Narcissist how to deal with this person hexagram 17.4

[maisie]

Okay hi looking back on my posts I had another shocking type post about another person whom I had labeled.(I don't do this all the time to people.)

This person has all the traits of a Narcassist,I have had to go no contact with her.
I had the feeling when I first meet her she was incredibley cold and arrogant, I had never meet anyone so mean about others before.

I have a long standing problem with my brother's girlfriend.
She has tried to cause family disagreements by telling lies. Also making up stories about things I had said.
I thought it might continue as it is now I see my brother but not her.

Now she wants to meet me again but this causes trouble because she has insulted my husband and children but only when she was alone with them.So no proof.She denys it now.

My brorher belives her.I had some marital problems some time ago and she used this to cause misery.

I asked should I go and meet this person in a group with my parents?
I got hexagram 17 line 4

I asked likely outcome if I don't go with my brother to meet her hexagram 47.

How to deal with this prerson hexagram 35 line 1 2 and 6.

Okay I think hexagram 17.4 might mean someone who is insincere. saw this on another thread
I think dealing with her she this person only wanting to meet because she has fallen out with her sister and need to show she is normal others are bad.
Look she has tried to give me another chance.

Am I being told to meet though??

Hexagram 35 intersting I must show my bright virtue.
I am progressing.I am being held back but if nobody trusts me they will later.

Blessings from my grandmother line 2
I should have it out with the girlfriend line 6.
Stand my ground?


Any answers appreciated will try to update other last post.Thank you I am very worried about doing the right thing.

 

[moss elk]

I asked should I go and meet this person in a group with my parents?
I got hexagram 17 line 4.

You said she wants to meet with you again. Did she specifically say for what reason? Did she refer to 'wanting to have a better relationship between you' or 'to defend myself from allegations of lying.'

You say you know she is duplicitous and creates strife, that alone is reason enough to avoid her.

About your reading, 17.4,
go meet the group and have something planned to do after, so you can leave whenever you want. (following your own path after following this group.)
This neatly avoids having to say, 'I'm leaving because you are a lying-daughter-of-a-goat". Instead you can say, 'oh, it's time for me to do that thing.'

 

[maisie]

Hi Moss Elk

Thank you for the reply.
She wants to be excepted back at family gatherings again.
Although there has been no contact for perhaps 6 years
She also told me I was not welcome at her, well my brother's home ,during a very hard time in my life..
My fear is my brother will stop contact with us.He seems total under her spell.

Normaly I would try and give someone a chance.
However I am concerned mainly with protecting my relationship and kids.
Also hope that my parents don't have to suffer too much.

I have never properly discussed this with my brother trying to ignore it.I hoped she might move on,so perhaps now is the time.
Thanks anyway I will consider whether to meet on group
outting.

She only wants to be friendly as she has alienated her own family members.
I do actually feel sorry for her somehow.If you are not good enough for her she treats you with distain.
People who she doesn't approve of she ignores.
She is very hard work ,I don't want her around my family.