Need quick advice on romantic prospects 63.1.6 > 53

[liquidity]

Met someone at a museum completely randomly, chatted them up very casually — we are both there from out of town. They suggested at a certain natural point getting a drink with them and their friend.

I think it was clear I was interested in this person romantically but it’s hard to say for sure. Might not have been. They did suggest a drink with their friend, which is obviously not as romantic, but then again maybe they had already committed to that, and after all I am a total stranger and maybe they were being cautious.

Anyhow, I asked about prospects...
(Wilhelm Baynes translations)
63.1.6 after completion > 53 development
.1: He brakes his wheels. He gets his tail in the water. No blame.
.6:
He gets his head in the water. Danger.

The lines suggest complication but not misfortune... and 53 is positive for romance. Is this drink going to happen? Is anything more likely to happen, and what should my approach be in terms of my level of “leading it” as opposed to letting the other person take the lead?

 

[rosada]

I think of 63. After Completion as the time when some significant step has been completed and now it's focus on getting set up in the new circumstance. In your case I can see it referring to the fact that the new friend has invited you to share a drink so that is the initial hurdle that's been over come, completed, and now you are wondering what might be the progress, the 53. Gradual Development?

63.1 Slow down and stay realistic. It may be harder to make progress than you first thought - perhaps because of the other friend, or maybe this person lives at a distance? Maybe just means take it slow.
63.6 I've gotten 63.6 to indicate not making enough of an effort.

To put those lines together I see them as saying there may be some logistics to overcome so you might be inclined to just let the whole opportunity pass which I think would be a mistake.

I think this reading is encouraging you to continue to get to know this person.

 

[liquidity]

63.1 Slow down and stay realistic. It may be harder to make progress than you first thought - perhaps because of the other friend, or maybe this person lives at a distance? Maybe just means take it slow.
63.6 I've gotten 63.5 to indicate not making enough of an effort.

Awesome, thank you. On your last sentence are you referring to 63.6 or .5 though? I got .6, but you mention .5.

 

[rosada]

Your other questions about leading...
I think that's a whole other IChing consultation but given that this person has suggested you meet with them and their friend, you should play this first "date" as friends without romantic agenda - yet. Assume that you are all jolly friends and this is a chance to get to know each other a bit better before any other ideas are introduced.

 

[rosada]

Typo. I'll correct it now.

 

[liquidity]

Your other questions about leading...
I think that's a whole other IChing consultation but given that this person has suggested you meet with them and their friend, you should play this first "date" as friends without romantic agenda - yet. Assume that you are all jolly friends and this is a chance to get to know each other a bit better before any other ideas are introduced.

Excellent idea. Incidentally, following your thought of a separate cast, I asked:

Any advice about being more or less aggressive, more or less passive with this person?
27.1.6 Nourishment > 2 The Receptive
.1: "You let your magic tortoise go, and look at me with the corners of your mouth drooping. Misfortune.
.6: "The source of nourishment. Awareness of danger brings good fortune. It furthers one to cross the great water.
So, first, another .1 & .6 combo. Second, .1 seems to be saying "Don't look at me -- feel inside!" .6 seems to suggest both bravery and an awareness of risk.
But the whole relating hex is .2.
So I'm thinking overall the suggestion is: listen to (be receptive to) myself and the situation?

Any other thoughts?

 

[rosada]

27/2 Nourishment - Accepted.

27.1 Definitely don't let this opportunity pass you by!
27.6 Your enthusiasm is appropriate. Don't let The Rules about who should be the aggressor mess with your head. Let it be obvious that you are throughly enjoying the fun of being on a vacation, meeting new people, sharing stories etc. It doesn't have to go any further than this to be worth the effort.
2. I see this as a caution that you needn't try to guide things beyond this date. It can be a fun evening even if you decide you don't want to do more, but even so it can be a lively night out.

 

[liquidity]

27/2 Nourishment - Accepted.

27.1 Definitely don't let this opportunity pass you by!
27.6 Your enthusiasm is appropriate. Don't let The Rules about who should be the aggressor mess with your head. Let it be obvious that you are throughly enjoying the fun of being on a vacation, meeting new people, sharing stories etc. It doesn't have to go any further than this to be worth the effort.
2. I see this as a caution that you needn't try to guide things beyond this date. It can be a fun evening even if you decide you don't want to do more, but even so it can be a lively night out.

Wonderful, thanks . Much appreciated.

 

[liquidity]

27/2 Nourishment - Accepted.

27.1 Definitely don't let this opportunity pass you by!
27.6 Your enthusiasm is appropriate. Don't let The Rules about who should be the aggressor mess with your head. Let it be obvious that you are throughly enjoying the fun of being on a vacation, meeting new people, sharing stories etc. It doesn't have to go any further than this to be worth the effort.
2. I see this as a caution that you needn't try to guide things beyond this date. It can be a fun evening even if you decide you don't want to do more, but even so it can be a lively night out.

Just to give an update, it turns out the person couldn't make it tonight at all. Their friend came back very late from their commitment, and they had to eat dinner late, and this person is leaving tomorrow early morning on a trip, and so the whole thing just didn't work.

But the person was apologetic, and suggested meeting another time in my home city (they do travel relatively frequently). So perhaps it may well work out, but just not right now... I don't know. Maybe these are the difficulties mentioned in the 63.1.6 reading above.

I asked Yi what had happened with this and what was going to happen, and it replied:
49.1.2.5 Revolution > 32 Duration
.1: “Wrapped in the hide of a yellow cow.
.2: “When one's own day comes, one may create revolution. Starting brings good fortune. No blame.
.5: “The great man changes like a tiger. Even before he questions the oracle he is believed.
So perhaps we're locked into the .1/.2 part of a big change here... but seeds have been planted for grand change later (.5)?

 

[marybluesky]

Interesting! I had the same cast about my romantic prospects in next month a few days ago.

 

[Vinony]

I can answer that when I got 63, it scared me. But in the future it showed that one stage of my relationship is over and another begins (an excellent period at that time).