Need help interpreting 2 related castings

[rachkitty]

This March I found myself slowly attracted to a classmate. We have since graduated and have become closer as platonic friends. I had two questions for the I Ching:

1. What does he feel towards me?
Ans: 54 unchanging

2. How do I transform our friendship into a romance?
Ans: 14>51

It seems to me that the I Ching is suggesting that a friendship is better than a love relationship, or that he already has someone else in mind. Could anyone give a more in depth interpretation or correct me if my interpretation is wrong? Thank you!

 

[iams girl]

It seems to me that the I Ching is suggesting that a friendship is better than a love relationship

Hi rach,

or that friendship is the key?...

iams

 

[elias]

I'm something of a broken record on this: The IC talks to you about YOU. Even if you could see what's inside another's head (or heart), you wouldn't know what to do with the information.

Assuming 54 Marrying Maiden is speaking to you... there's a danger of throwing yourself away on something you want. Once you do this it is difficult, if not impossible, to ever re-balance the relationship. You will always be in a subordinate position, the "concubine" rather than the "wife."

14.2.3.6 is a bit more optimistic -- it's about making slow progress toward a goal. "If you truly possess a thing, it cannot be lost or destroyed. What we have gained-- the progress earned through our hard work -- cannot be lost, in spite of temporary setbacks" (Anthony).

Line 2: "A great wagon; when there is a place to go, there is no fault." Finding balance within yourself; when the time is right, situations change effortlessly.

Line 3: "The work of barons serves the son of heaven. Petty people cannot do this." Putting your energy into higher causes, rather than getting caught up in the day-to-day. A note of good fortune, assuming you are properly balanced. Otherwise, a sloppy mess... By some readings, a need to sacrifice something to which you are attached -- more often an idea or sentimental notion than a physical object -- in order to move ahead

Line 6: Help from Heaven!

51 Shock. The Unexpected may knock you out of your comfortable thought patterns and habitual responses. This is not necessarily a good or bad thing, but it is something that will make you grow.

So... of your potential relationship, there's not a clear answer. But you are on a growth path and will be a wiser stronger person for the experience.

 

[gnar]

Being slowly attracted to your classmate describes 54.

The lines in 14 > 51 describes your answer:

2 -- If there's a way, you can make it happen.
3 -- Trust in fate, god, gods, destiny. Let it come naturally.
6 -- Holy cow, you lucky person you!

51 -- Just keep calm, and take it easy. Don't worry too much or be scared, even if most people are scared.

Love can never be made, or forced to happen. I think you know this. Just enjoy it. I'm not sure why you are falling for him, maybe because both of you have something beautiful going on atm.

Cheers!

 

[rachkitty]

Thank you everyone who contributed to the interpretation, I do hope we could share a love relationship sometime, haven't seen him for 2 weeks

 

[precision grace]

Have you tried contacting him? Although I can see that would be tough when you have feelings for this guy, it can make us super self conscious and unable to act naturally.

 

[rachkitty]

Yes, I invited him out for a group activity on Sunday but he said he might have an appointment, it bothers me as well that he never mentions details about his appointment. I do admit I have a possessive streak; usually my friends casually drop the names of those they intend to meet if they have an appointment as well, it leaves me thinking that he is holding me at a distance each time he responded like this..:bag:

 

[precision grace]

could be he is seeing someone else

 

[rachkitty]

I thought so too..