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My good friend (?) is being super bitchy, but I also know she is very stressed out.

Owlietta

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My co-worker is the closest friend I have made in my new country (except for my boyfriend). Evelyn and I have traveled together, have done favors for each other, shared meals, etc.

Evelyn is extremely intelligent, very well read in general, but I also get the sense that she has some major difficulties in getting by in every-day life. Often, you might call her scatterbrained, forgetful, obsessed with unimportant details, not punctual (she is not punctual to work and she doesn't feel at all bad about it), and not aware of time in general. I may think all of the above on occasion, but I keep it to myself, because I like her and she is hilarious when she's in a good mood. We have had some good laughs together!

But the past few work shifts together, she's been really harsh to me, verbally. I have wanted to be friends with her even when she goes through her stress (which is often). But now I'm thinking I don't want to be friends with her.

I am a sensitive person who realizes that she is trying to leave her douchebag boyfriend of 3 years, raise 2 teenage daughters with the disappointment from knowing the the father doesn't feel obligated to do anything, plus all the thousand other things she is stressed over. She is fearful of co-workers gossipping about her and picking on her. It sounds like she had been bullied before in a previous workplace, but in this current workplace I do not see that she is a bullying victim in the workplace. On the contrary, I have felt really picked on by Evelyn during the past couple of shifts! She has been horribly bitchy to me. We can't even look each other in the eye.

I have gone to college and have read up on such things as Aspergers, ADHD, OCD, etc. One or more of those factors are most likely involved , regarding Evelyn. I would guess some mild high functioning of one or all three (Aspergers, ADHD, OCD).

Also, she is taurus and I am scorpio, if anyone thinks that has meaning. Not so sure about that part.


Question: What if Evelyn starts being nice again? Do I trust her to be my friend again?

16. Yu / Enthusiasm

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---- ---- above Ch^en The Arousing, Thunder
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---- ----
---- ---- below K'un The Receptive, Earth
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Enthusiasm. It furthers one to install helpers
And to set armies marching.

The Image

Thunder comes resounding out of the earth:
The image of Enthusiasm.
Thus the ancient kings made music
In order to honor merit,
And offered it with splendor
To the Supreme Deity,
Inviting their ancestors to be present.

The Lines

Six in the second place means:
Firm as a rock. Not a whole day.
Perseverance brings good fortune.


40. Hsieh / Deliverance

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---- ---- above Ch^en The Arousing, Thunder
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---------- below K'an The Abysmal, Water
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The Judgement

Deliverance. The southwest furthers.
If there is no longer anything where one has to go,
Return brings good fortune.
If there is still something where one has to go,
Hastening brings good fortune.

The Image

Thunder and rain set in:
The image of Deliverance.
Thus the superior man pardons mistakes
And forgives misdeeds.
 
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ginnie

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Hex 40's Image says: "Thus the superior man pardons mistakes and forgives misdeeds." I think the I Ching urges us always not to hold grudges and to make forgiveness a way of life. With that in mind, be "firm as a rock" (16) in trying to keep her as a friend, because I feel there is a real bond between the two of you, despite these annoyances that have been arising. It is really irritating to have a friend like that, I know, but you two can still be good, firm friends.
 

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"Firm as a rock" - She's still *your* friend.
"Not a whole day." Temporary discord.

- LL
 

Tim K

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You should be firm as a rock, the disagreement will pass(not a whole day) but don't allow yourself to be influenced so easily.
Yes trust her, but don't depend on her mood.
 

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