My mother has been cut out of the will. Hexagram 22.4>30 and 64 unchanging

[Bliss5702]

Hello everyone. I would like to give a little background on a situation taking place with my mom in hopes that I can get some clarity for her.

15 years ago she met a man. This man had just lost his wife as a result of cancer. He and my mom at the time begin dating. His children made him promise that he wouldn't remarry. My mom lived in her own place at the time, as she had been doing her entire adult life. He really cared for my mom and begged her to move out of her very small place and into his home. So at this point they have been living together for the last 10 years. My mom has played the role of a wife. He's 75 now and his health has begun to go down hill and as a result my mom has been there to take care of him. His children in the last 15 years have been to visit 3 times. The latest time they came to cause havoc in my moms life by having him to close all the bank accounts that he have with my mom and also completing a will where my mom has been totally x'd out. She lives in a state where the "common law marriage" exists.

She's afraid at this time because she walked away from everything and begin to build a life with him. And now that it seems as if everything that she has built over the last 15 years is being stripped away, she don't know what to do. I asked the I Ching, "what should my mom do about this situation at this time?" And I received hexagram 22.4>30.

On the day that his children had him go to the attorney's office to do a will, I asked the I Ching if he would make an exit and leave my mom with nothing and I received 64 unchanging. This lead me to feel that he had not completed the will.

22.4 I hear has to do with marriage, but I'm not understanding the direction that the sage is implying. Any help with this will be greatly appreciated. Please and thank you.

 

[Bliss5702]

Can someone help with this question please?

 

[Bliss5702]

Am I doing something wrong on this forum with my posts? Because I can hardly ever seem to get any responses for my questions.

 

[Tohpol]

"what should my mom do about this situation at this time?"
22.4>30

I can understand your concern. However, it looks like the Yi is advising you and your mum to keep things simple and uncomplicated and a solution will arrive in time. It may seem like a dire situation but keep the faith and a resolution will be forthcoming. It's a very reassuring line in my experience.

This line can also ask one to reflect on what is most important in one's life: spiritual nourishment or material acquisition...a choice might need to be made.

 

[Bliss5702]

She has spoken to him. It appears as if in the last several days after the two children left, he has been in a downward spiral. Not really knowing what is going on. Kind of walking around in a confused state. He has not even been able to get around on his own. Other family members have had to help him around. He and my mom has depended upon me for years to handle financial and business situations. He's not saying much of anything besides, the children made him do a will and my mom is not included. The children also made him close the accounts that the two of them had together. He can't explain much of anything outside of that. My mom has continuously asked him about the content of the will and he has not been able to explain.

 

[Bliss5702]

Of course she didn't. She's been with him for 15 years. The agreement between the two of them was that everything they accomplished while they were together would go to her. They are trying to take everything.

 

[Bliss5702]

My point in asking the question was to have an understanding of what the hex was saying. I'm not too great in the interpretation of the hexagrams, however I didn't think that it was saying anything about her knowing that the estate would be left to his children. Your assumptions are very wrong and imply that perhaps my mom is not too bright. Thanks anyway for your response.

This thread has some of the most judgmental people I know. This will be my last post.

 

[Bliss5702]

When did I in this post say that my mom wanted everything? Never. Those again are your assumptions Trojina. No one every said that she wanted everything. She only asked for what they accomplished together, which she is rightfully due. No need to respond any further. Again, thanks.

 

[Trojina]

Can someone help with this question please?

Bliss5702


Am I doing something wrong on this forum with my posts? Because I can hardly ever seem to get any responses for my questions

Earlier, see above, you demanded someone help you with your questions. I tried. I'm sorry I bothered. I won't answer you anymore. Feel free to go on posting, I'm sure others will help you.

 

[Trojina]

Oh, one last thing....you wanted to know why no one was responding. But you didn't respond here

http://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/frie...-and-around-my-building-Hexagram-37-1-4-gt-33

what happened there ? We don't get anything back if you do not update threads. Everyone is here to learn...not just to keep on giving answers when you demand it.

I make sure I don't respond to those who just ignore previous respondents. That's just me, other's have their own views. I'd not noticed earlier that you ignore replies or I wouldn't have responded.

If you can't even be bothered to respond to or use the thanks button on the replies you do get how can you complain no one is answering.

Ah well done you just managed to use the thanks button today....phew...but no update ??

We learn from updates, from what happened next...

 

[Bliss5702]

If I did not respond, it's not that I was ignoring the post, but rather because I did not know that someone had responded to the post. Perhaps I missed that e-mail notification which lead me to ask the question, "why no one ever responds." You assume a whole lot, just as you are assuming that I ignored when in reality, I did not.