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[TIZIRI77]

I write you in order to seek more information about a very complicated relashionship i had with my ex partner i love fór 20 years. He has was a friend for me before out friendship turbo to love one . There much respect in the begenning.He seduce mě And Felt in love with him .But je doesn t wants tout commit. I sale him frearful tout commit. But this was mot an obstacle for us to share an intense love for 2 years un 2008to 2010 .WE very close but mamy conflit appeared because of problèmes of trust. I have Always feat to lose his love because in 2007 He left mě fór And other woman with whom i lived a traumatic experience because of her infidelities.this affected much my trust fór him . He sám Aš his ONLY person He van trust . He told mě all about what He has lived with except that He has left mě fór her . He keeps hiding this But i continuer ouest relashionship with Big fear : leaving mě again with on other woman. I have sacrified all for him all. But mamy conflits still emerging between us leasing to his décision : breaking up on 2010. This still thé most horrible expérience for me because i still enable tout understand why thé lack of trust for him affect him much ať the point He can not best continue with me .the break up demain for 9 years . There was much struggles between us evryvtime i try to contact him And try réconciliation. Now things was very detetioting because i discoverded He alawys try to hyde his infidelities. I feel him spying mě and geting information about me even if he déclaré he wants distant from him. Many contradictory signáls preventing mě to understand what want from Aš i still love him much . But i AM very affected by his behavior infidelity lies. Hé Lost l trust for me because i try to get clarity from others. This spoil all the innocent love exsting between us. I still look for clarity even if hé keeps wanting me very distant And hiding many things.i consult much iching to get clarity But still inable tout understand why this relashionship don t World even all ours Big efforts. Today i asked 2 questions the furt one how should i behave towards my ex partenariat un order to know him more? I get hexagram 2.4.6 changing to 35
The second question : what are the chances of reconciliation between me and my ex partner x ?
I asked thèse question after somme phone Valls initiation by mě towards him leading to a new struggles .because i still express the lack of care and feel fearful to trust him again .
I want to trust him again But as hé keeps hiding many things not recognizing his infidélities that He seems regretting without aplogizing , this leafs to new struggles And fears . He continue spying me if i still don t trust him .
Please can you tell me more these hexagrams . If IT Is good to pravé him fór ever oř keep fight fór the rescue of this relashionship. I still ignore if he is with somone. I juste told me even i meet him accidently this last 30 april that He want ne alone but pose vidéo about an animal female mother who protects its kids from danger of death thé title of video He shared on his facebook page: the ONLY person who really sure not leaving whatever are bát your circonstances Is your mother.
Thanks for avance for your insights.

 

[liquidity]

2.4.6 Youthful Folly > 40 Liberation
.4: "The fourth line, magnetic, shows its subject as if bound in chains of ignorance. There will be occasion for regret.
.6: "The sixth line, dynamic, shows one smiting the ignorant youth. But no advantage will come from doing him an injury. Advantage would come from warding off injury from him.

(translations from Legge)

The I Ching is telling you that you are bound up in a deeply toxic relationship, and completely chained up by your own ignorance. Don't go any further into this.

Please, please go get therapy -- google "psychoanalytic institute <your city>" and call them and ask for a meeting. Your mind and heart have already been wounded, and are in serious danger unless you liberate (40) yourself from your ignorance of your own deep emotions.

 

[moss elk]

Youthful Folly

pssst.....
she got hex 2 not hex 4.

 

[moss elk]

I guess I need to ask:

Are you currently with him?
or
Are you just longing for him?

The reading counsels to limit things (line 4, communication..etc)
And to stop being too much of a doormat for him to walk on. (line 6)

It looks like things will Improve (35) for you by doing those things.
But maybe not in the way you are seeking.

 

[liquidity]

pssst.....
she got hex 2 not hex 4.

Lol, oops!! Thanks.

Let's try this again:

2.4.6 The Receptive > 35 Progress
.4: "The fourth line, magnetic, shows the symbol of a sack tied up. There will be no ground for blame or praise.
.6: "The sixth line, magnetic, shows dragons fighting in the wild. Their blood is purple and yellow.
(Legge)

This suggests paralysis -- you can't do much, and this is a very intense, turbulent, and painful, bloody relationship.

My advice about therapy stands .

 

[TIZIRI77]

Now i AM separated from me . He has left mě sice 2010.

 

[TIZIRI77]

Thank you fór your advice