Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).
It means stop the relentless drive forward to what you consider to be desirable. It means allowing time and emotional healing to take place. It means taking responsibility for your inner work yourself and to absolutely, unequivocally STOP pushing for resolution. Otherwise, if you are in a process of "soul growth", your learning curve will arrive in the form of a shock or shocks.
not fixate and fantasize about it. This just shows the Universe that you are missing something essential in yourself, that you dependent and lacking energy of your own to be sovereign. So, in that sense it is actually better to "give up" on that notion that someone is going to arrive. (You are kinda tricking the ego here).
Ok so, I think i get it now. It's making more sense.
1. Daily affirmations to undo the negative programming: in progress.
That is interesting, bc it makes sense to try to trick the ego, but I had not thought of that before. I did not see the connection between missing something inside yourself and wanting a soulmate; I see it and my (Id? ego? some psycho part of me) argues back "but there are other people who have done no internal work and lack ALL inner strength/foresight/knowledge but still end up with relationships that are happy and healthy." But as someone noted: I'm not those people (sadly).
But as someone noted: I'm not those people (sadly).
-- Makes perfect sense No problem there. I know too many such people.Never compare your life with others who have no internal spiritual world. It can only leave you running in circles.
Thanks topal and chingching. Am still digesting what you wrote.
Topal, I haven't ever done/tried the deep tissue work but aside from probably feeling good I am sure it is helpful; it sounds beneficial. I have friends who I have already discussed my self image issues with (which may result in my lack of relationships but are still separate issues to deal with separately). But there seems to be a step missing. Ten years ago I wasn't aware of what my issues are. Then I realized I had issues, what they are, and what caused them. But...aside from "self affirmations" to undo the negative engrained in me, I'm not sure what *else* i can do to overcome it. It's like OK you know you have X disease, now what. Knowing you have it,a nd knowing what drug can treat it, doesnt eliminate it. And bandaids are superficial. So the discussion gets me to a certain point and then...and then? Then what.
As one example: a child has abandonment issues. Child grows up realizes parents abandoned him emotionally. Child is enraged at parents. Child can express rage, exercise the rage out, talk about the rage. But feeling of abandonment remains, now both consciously and subconciously. Child has trust issues, but wants more than anything to trust. So what's the missing link?
Or: child was told he is not good enough, will never deserve to be happy. Child ingests this self belief. Later realizes the belief is false; that it was projected on him by unhappy parent(s); Child tries to "undo" belief by doing things he enjoys, making friends, treating self well. But on subcionscious level the belief remains. ANd is projected, probably, to some people outwards. What can he do to totally get rid of it?
So the blockages are there -- you get to a certain point and then what? A discussion w/a friend seems to not be enough (for me at least).
This: -- Makes perfect sense No problem there. I know too many such people.
ah too true.The brighter someone is, the more complex the self-rationalizations and justifications.
Clarity,
Office 17622,
PO Box 6945,
London.
W1A 6US
United Kingdom
Phone/ Voicemail:
+44 (0)20 3287 3053 (UK)
+1 (561) 459-4758 (US).