My final goodbye? Hex 44.5.6.>32

[hexagon]

Tomorrow will be my last working day with a man I have been infatuated with for two years, as he is leaving on Friday. Some of you have generously helped me interpret my readings in the past. So I asked Yi:

Should I offer to take David out for a beer? (I will invite some other coworkers to join of course), and received:

44.5.6 > 32

I have no expectation this will be anything other than a fabulous send-off. I am a little too subjectively involved in this dynamic to know what Yi is trying to tell me. I do know Hex 44 is a woman who is too bold in her actions - and I must add that I asked Yi a few days ago "What is the most effective way of getting closer to David" and received Hex 44.5 >50. Again, a bold woman, but with changing line 5. Line 5 denotes a heavenly inspiration and beauty, while Line 6 warns not to use one's strength for sexual prowess purposes. And how am I to read resulting Hex 32 and 50?

And, because this is my final kick at the can which will free me of future drama, I asked "How does David feel about me?" and received:
Hex 58(Joy) 2.5. > 51 Shock

I was worried that line 5 was unavoidable, but Willhelm/Baynes specifically states that ""the danger is avoidable, because by nature, the present line is strong enough to overcome these influences".

Now I have to do the work to make the magic happen.

Laurie

Interpretation is welcome!

 

[willowfox]

Should I offer to take David out for a beer? (I will invite some other coworkers to join of course), and received:

44.5.6 > 32

It suggests yes, ask him out for a beer.(perhaps you should have done this a long time ago?)

 

[hexagon]

That is very true Willowfox. I should have asked him out for a beer long ago. This has been a huge lesson for me. I said goodbye to him as tomorrow is the last day I will be working with him.

Thank you to everyone for your support. :bows:

Laurie

 

[sollina]

I said goodbye to him as tomorrow is the last day I will be working with him.

After having asked him out for a beer or...?!

 

[hexagon]

After having asked him out for a beer or...?!

I had arranged with someone else at work yesterday that we would ask David out for a beer today, so he had asked David this morning before I had a chance if he would join us. David said he was busy this afternoon and wouldn't be able to make it, so I've taken it to mean no - to let it go. I would've liked to have been the one to have asked, but it didn't happen that way.

I have come to understand that if someone is interested - THEY let YOU know. It shouldn't be this hard. There are a couple of other men who like me, and it's obvious they do - in their body language, etc. I also told him if I had any choice in the matter, I would strap him on the back of my motorcycle and take him for a ride, but right after that said, "but that isn't going to happen." Sounds self-defeatist to be sure. On the other hand, I also know I wasn't getting any signals from him.

Laurie

 

[fkegan]

Lady Luck >> Old Faithful

Laurie,

hex. 44 Coming to Meet or Lady Luck, only means a strong woman who is not part of the expected relationship process (Taoist perspective--in Confucian/Wilhelm terms there is only one suitable relationship the marriage of one woman to her only man).

The final two lines refer to expressing and exhausting this process thus the tipping point to the Next.

Hex 32 is about the routine structure of personal relationship. The question still open is whose personal relationship is being described. One possibility is the relationship between you and David, another is within yourself, your standard mode and expectation of relationships. As you say, the two of you haven't established an objective relationship, so the Old Faithful suggested is likely your continuing and ongoing standard and routine in your relationships.

This would suggest the highlighted question now is: Is this end to this relationship OK with you? Or do you want to face the changes needed within yourself to relate differently to men in general and David in particular?

Frank

 

[hexagon]

Laurie,

hex. 44 Coming to Meet or Lady Luck, only means a strong woman who is not part of the expected relationship process (Taoist perspective--in Confucian/Wilhelm terms there is only one suitable relationship the marriage of one woman to her only man).

This would suggest the highlighted question now is: Is this end to this relationship OK with you? Or do you want to face the changes needed within yourself to relate differently to men in general and David in particular?

Frank

I now understand after your explanation that Hex 44 is about me as you succinctly put it - I am not part of the expected rel. process. I am somewhat non-conformist, etc. and have had fortitude in my dance by not letting him know how I feel - just everyone else, which he would have heard about.For a "strong"woman, it is pretty cowardly.

But what I find insightful on your part,Frank is how you phrased the last question. I want to face the changes needed in order to relate differently to David as I don't have a problem relating to men in general. I've talked to many women who also go through this strange state when they are in love. We can't speak, we're shy, and don't communicate effectively. I keep wanting to go to my "core" as that's my place of power and where I can draw strength when I need it. And David is shy too so we end up at an impasse. All this time, I am now convinced he has been waiting for me to give him a sign - so on his last day I designed a card and got everyone to sign it, and in the envelope, I gave him my business card and put a little note saying this entitles him to one free motorcycle ride, offer valid from April - May. I will now wait to hear from him. I want him.

Thank you for your insight and input.

Laurie

 

[ben_s]

Hi Laurie,

Here are some other types of questions you could ask:

- What is my best way to think about David now that I don't see him at work?

- What is the outcome of my pining for David instead of being open to someone new?

- What is the outcome of my setting aside my thoughts & feelings about David and being open to someone new in my life now?

- What do I need to know to be ready for a great relationship?

- How important should romance be in my life now?

- Do I come across as pushy or is my enthusiasm for romance positive?

 

[hexagon]

Thank you Ben for your suggestions on questions to ask. It is time to ask the important question, the answer of which will shed light on the situation and allow me to make the changes I need.
A little self reflection and I will find it.

L.