My crush and my style relating in love

[minto]

I have been wanting to have a meaningful and deep love relationship for quite some time. Then, a few months ago, I met someone that truly rang my bell as noone had till now. I want to know if it's all delusion or my gut feeling is right or partly right.
A few months ago I fell in love with this guy and have written him a love letter because I felt we could be soulmates. I really like how he thinks and all his likings are so similar to mine, that I feel very connexted to him. I'm waiting for his reply and I asked these two questions following the advice at the sticky post for relationships:

1) What's the best attitude to take to this relationship? 30.2.3.4.5>61
Too many moving lines, which makes me confused. Some lines are positive and some seem negative. 30.5 5 talks about releasing / moving on after feeling sorrow, which is how I feel know because he's not answering, whereas 61 regarding relationships is about special relationships...
Reading Lise's interpretation it looks loke something may happen between us but itnwill be short, but it will be meaningful for my soul (line 3: in another realm of consciousness).

2) what's the potential for this relationship? 2.4.5>45
Again, here 4 and 5 lines seem contradictory to me, but the resultant hexagram talks about gathering...
Reading Lise's interpretation I feel line 4 is talking about me not judging him and just seeing him for what he is, without thinking in negative or positive terms and love him for what he is, even on his "bad" side because any judgement would affect the relationship negatively.
Line 5: by being loving and accepting I won't have to ask for nothing, as that will resonate with him. From what I know about him, I relate it to this feeling he needs to find someone who really understands him and accept him for what he is without trying to change him. That makes me think of a mother rather than a couple, and how I tend to want to help (or save) my partners...

Iching aside, I have the gut feeling that something is going to happen, like we are going to meet somewhere by chance or something. Also I feel we have lots in common but that our character is not that compatible (yes on many things and no in some things) depending on how we would interact and that it would all depend on how good the communication between us could be: meaning it could grow into a very beautiful relationship with lots of inner/soul growing for both of us or it could turn into a nightmare if our egos would clash.

I guess this question doesn't really ask for the fact of whether he is going to answer to me positively or not, or if something is going to happen between both of us which is what I really want to know. But since it's not recommended to ask yes or no questions I went for those two.
I mean, there may be some potential in the relationship but that's independent of whether he answers to my letter or not, I wonder.

I also asked what can I make to evolve and be happy in a love relationship as in my past ones I have been dragging a pattern I'm trying to get rid of and that I think I'm overcoming.
42.6>3
I have read other threads on this line but I cannot really find how to make the interpretations fir in my question. Maybe it has to do to look after the other person's needs and being compassive when I see they are having difficulties relaring to me instead of thinking how their words are hurting me? To sum up, evolve and become the Superior Man. (At deoxy.com/iching)

 

[mirian]

Hi minto,

I have a look into all your readings, but I would rather not try to interpret every single hexagram and lines because I think it is just going to make it more confusing for you.

Basically, what I see is that there is something fundamentally excessive in your approach to relationships in general. Your expectations, your line of thinking, your actions, are just beyond what is realistic and more likely to happen. The question that is specifically about this new guy is already recommending moderation, a more balanced attitude. So in my view you should reflect on how your own behaviour is preventing you from achieving happy and healthy relationships. Your readings give me that impression that you should benefit from a "less is more" approach. Hope that helps :bows:

 

[diamanda]

Hi minto,

What's the best attitude to take to this relationship? 30.2.3.4.5>61
That it is something strong but very short, which made you fall in love.

what's the potential for this relationship? 2.4.5>45
Nothing much I'm afraid... at best you'll remain friends socially.

what can I make to evolve and be happy in a love relationship 42.6>3
Make sure you don't go for unstable egocentric people who don't reciprocate your feelings.
Equally, make sure you're not unstable or egocentric yourself.
When there are mutual feelings, then the person will want to relate to you, without hurtful words.

 

[minto]

Update: In the end he didn't answer to my letter. I have already got over my crush for him but still like him as a person but without the crush feeling. Diamanda and Mirian were very spot on their interpretations.