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Loveandlight

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Hi,
I could use some help.
During this reading I held the thought of my marriage and how I have not been feeling very connected to my husband these past few weeks. I wonder if getting married was really what I wanted. I have been finding myself attracted to other men lately also. I am not a cheater but my eye keeps wandering.
Thank you for your help.


Your reading resulted in the following hexagrams:

changing to
44 12
Hexagram 44, Coupling



Key Questions

What would be an adequate response to this new energy?
How far could this change go?
How far will you let it go?

Oracle

'Coupling, the woman is powerful.
Do not take this woman.'

'Coupling' means meeting, and also a woman who gives birth to the heir – the powerful woman. She represents someone (of either sex) or something with a profound and mysterious power to attract you, to take over, and to change everything. She moves you, re-energizes and gives birth to new life.

The oracle warns you not to take the woman – not to try to seize control of her, and not to marry her. Do not imagine that you can bring her under control, assimilate her into your life and continue as before. Such a marriage cannot last. This woman has more power than any system where you might try to contain her. She might bring desires that undermine a well-balanced life, or an irruption of feeling into a realm of abstractions, or chance and irrationality to threaten a logical, ordered mind.

Perhaps you will stand fast and resist this power's attraction. Perhaps you will embrace her briefly, and let your life be transformed by the encounter. But you cannot take her or marry her.

Image

'Below heaven is the wind: Coupling.
The prince sends out mandates and commands to the four corners of the earth.'

Sequence

Coupling follows from Hexagram 43, Deciding:
'Breaking through must mean meeting, and so Coupling follows: Coupling means meeting.'

Changing Lines

Line 2
'In this basket there are fish – not a mistake.
Not fruitful to entertain guests.'

Line 3
'Thighs without flesh,
Moving awkwardly now.
Danger, no great mistake.'


Hexagram 12, Blocked



Key Questions

What work can you do when nothing is working?
Who are you when no-one is noticing?

Oracle

'Blocking it, non-people.
Noble one's constancy bears no fruit.
Great goes, small comes.'

Nothing moves or grows, communication doesn't happen, everything is negated and blocked – and this is because of 'non-people'. That may mean that some people are a consistently, exclusively and pathologically negative influence and sabotage all attempts at progress. It can also refer to perceiving someone as not quite a real person, explaining their behaviour with labels and stereotypes rather than seeking to understand. In both cases, there is a complete failure of empathy. This means that your very best and strongest efforts come to nothing. You can have a soaring imaginative concept of the creative possibilities here; you can have the will to be true to that concept and carry it through. You're not doing anything wrong; the problem is that these creative possibilities are just not available when things are Blocked. Small concerns dominate. The adaptive response is not to strive constantly to rise to a higher level, but to focus your attention on the small details – the immediate, uninspiring reality.

Image

'Heaven and earth do not interact: Blocked.
A noble one uses his strengths sparingly to avoid hardship.
He does not allow himself honours and payment.'

Sequence

Blocked follows from Hexagram 11, Flow:
'Things cannot end with flowing together, and so Blocked follows.'


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During this reading I held the thought of my marriage and how I have not been feeling very connected to my husband these past few weeks

Hi loveandlight,

As you may know, the imagery of hex 44 is of a woman who should not be taken in marriage because of her strong personality and sexuality, which makes her unpredictable and likely to unleash emotions that are hard to control.

Applied to your reading, it gives me the impression that the Yi is talking to you: are you sure you want to be married? Your changing lines 2 and 3 seem to refer to how your emotions and desires are getting into the way of your marriage. So I think the question really is: would you be better of not being married at all?
 
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Loveandlight

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Thank you for your response.
That question is very alive and changes often. I always believed that love is an ocean. At times the waves come in and overwhelm me with love and other times the tide rolls out, leaving me to not feel much of anything. Marriage seemed to be falling in love over and over again. It's hard.
Thank you
 

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