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need help interpretation, thinking of leaving a relationship, Hexagream 36.3 to 24

candii

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I'm in a committed relationship (7 years) that I'm not very happy with. I have been thinking of leaving this relationship behind but because we have a little boy together, It's a very difficult decision. So I asked iching..... "My relationship with my partner, what will it be in the future?" I got 36.3 to 24..... I kind of undestand 36 that I'm injure or in this case I'm suffering or not happy which is so true. But how about 24? Does it mean if I leaves him I'll be back to him in the end? So I should stick with it until things get better? Or does it mean I should go back home to my parents where I should be happier? Sorry I'm new and not sure how to interpret this. Any help is appreciated. Thanks.
 

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36.3 : lots of interpretations, many quite valid ones having been offered here over the years. Still, it eludes being wrapped up in a neat package. Every time I see a new book of IC interpretations, it's the first place I look... My experience with it suggests a very complicated relationship situation -- as you describe.

"You are brought face-to-face with the perpetrator of wrong thinking" (Wing);

"No progress" (Huang);

"Brightness hidden, hunting in the south
Gets their great leader
Afflicted constancy is not possible" (Hilary);

"This is the end of the night, just before dawn. This is like when those who have been in concealment overthrow the reign of ignorance. But since ignorance has been a ruling force for so long, it is impossible to accomplish this overthrow hastily; it must be sustained by rectitude" (Chih-hsu);

"Expecting to overcome a faulty attitude all at once leads to disappointment and splitting apart. It is important to be tolerant of ourselves and others. Only perseverance, sustained over a long period of time, enables us to dissapate the power of the ego" (Anthony);

"If your mind is low, then go hunting in the fields of Hypochondria – the South, the belly, the domain of emotions. Giving your thoughts a connection with physical sensations may not solve anything yet, but it opens the gateway for recovery. Tangible things attract concrete solutions" (LiSe);

"It seems as if chance were at work. While the strong, loyal man is striving eagerly and in good faith to create order, he meets the ringleader of the disorder, as if by accident, and seizes him. Thus victory is achieved. But in abolishing abuses one must not be too hasty. This would turn out badly because the abuses have been in existence so long" (Wilhelm)

Got that?

24 considers the "return" of the self to some established pattern. It does not necessarily indicate the "return" of some partner or the resolution of some relationship issue -- though the love-lorn often leap to that interpretation.

The reading as a whole suggests a seemingly endless loop of a problematic relationship that one can't quite resolve and can't quite get clear of. (You recognize that there is a problem, or you wouldn't be asking the IC for advice, which is a good start.) Slow progress is toward resolution, rather than some grand dramatic gesture, seems to be the way out. So far as possible, respond only to the needs of the moment; engage when your partner is open to you, and withdraw without hesitation when he puts he withdraws or seeks to press upon you some opinion.

The good news is that all situations, including ones such as yours, find a resolution in their time. What that resolution is, only time will tell.

Wishing you all the best in this.
 
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This is really difficult isn't it? I am sure I've had this one before in similar circumstances, and I think it says something like, ok you are sincere and wounded, he is not doing the right thing by you in this relationship, you've come upon this, there is clarity that it's not your fault, but it's going to be extraordinarily difficult to make this fellow behave better or to get your relationship on the right track, and 24, look I don't really know, but it really seems to me the best thing is to rest and take care of yourself, you know sometimes if you suffer during the relationship, you don't have to suffer so much when it's over, it's just a glorious relief to be free, maybe whether you like it or not the thing is in a dying phase, it's all dark and cold and he's all cold and dark and all you can do right now is just hunker down, perhaps get some support and take good care of yourself, do everything you can for you and for your little one, so you can rise up in the spring of a new life ... I can see what the interpretations are saying above, that it might be a cycle that will pass, I guess in my experience this kind of situation usually doesn't improve, because we are only mere humans and it takes such herculean energy to fix a situation like this.
 

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