My husband feelings towards me

[Mylife]

Hi, I have a problem and I can’t interpret the hexagon came out. Me and my husband had a big fight recently like a week ago. During the fight he said “I thought you are the right girl but I have a doubt now... I m not happy anymore... I regret my life” those kind of unpleasant things. Then he immediately took it back and he apologised explaining that he said all this things out of anger. The problem has been fight but i’ve Been a bit hurt because of those things he said. I don’t want to discuss with him because I understand he said it out of anger, but still it hurts a bit. Few days after the fight I asked the oracle about his feelings towards me and I got 41 made of 7 and 8, so no changes. Could you help me understanding what does it mean 41 in terms of feelings his towards towards me?Thank you so much in advance.

 

[Mylife]

I did the question it 2 times. First time it came out 11 (no changes) but when I throw the coins, one coin hit one object and then it stopped and I thought that answer may not be accurate. And I did it for the second time and 41 came out (no changes).

 

[marybluesky]

Hello Alexa!

I read in Oracle of Love website that when you cast a reading with coins, let them move freely, no matter if they hit objects etc. The result is valid as long as you don't intervene in it.
That said, your first answer- hexagram 11 uc- is likely to be correct.
Hexagram 11 is flow: the heaven and earth - male and female- are connected; things are where they should be and work properly. So no need to worry: his feelings are consistent.

Hexagram 41, however, shows a decrease in the emotions.

Other than what he said during your fight, is there any evidence he doesn't love you as he did once?

 

[rosada]

How awful for you! But he did apologize and even said he didn't mean it so I think 11. Peace is counseling you to not give this outburst further weight. 42. Decrease also suggests you should not over react.
There is a great video on youtube, "Why you will marry the wrong person". It's funny and insightful and it might be a very healing for the both of you to watch it together.

 

[Mylife]

Hi Marybluesky,Thanks allot for your help. No there are not signs that he is not loving me. He acts as he used to do all the time. So if I take that moment away I would not have a reason to worry. So 41 shows a decrease in his feelings?I didn’t know that even if the coin hits an object the results it’s still valid. It’s that an accurate thing?So in that case which one shall I consider 11 or 41? Because both makes sense. Without the fight 11 it’s what I think it is. With the fight 41 also makes sense. So I m confuse

 

[marybluesky]

Hi Marybluesky,Thanks allot for your help. No there are not signs that he is not loving me. He acts as he used to do all the time. So if I take that moment away I would not have a reason to worry. So 41 shows a decrease in his feelings?I didn’t know that even if the coin hits an object the results it’s still valid. It’s that an accurate thing?So in that case which one shall I consider 11 or 41? Because both makes sense. Without the fight 11 it’s what I think it is. With the fight 41 also makes sense. So I m confuse

Your first reading has been accurate. For a repeated question you should consider the first reply. So don't worry!

 

[Freedda]

41 reminds me of the expression, 'out with the old air, in with the new.' The idea is to decrease what is not being used or useful, what is not serving you or that you have too much of - as a way to make room for what is useful - sort of like breathing.

You say you're 'a bit hurt' by what he said. If it was me, I'd be royally pissed, or at least more than 'a bit hurt', and I'd certainly want to talk about how I was feeling. So, perhaps the 'decreasing' that needs to happen is yours? Perhaps you need to express your hurt (in a positive way) so as to make room for a return of trust and loving feelings. How your husband feels might not be the primary concern here, whereas how you're feeling might.

 

[Mylife]

Thanks for your advice. I m going to consider it.

 

[Mylife]

Thank you Freedda. Your reply makes me see more indeed. I was just a bit hurt because I know he said that under anger and stress. If he would have said it while the situation would have been calm then yes I would have been massively hurt. The decreased as you said it might be to let go the not useful and give space to useful. Our argument was not used but a silly couple thing and might have to be decreased and give more room to peace. Thanks for the advice. Indeed helpful. What do you think about the fact that one coin touch an object and it stopped while rolling them? The result it’s still accurate as one of our “friend” here suggested? Did you hear anything about it?

 

[Freedda]

I don't think it matters if a coin touches anything as long as it lands somewhere and you can read it. What made you think otherwise?

 

[moss elk]

What do you think about the fact that one coin touch an object and it stopped while rolling them?

Hmm, what do you think about the fact that, from the moment that the coins left your hand, the coins encountered thousands of tiny objects, particles. and bacterial organisms that you did not see?

 

[Freedda]

Hmm, what do you think about the fact that, from the moment that the coins left your hand, the coins encountered thousands of tiny objects, particles. and bacterial organisms that you did not see?

And ... if you were to use yarrow stalks: think of all those bugs and bits of dirt and such ...

 

[Trojina]

I don't understand the comments about bacteria bugs and dirt. I think she is asking what happens if your throw is interrupted when the coin hits something

What do you think about the fact that one coin touch an object and it stopped while rolling them? The result it’s still accurate as one of our “friend� here suggested? Did you hear anything about it?

I can't read the quote properly as it is full of squiggles but if you are asking what to do if your throw is interrupted it is down to personal preference. If I am throwing coins and one hits an object and lands sideways or falls on the floor I quit the throw and do it another time. I don't think your question is a silly one. Some people just carry on regardless and others don't.

Hmm, what do you think about the fact that, from the moment that the coins left your hand, the coins encountered thousands of tiny objects, particles. and bacterial organisms that you did not see?

Those wouldn't affect the throw given they aren't solid objects.


For the purposes of this cast I think you may as well stay with the answer you have as it seems to make sense.

 

[Mylife]

Hi Freda,I just thought if the coin touch something before it stops it may means that the result it’s not accurate or the correct one and I may have to re do it. I don’t have any other reason. Actually I m not even sure hence why I ask for an advice. If the coin hits something the results should still be considered as valid? That’s my whole point. But your reply makes sense so I appreciate your time and response.

 

[Mylife]

Hi Trojina,What do you mean by “stay within the answer you have as it seems to make sense”. Which answer? 11 - first result or 41 - second result ?

 

[Trojina]

Both, I think you can go with the interpretations here.

 

[Trojina]

Hi, I have a problem and I can’t interpret the hexagon came out. Me and my husband had a big fight recently like a week ago. During the fight he said “I thought you are the right girl but I have a doubt now... I m not happy anymore... I regret my life” those kind of unpleasant things. Then he immediately took it back and he apologised explaining that he said all this things out of anger. The problem has been fight but i’ve Been a bit hurt because of those things he said. I don’t want to discuss with him because I understand he said it out of anger, but still it hurts a bit. Few days after the fight I asked the oracle about his feelings towards me and I got 41 made of 7 and 8, so no changes. Could you help me understanding what does it mean 41 in terms of feelings his towards towards me?Thank you so much in advance.

I think the 41 is saying to decrease your concern about it. In rows people think of the worst possible thing they can say at the time, that's how it goes. Trouble is what has been said cannot be unsaid so sadly you are left with hurt feelings and that is understandable. You asked what his feelings were which is hard to interpret really. If it's about him it could be interpreted any number of ways. One might say well he's restraining his anger and trying to simmer down OR one might say one reason for his anger was that he felt too many demands upon him and he feels the need to defend his space. Actually most anger is to do with the need to protect or preserve one's space except one has gone past the point of claiming it in other ways so it explodes. Is he tired or under pressures ? If so that may explain why the row became so nasty.


The most important thing is he apologised immediately. He's saying he didn't mean it and it's highly likely he didn't mean it I would think but still in order for it to not keep on happening maybe it's worth checking out where he feels pressure either in the relationship or outside of it. Resources are scarce in 41, one has to preserve energy. What if he feels he just doesn't have enough to give ? That's how the 41 feels to me here and that's just my own feeling really

alexa6387
I did the question it 2 times. First time it came out 11 (no changes) but when I throw the coins, one coin hit one object and then it stopped and I thought that answer may not be accurate. And I did it for the second time and 41 came out (no changes)

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So you got 11uc first then 41uc. I think Yi is talking to you quite clearly you got 2 unchanging answers and although 11 and 41 are different of course my sense of this is it's all about how much energy there is to give and take between you. And when it boils down to it most domestic rows are going to be about give and take, where one person feels the giving is outweighing the taking and so on.

 

[moss elk]

I don't understand the comments about bacteria bugs and dirt. I think she is asking what happens if your throw is interrupted when the coin hits something.

Well, she did not say the coin stopped and stood perpendicular to the ground,
in which case I'd do what you do.
That would be an omen.

Those wouldn't affect the throw given they aren't solid objects.

Sure they are solid objects, composed of mostly water and air (just like you are!)
or another way to look at it:
The spunky peramecium struggled it's whole life and never gave up
"Surely I have a higher purpose, something heaven wants to use me for!"
Then one day after much abiding in dignity and virtue, the opportunity came. The little guy felt an irresitable urge to suddenly leap with all its might.
Now, it just so happens that at that particular moment a giant metal disc was hurling by at unimaginable speed.
"How dare that disc! It's gonna squash Stephanycocis! I'll show it!"
A valiant struggle, a life complete, a purpose fulfilled.
All to help a primate find its lost keys.

You know, something like that.

 

[Freedda]

I don't understand the comments about bacteria bugs and dirt. I think she is asking what happens if your throw is interrupted when the coin hits something

I believe that what Moss Elk and I are getting to is the fact that the coins come in contact and 'bump up against' all kinds of things, seen and unseen, and there's nothing wrong or profane about that, even if a coin touches something during the toss. The issue - I think - is that sarcasm, even well-intentioned, doesn't always come across so well on the internet.

Best, David.

 

[moss elk]

and unseen

Such as spirit

 

[Freedda]

Such as spirit

Or ghosts in the machine if you're doing an online 'toss'; and perhaps sticky keyboards and obnoxious emojis might get in the way.