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My question:
What do i do with the situation about my mother?
20.2.3.6 > 48
I suppose when I am unsure what to do, the best thing to do is to do nothing - to do the status quo. Deborah
Hi MinnesotaZen,
My reading is that you are being called on to exert spiritual leadership ~ real transformation ~ on behalf of yourself and your mother, and, by extension, all beings.
Here's the situation:
The Washer Machine Drawing
You and your mother are currently 'in the washer machine' on the left hand side together ~ historically entangled in a co-dependent relationship, which you are experiencing as toxic, and that you wish to change for the better: "What do i do with the situation about my mother?"
The Yi, imho, is saying that if you can get to the image on the right hand side, then your mother will follow your leadership and join you there ~ hence, changing the dynamic for the better. This transformation will not only work for your relationship with your mother, but can be generalized to all relationships.
Here's my take on the Yi's guidance:
Kuan (20) ~ the ideal meditation posture for Pure Presence ~ Observing "things as they are" ~ empathy originating in Source ~ which leads to True Compassion:
Line 2 ~ a failure to observe correctly ~ you are grasping and dwelling on objects in the stream of your thoughts ~ objects like your mother, the hurtful things she's said, past memories, etc ~ and thereby reanimating the hurt all over, again. This is you reflexively, electively, habitually, jumping into the washer machine, on cue, to validate your story about you and your mother. It is this act of grasping and dwelling that redirects your Source-based empathy (which is stable and insightful) through the filter of your perceived self-interest (which you know as emotional ups and downs) and results in the toxic experience of cyclic suffering.
Line 3 ~ observing correctly ~ from the terrace of the dharma, Kuan, you watch the stream of your thoughts and are neither attached nor indifferent to the Objects you see ~ knowing that everyone, including your mother, no matter how good or bad it may look, is doing the best they can ~ and allowing yourself to do the 'right' thing effortlessly.
Line 6 ~ Knowing the difference, in real life, between the mundane state of grasping and dwelling on objects in the stream of your thoughts and Pure Presence ~ and choosing wisely from moment to moment.
In this way, through correct observing, you will lift yourself out of the washer machine ~ like working a rope and bucket at a well ~ only *without* using your hands ~ to find the stable and clear ground of Peaceful Presence ~ showing your mother the Way by your example ~ and bringing about real transformation.
I think you would find 'The Untethered Soul' by Singer to be very helpful.
Many Blessings!
Clarity,
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London.
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