navigating estrangement 51.6 > 21

[manitoba33]

A male friend of mine (there is declared mutual attraction) just had a minor miscommunication and had a minor falling out. We have been friends for several years and I have started to develop feelings - he has hinted around as well but I'm not sure if his feelings or genuine or just wanting sex. At any rate, I asked "how does he feel about reaching out to me? and got:

51.6 > 21 what does this indicate for a future landscape? reconnection or more estrangement?

I then asked, "what is the best way to approach him if he returns?"

and got:

48.4 > 28

48 feels good, but the resulting hex throws me off. Thanks for your help! It's a valuable friendship and feels fertile with possibility...

 

[pocossin]

How does he feel about reaching out to me?
51.6 > 21

Bradford's translation of the last clause of 51.6 is "Even the marital suitor might have something to say" which seems auspicious in this situation. 21 is about laws and justice, so proprieties should be fulfilled by both parties. If it's a minor miscommunication, "Sorry for the misunderstanding" seems a good thing to say. Really, after several years you should already have a good understanding of your friend.

. . . the resulting hex throws me off.

Hexagram 28 in the line text is about renewal.

 

[chingching]

I have been finding, for my own readings, that paying extra attention to the image of the resulting hex sheds a little more light. (as well as seeing the resulting hex as the context of the question).

28's image, wilhelm:

Thus the superior man, when he stands alone,
Is unconcerned,
And if he has to renounce the world,
He is undaunted.

I often find this to represent times where I hold my own, turn up to social events on my own, deal with a problem on my own etc.

put that together with the rest, you have to be the one to re-line the well, start the renewal, nothing wrong with this as the well hasnt moved ie. the connection was never lost. I guess in practical terms, this realtionship maintenance and rebuilding/renewal, I guess it means start back with basics, like a phone call, a coffee, rebuild comfort, trust and reinstill the easy flow of give and take between old friends, but with this new lining of a physical and itimate level emerging.

And if an intimate relationship is where you want to be headed next, which is a change from what you had prior to argueing, now is the perfect time to reline that well with this as the premise. However, not only would you want that to be mutual but also clear...for you both to be on the same page ie. what you said about not knowing if he was just after a physical relationship, when it sounds like you want more than just that. I guess if it is not then you must be like the image and be undaunted if you need to walk away.