonious and pleasant. The hexagram may also refer to my personal plans and goals as being rigid and unstable..

oracle against moving in with them:
HEXAGRAM 7, unchanging

This seems to present a situation where the onus falls heavily on my shoulders to get organized, and proceed according to a well-thought out plan regarding my future. It calls for maturity and perseverance, and has a rather severe or serious tone to it (discipline needed for a 'dangerous' task). This hexagram in a way seems more of what I was thinking I wanted, however the other showing Hexagram 11 seems to indicate harmony and peace.

I'd appreciate anyone else's thoughts or insights on the matter.

Thanks a lot :bows:,

fr

 

[mulberry]

Interesting reading!

Before I go into 28 or 7, I do want to say that from your tone and the thoughtful way you are explaining your situation, I can tell you are responsible and unlikely to make a serious error whichever way you choose.

28 is a hexagram I get often (I'm also fairly young, in my mid-20s-- not sure if that has something to do with it-- pent up energies?). It's a very neutral hex in my mind-- not overly negative, but not jump-for-joy positive either. It generally describes a situation where something isn't working right, and must change, but again, the situation might not be negative really. Just challenging.

I think 28.1 is a fairly clear description of you and your present state of mind, or approach to the situation. It's reassuring you that your caution is warranted and should be continued as you make your decision.

28.4 also seems to describe you, though you're moving into more complex and subtle social territory here. You seem focused on your own self-development and sustainably in your life right now (in an admirable, not selfish or unreasonable way). You state, "I am wanting to get organized, perhaps learn a trade or skill or two. I may want to purchase a small home or small plot of land in the not-too-distant future myself. I generally am trying to live more sustainably"... All great things! I think 28.4 is reminding you, though, that if you get into this housing situation you will have to adapt to the group and share your resources, even just ephemeral ones. You can't just be every man for himself (or woman for herself), or just keep to yourself within the house. It won't work if you can't be open and generous with them-- "ulterior motives lead to humiliation".

28.5 is less clear to me, but if you reread it several times and think about your personal relationships with these people perhaps it will make sense. You describe your friend as an "old and trusted" one, which makes me hone in on 28.5's remark about "a withered poplar" putting forth new shoots (and it's not positive). Is this still a current and fresh friendship, or one that is actually past its peak?

Or, perhaps 28.5 describes the housing choice as a general backward step for you-- back into a socially intense (draining?) environment that maybe you have otherwise outgrown.

As far 11, it's a nice resulting hexagram to get-- but I'm not sure how to read it in this case. Maybe just as a reassurance that nothing terrible would happen if you chose the route of the shared house. It's not terribly dynamic.

In terms of 7-- I associate that hexagram with hard but rewarding work. It's quite positive.

Good luck! Do come back and update, if you think of it!

 

[mulberry]

Also this is very random, but I initially misread your subject line as "Mulling goats, and housing", and that's why I clicked... and then kept reading, very confused, waiting for the point where you would discuss how goats played in. Ha!

Maybe it's a sign though... Goat rearing as a skill/trade? Goats at the potential shared house?

 

[firerabbit]

I appreciate your time and attention mulberry. Sorry to disappoint with no goats; however, I do like the suggestion, and I fancy someday having room for a good garden and chickens, so perhaps goats would fit well too...

It's always good to hear someone else's take on a reading. For instance I did not make a connection between the withered poplar and the friendship. Though I have much respect and love for this friend, I have felt certain differences between our goals/values/lifestyles before, and I can see a relation between this and the hexagram's imagery.

I do feel I may be inwardly leaning towards the Hex. 7 route, though it is good to think these things through. Having Hexagram 11 show up makes the decision more difficult, as it is generally very positive. I likely won't need to make a definite decision very soon, so I'll continue to feel it out.

Thanks again,
fr

 

[adarkana]

If you haven't resolved already -- were I making a decision based on this reading -- I'd do it in a "pinch."

Not likely a lasting arrangement, but neither a last resort.